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I wanted to give this it's own post. I don't really know why, but it seemed better than make the other one into a book. Something happened this morning and I don't know where to go now.
So we were woken up to loud screeching. I've never heard them make a noise like that. It sounded like Ember, but it's the loudest I've ever heard from her. And it went on basically until I could get out in the hall, so of course it was over before I actually got there. But they were all three in the hallway and dining room with Ember and Ash growling at each other. Of course, food solved it instantly and there was very little tension left after that, but there were actually drops of urine scattered across the floor. That's a first. I would think between that and the sheer loudness of it all, it was bad and would take time to get over, but no. The second I had the treat bag in my hands, it was as if nothing had happened. They sniffed noises and were totally fine. Now I take that as a good sign that they're in a good place. But my mom doesn't think the same way.
Basically, she seems to think they're fighting all the time when we're gone and that that's the cause of every issue we have, including Ash's knotting/losing fur. Which doesn't make sense to me. I think I know these cats pretty well and I know how they act when they're having a tough time. That's not just going to suddenly change. If they were fighting that much we would have heard something because they've never avoided fighting with us here before and they wouldn't want anything to do with each other. Not to mention when that does result in fur flying, it's large, loose tufts, not these tiny bits of matted fur. And it's not going to cause these matts he's been getting. I literally pull a tuft of fur off of him and an hour later there's another. But no fights.
For some reason, this conversation changed from being about his matts to his UTIs. Which, I admit, her attacking him could cause those. But it could also be the other way around. We don't know. He's been getting these for a long time and he's prone to them. Whether or not he's being attacked isn't going to change that. He'd still probably end up getting them one way or another. But for some reason Ember has made my mom's life miserable even though Ash is the one costing all the money and not just because of UTIs that may or may not be related to be attacked.
Anyway, she said Ember needs a new home. I'm hoping this was out of the frustration of waking up to that this morning and she doesn't actually intend on going through with it, but I can't afford to have another fight break out any time soon. I feel like we're actually making some real progress now rather than just getting stuck in cycles. Ember is getting braver and more confident. There are actual noticeable signs. Instead of just breaking the cycle of attacking, I'm hoping we've broken the cycle of her lack of confidence.
But I don't know what to do. How can I avoid fights and make it so there's no chance they're fighting while we're gone? I already know they aren't since I did sit here all day yesterday and we're home most of the weekends, but I have to convince my mom of that even while she thinks I'm just trying to protect Ember. Lock Ember in my room all day? I hate to do it for something she isn't doing, but it seems better than rehoming her. And I probably am going to make a new thread for it. I need all the options available.
So we were woken up to loud screeching. I've never heard them make a noise like that. It sounded like Ember, but it's the loudest I've ever heard from her. And it went on basically until I could get out in the hall, so of course it was over before I actually got there. But they were all three in the hallway and dining room with Ember and Ash growling at each other. Of course, food solved it instantly and there was very little tension left after that, but there were actually drops of urine scattered across the floor. That's a first. I would think between that and the sheer loudness of it all, it was bad and would take time to get over, but no. The second I had the treat bag in my hands, it was as if nothing had happened. They sniffed noises and were totally fine. Now I take that as a good sign that they're in a good place. But my mom doesn't think the same way.
Basically, she seems to think they're fighting all the time when we're gone and that that's the cause of every issue we have, including Ash's knotting/losing fur. Which doesn't make sense to me. I think I know these cats pretty well and I know how they act when they're having a tough time. That's not just going to suddenly change. If they were fighting that much we would have heard something because they've never avoided fighting with us here before and they wouldn't want anything to do with each other. Not to mention when that does result in fur flying, it's large, loose tufts, not these tiny bits of matted fur. And it's not going to cause these matts he's been getting. I literally pull a tuft of fur off of him and an hour later there's another. But no fights.
For some reason, this conversation changed from being about his matts to his UTIs. Which, I admit, her attacking him could cause those. But it could also be the other way around. We don't know. He's been getting these for a long time and he's prone to them. Whether or not he's being attacked isn't going to change that. He'd still probably end up getting them one way or another. But for some reason Ember has made my mom's life miserable even though Ash is the one costing all the money and not just because of UTIs that may or may not be related to be attacked.
Anyway, she said Ember needs a new home. I'm hoping this was out of the frustration of waking up to that this morning and she doesn't actually intend on going through with it, but I can't afford to have another fight break out any time soon. I feel like we're actually making some real progress now rather than just getting stuck in cycles. Ember is getting braver and more confident. There are actual noticeable signs. Instead of just breaking the cycle of attacking, I'm hoping we've broken the cycle of her lack of confidence.
But I don't know what to do. How can I avoid fights and make it so there's no chance they're fighting while we're gone? I already know they aren't since I did sit here all day yesterday and we're home most of the weekends, but I have to convince my mom of that even while she thinks I'm just trying to protect Ember. Lock Ember in my room all day? I hate to do it for something she isn't doing, but it seems better than rehoming her. And I probably am going to make a new thread for it. I need all the options available.