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Been having a weird situation at work. A girl left because she works with the clinical director. I am helping in her place since she left without notice. Word around the office is that she got sick of dealing with him, she asked for a raise and they laughed in her face. Lots of crazy stories that no one knows what is true. But one thing I do know is that everyone hates the clinical director. I have one faculty member tells me that she will help me but she won't do anything for him. Another one told me my boss needs to learn how to do his job (after I asked this faculty for help.) I hear from everyone else all the things that he has done. Not sure what to believe.

Before i learned of all of this i didn't really like him. He tends to smile with his teeth only. I sensed he was two-faced. Now that i am helping him i see how the things he does don't add up. He tells me he will handle all the student issues. But then i see him emailing the students telling them to reach out to me for help instead of him. He has no idea what this girl was doing, and he seems to be trying. He says all the right things but even though he did one training meeting with me. He hasn't gone in and actually used the two softwares we are learning about.

And even though he was confused after the meeting he seemed to think that I would pick up on how to use the software once. I keep telling him I won't learn so fast after a quick training. And he straight up told me that I have to learn how to use the software programs fast because he will be too busy to do anything. But then he also tells me that he will help me and to not stress out. I have told him that i don't learn well when someone teaches me something verbally, but he keeps talking for an hour and seems confused jumping from topic to topic.

I am just helping but he acts like im his assistant. We had to send evaluations to a hospital and instead of figuring out how to do it himself, after work hours he kept texting me and the faculty for help. I ignored him and so did the faculty member. He then had the faculty do it first thing in the morning. He loves asking other people to do things for him. Instead of going into the software and calling e-value for help.

I've told my boss how pushy he is being but my boss just tells me to do the training. My boss told me the clinical director has no idea what he is doing, and he had no clue what his assistant is doing. But I don't think my boss cares because he is leaving for another job.

Today I was trying to help a girl because the clinical director kept pushing her off on me. Another faculty member had to spend two hours with me figuring out all the steps to get her cleared for her rotations. I think he felt bad because he saw that i was close to crying. Even he was confused with all the different steps you have to remember and we called their helpline 3 times. You guys know I suffer from anxiety and mental health issues that I never addressed. This entire situation makes me feel lost and unstable. I have never felt this way with any other boss.

The job the girl had paid well and would be a pay bump. But I am already feeling anxious after a few weeks. I don't know if I want to be stuck with this guy for 2 years. I hate being trained by someone that has no idea what he is talking about. And having to watch my back because of everything I am hearing. But at the same time, it is scary to think about losing out on a chance like this.

This is the first time I have genuinely disliked a coworker. I dread thinking he will show up at my cubicle and start talking in circles. My boss is only around part-time and doesn't really care about the mess in the office.

Anyway just wrote in because i feel conflicted about all of this. I'm not the best at speaking up in life.
(Sorta) Been there done that. One boss was so antisocial that a LOT of people left and that boss finally got investigated to find out why. I was gone from there by then so I don't know what happened with him, but he was definitely a big problem.
Another job I had, a new girl was hired. I was Asst. to the VP and she was hired to be the Asst. to the Pres. She started out real quiet and sweet and in no time was lording it over everyone, treating me like her slave gopher, and having people fired. I was the last one that I know of. She stole a sweater of mine, and my black book. I went to the Pres. about it and he said no way are you getting them back or working here again. She was a barracuda.
My dad worked for years under a similar type boss -- VERY unpleasant.
Really sad that people like that don't get attitude adjustment and written up like three strikes, you're history.
 

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(Sorta) Been there done that. One boss was so antisocial that a LOT of people left and that boss finally got investigated to find out why. I was gone from there by then so I don't know what happened with him, but he was definitely a big problem.
Another job I had, a new girl was hired. I was Asst. to the VP and she was hired to be the Asst. to the Pres. She started out real quiet and sweet and in no time was lording it over everyone, treating me like her slave gopher, and having people fired. I was the last one that I know of. She stole a sweater of mine, and my black book. I went to the Pres. about it and he said no way are you getting them back or working here again. She was a barracuda.
My dad worked for years under a similar type boss -- VERY unpleasant.
Really sad that people like that don't get attitude adjustment and written up like three strikes, you're history.
That is crazy. I can't believe she got away with all of that. I had never experienced anything like this before. I had no idea people like this get away with things. Why are companies defending people like that? My boss knows the girl left because of the clinical director, and I told him about the issues I am having. His advice is for me to deal with it by sticking up for myself, or to just become friends with him. I am still shocked he told me that. After the clinical director was rushing me to learn faster I told both him and my boss that im not going to learn everything in a 30 minute training session. You know what my boss tells me? To just do more trainings. When its not even my job to take care of the clinical side of out department. The clinical director should be the one dealing with all of this.
 

