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I have thought about mounting the TV. But i tend to just watch the TV in the living room.

I know it doesn't seem that way online. But If there is one thing I am actually really good at is pretending at acting sociable and positive. :flail:The confidence part? That might need some work. lol My coworker never believes that I am antisocial. I even got good comments after my interviews. One person took the time to write me a long email and told me that they were impressed with my energy and liked me. But that they went with someone that had a master's degree. The email seemed sincere because he really didn't need to give me an explanation. Most departments send out an auto-reject email.

Whenever my real self cracks through at work it always shocks people. Work has been really bad these months so my real self has come out a few times, and my coworkers that I am close to get overly concerned and check on me. When really I just need my space during those times so I can shore up the energy to go back to pretending. Work has taught me that workplaces want people that are positive and a "team-player". Having to put on a front that I care and want to help EVERYONE really eats at me every day. I am not saying that I'm not a positive person, nor that I hate helping people. But forcing myself to act nice to people that I can't stand working with? That really gets to me sometimes. I am grateful for every job I have had. But I am hoping to eventually work somewhere that I feel appreciated, and don't feel like the person that everyone takes advantage of because I am kind. For the first time in my working experience, I had to start standing up for myself and putting a rude coworker in his place. This job has really eaten away at my confidence and self worth. Which is why i stopped posting on this thread. I didnt want to keep bringing my negativity into this place.
If it's any help, I feel exactly the same way, and I'm pretty sure everyone else does, too, if they admit their own true feelings. NO ONE likes being mistreated, taken advantage of, put down or undervalued. But a dear friend once complained that he was tired of being treated "like $%!^" to which I responded truthfully that EVERYONE is treated that way. In the present climate, it seems to pervade all of our dealings with others. I'm intensely social, intensely helpful, and love kind, compassionate, gentle, preferably-but-not-exclusively intelligent people, and see myself as a team player rather than a leader; but I have low tolerance for any of the above bad behavior and have had a lot of bad luck on jobs as a result. I love to work, work hard, and am loyal when given the chance. But today's climate does not reward those behaviors and actually makes it hard for people with that profile to survive in jobs where the majority are back-biting cliquey antisocial predators. Not an easy time to try to make a living! We go through what we have to to keep our loved ones and ourselves going, though; and we have to suck up a LOT. I know.
 

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If it's any help, I feel exactly the same way, and I'm pretty sure everyone else does, too, if they admit their own true feelings. NO ONE likes being mistreated, taken advantage of, put down or undervalued. But a dear friend once complained that he was tired of being treated "like $%!^" to which I responded truthfully that EVERYONE is treated that way. In the present climate, it seems to pervade all of our dealings with others. I'm intensely social, intensely helpful, and love kind, compassionate, gentle, preferably-but-not-exclusively intelligent people, and see myself as a team player rather than a leader; but I have low tolerance for any of the above bad behavior and have had a lot of bad luck on jobs as a result. I love to work, work hard, and am loyal when given the chance. But today's climate does not reward those behaviors and actually makes it hard for people with that profile to survive in jobs where the majority are back-biting cliquey antisocial predators. Not an easy time to try to make a living! We go through what we have to to keep our loved ones and ourselves going, though; and we have to suck up a LOT. I know.
Its people with the personality traits that you listed seem to be the ones that get taken advantage of. This is not an excuse, but I didn't start working until I was in my early 30s. It's pretty shocking to see how awful people can be to someone that tries to be genuinely kind. i got lucky with my first two jobs. I had amazing coworkers that supportive and kind to me. It made me want to give my entire effort to those jobs. The job I am at right now is full of gossip and negativity and since people like me, they try to pull me into the negativity. I have also had to push myself to stand up for myself. I was asked to do two jobs for a few months and the director I was helping is lazy and hates to work. Loves delegating and giving out work. A new person started that took over the job I was helping with and he was expecting me to keep going in and taking care of things while the new employee is learning. I had to let him know that my own task left was to train her, but he had to step in and take care of whatever she couldn't do.

It took me a long time to stand up for myself. My coworkers had to push me to find my voice at work. My boss that left told me i shouldn't just put up with things and stay silent, which is what I was doing. He let me know he would support me and I didn't have to put up with the director's rude behavior. We now have a new boss and hopefully, she will be kind too.