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That is crazy. I can't believe she got away with all of that. I had never experienced anything like this before. I had no idea people like this get away with things. Why are companies defending people like that? My boss knows the girl left because of the clinical director, and I told him about the issues I am having. His advice is for me to deal with it by sticking up for myself, or to just become friends with him. I am still shocked he told me that. After the clinical director was rushing me to learn faster I told both him and my boss that im not going to learn everything in a 30 minute training session. You know what my boss tells me? To just do more trainings. When its not even my job to take care of the clinical side of out department. The clinical director should be the one dealing with all of this.
My friend, that is Life Lesson 101 and I learned it at my parents' knees. My mother's brother was hit-and-runned and died after 9 months in the hospital with a broken back. The killer was known but never did one day in prison or suffered any other form of punitive action for killing a child and depriving a family of part of its income (he was struck while doing his paper route). I won't even start on my father's side of the family and the things they endured! While nominally "the land of the free" in reality, stuff like this is all part of how life goes for some of us.
I was also paid far less in the job where my co-worker got me fired than a newbie I helped train. Why? I think you can figure it out. I did several times the work, but the only thanks I got for it was more work.
 

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I don't get why they do this either. It's a good way to lose quality people.
Its definitely increased my desire to leave. I still cant believe my boss told me to become friends with the guy that makes people leave.

My friend, that is Life Lesson 101 and I learned it at my parents' knees. My mother's brother was hit-and-runned and died after 9 months in the hospital with a broken back. The killer was known but never did one day in prison or suffered any other form of punitive action for killing a child and depriving a family of part of its income (he was struck while doing his paper route). I won't even start on my father's side of the family and the things they endured! While nominally "the land of the free" in reality, stuff like this is all part of how life goes for some of us.
I was also paid far less in the job where my co-worker got me fired than a newbie I helped train. Why? I think you can figure it out. I did several times the work, but the only thanks I got for it was more work.
Im so sorry about your uncle. Thats terrible. :alright:

Ive never had to be in a toxic work environment so this is a first for me. i just hope i can find something soon.
 

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Been up since 2:00 am. Had a weird cough attack ( i have general allergies and Eosinophilic esophagitis, so coughing is normal.) I got up ate some ricola and drank some water. I went to lie down and when i would breathe out i could hear a snoring sound coming from my chest. Ive been so freaked out that I cant sleep. My breathing is fine.

A few months ago I went to the ER with shortness of breath and everything was fine. My lungs were fine. My allergies have even improved because i got rid of my air purifier (which was making things worse oddly enough.) And im using flonase.

I might go to the Dr tomorrow. I am hoping my allergies haven't come back. I have this awful fear of dying suffocated. My mother died of pancreatic cancer. One time she woke up complaining that she couldn't breathe. She had fluid in her lungs and had to be intubated. I still remember seeing her with tubes down her throat. So I am up crying at 4:30 am remembering her fear and panic. Since my breathing is fine I am going to work tomorrow but might leave early to go to the dr.

I have calmed down because I can actually breathe. But I do get breathless if I lie down. I am hoping my allergies arent making a comeback after I have had so many months of feeling great. I know its not good for me to have the cats in my room, but Flonase has been helping tremendously. I rarely even get an itchy nose anymore. I do get breathless, but that could be anxiety.

Anyway, just writing here because everyone i know is asleep and i was freaking out.
 

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Been up since 2:00 am. Had a weird cough attack ( i have general allergies and Eosinophilic esophagitis, so coughing is normal.) I got up ate some ricola and drank some water. I went to lie down and when i would breathe out i could hear a snoring sound coming from my chest. Ive been so freaked out that I cant sleep. My breathing is fine.

A few months ago I went to the ER with shortness of breath and everything was fine. My lungs were fine. My allergies have even improved because i got rid of my air purifier (which was making things worse oddly enough.) And im using flonase.

I might go to the Dr tomorrow. I am hoping my allergies haven't come back. I have this awful fear of dying suffocated. My mother died of pancreatic cancer. One time she woke up complaining that she couldn't breathe. She had fluid in her lungs and had to be intubated. I still remember seeing her with tubes down her throat. So I am up crying at 4:30 am remembering her fear and panic. Since my breathing is fine I am going to work tomorrow but might leave early to go to the dr.

I have calmed down because I can actually breathe. But I do get breathless if I lie down. I am hoping my allergies arent making a comeback after I have had so many months of feeling great. I know its not good for me to have the cats in my room, but Flonase has been helping tremendously. I rarely even get an itchy nose anymore. I do get breathless, but that could be anxiety.

Anyway, just writing here because everyone i know is asleep and i was freaking out.
*PRAYERS* for your health and for you to be strong. May that never happen to you again!
 

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Thank you both. I have been feeling better. The doctor prescribed me an inhaler in case it happens again. I might head to a specialist to see if they can help me better.

For the first time in years (about 10 years) i am going on vacation. I feel nervous because my sister in law will look after my cats. They havent been without me before. So theyll be on their own for 3 days (with my sister in law checking in once a day.) I am nervous that theyll be scared and lonely. But at the same time itll be nice to finally do something for myself. My sister in law can walk by my bedroom window, when shes outside with the kids and look in on them throughout the day.
 

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Thank you both. I have been feeling better. The doctor prescribed me an inhaler in case it happens again. I might head to a specialist to see if they can help me better.

For the first time in years (about 10 years) i am going on vacation. I feel nervous because my sister in law will look after my cats. They havent been without me before. So theyll be on their own for 3 days (with my sister in law checking in once a day.) I am nervous that theyll be scared and lonely. But at the same time itll be nice to finally do something for myself. My sister in law can walk by my bedroom window, when shes outside with the kids and look in on them throughout the day.
May it all go well! May you enjoy your time and may your sweet cats be safe, well cared for, and comfortable.
 
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