Update on Kitty: It does seem she has early stages of kidney issues. I am not sure what to do, and I get conflicting advice from my vet vs what I read online. I posted a thread to try to get advice. :sigh:
 

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Its people with the personality traits that you listed seem to be the ones that get taken advantage of. This is not an excuse, but I didn't start working until I was in my early 30s. It's pretty shocking to see how awful people can be to someone that tries to be genuinely kind. i got lucky with my first two jobs. I had amazing coworkers that supportive and kind to me. It made me want to give my entire effort to those jobs. The job I am at right now is full of gossip and negativity and since people like me, they try to pull me into the negativity. I have also had to push myself to stand up for myself. I was asked to do two jobs for a few months and the director I was helping is lazy and hates to work. Loves delegating and giving out work. A new person started that took over the job I was helping with and he was expecting me to keep going in and taking care of things while the new employee is learning. I had to let him know that my own task left was to train her, but he had to step in and take care of whatever she couldn't do.

It took me a long time to stand up for myself. My coworkers had to push me to find my voice at work. My boss that left told me i shouldn't just put up with things and stay silent, which is what I was doing. He let me know he would support me and I didn't have to put up with the director's rude behavior. We now have a new boss and hopefully, she will be kind too.

Update on Kitty: It does seem she has early stages of kidney issues. I am not sure what to do, and I get conflicting advice from my vet vs what I read online. I posted a thread to try to get advice. :sigh:
One thing I would ask up front is whether Kitty is a candidate for sub-Q therapy, which you can easily be trained to administer in-home. Probably early for this, but just saying. Just FYI, cats being obligate carnivores are at high risk for this. I have never used any Rx foods for my cats, since I think they're garbage and a lot of cats do, too; they won't touch the stuff. That's my opinion and observation; others' may differ.
One job I had differed very much from the norm in that the business owner and second in command valued me, rewarded me, praised and supported me. That was so unusual! I've never forgotten the good treatment I had there. The owner was highly intelligent, with a genius son who used to come in and mess around with my computer 🤣:eek2: and then leave.
 

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One thing I would ask up front is whether Kitty is a candidate for sub-Q therapy, which you can easily be trained to administer in-home. Probably early for this, but just saying. Just FYI, cats being obligate carnivores are at high risk for this. I have never used any Rx foods for my cats, since I think they're garbage and a lot of cats do, too; they won't touch the stuff. That's my opinion and observation; others' may differ.
One job I had differed very much from the norm in that the business owner and second in command valued me, rewarded me, praised and supported me. That was so unusual! I've never forgotten the good treatment I had there. The owner was highly intelligent, with a genius son who used to come in and mess around with my computer 🤣:eek2: and then leave.
I will ask, but I dread having to use a needle on Kitty. I hated when my mom asked me to do her insulin shots. :headshake:

I looked up how it was done and it looked scary for the cat. :confused2: I will ask anyway just in case.

I have never used RX foods, and have been cooking their food for years. I only used canned food for the first couple of years. Kitty eats cooked chicken with a powder added to give all the vitamins needed. I add an extra 1/4 cup of water (2 times a day) to her food. My vet recommended that I don't change her diet.
 

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I will ask, but I dread having to use a needle on Kitty. I hated when my mom asked me to do her insulin shots. :headshake:

I looked up how it was done and it looked scary for the cat. :confused2: I will ask anyway just in case.

I have never used RX foods, and have been cooking their food for years. I only used canned food for the first couple of years. Kitty eats cooked chicken with a powder added to give all the vitamins needed. I add an extra 1/4 cup of water (2 times a day) to her food. My vet recommended that I don't change her diet.
*If it works, don't fix it* right? ;):clap:Sounds like a good diet.
Sub-Q is not difficult and it does not seem to cause a lot of distress. I always put our angel Moti in a top-loading carrier on top of the bathroom counter and hung the sub-Q bag on a hanger, which I hung on the shower frame across from the counter. This works great if your bathroom is configured this way. The top-loading carrier helps keep the cat stationery and I think it can help them to be calm since they're in a "box" which is reassuring to a lot of cats. Just slide the needle in, unclip the flow and let it go until you reach the proper dose, then clip, and slide the needle out. Very simple. It may help, if you need to do this, to tell yourself that it is for her health and wellbeing, and just put that priority in front of any other concerns. What matters is her health and her comfort. That's what sub-Q gives.
 

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*If it works, don't fix it* right? ;):clap:Sounds like a good diet.
Sub-Q is not difficult and it does not seem to cause a lot of distress. I always put our angel Moti in a top-loading carrier on top of the bathroom counter and hung the sub-Q bag on a hanger, which I hung on the shower frame across from the counter. This works great if your bathroom is configured this way. The top-loading carrier helps keep the cat stationery and I think it can help them to be calm since they're in a "box" which is reassuring to a lot of cats. Just slide the needle in, unclip the flow and let it go until you reach the proper dose, then clip, and slide the needle out. Very simple. It may help, if you need to do this, to tell yourself that it is for her health and wellbeing, and just put that priority in front of any other concerns. What matters is her health and her comfort. That's what sub-Q gives.
that doesn't sound too bad. Let me reach out to my vet to see if he recommends starting now. thank you!
 
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