As others have stated, that is abuse. A lot of people think you have to be physically injured for a situation to count as being domestically violent or abusive, but that is simply not true. It is emotional and psychological abuse and a form of partner intimidation.Elphaba09 I am not exactly a victim of abuse with him , he just screams at me and breaks things when he is drunk and upset . my name is on the lease and we sign it both each time we renew the lease . thank you for letting me know i could message you , i might just do that !
My ex-husband was like this when we started dating when I was 16 and did not become physically abusive until we were in our mid-30s. I came from an abusive family, so his lack of true physical abuse made me overlook everything else he did. That and the fact that no one ever told me that these behaviors were abusive.
When the physical abuse started, it was sudden and extremely violent. The first time he ever hurt me, he caused hairline fractures in my skull and choked me to unconsciousness three times. He also tried to throw me over the half-wall that led into our stairs, but he was, thankfully, too drunk and too tired from attacking me for nearly two hours that he could not get me over the edge. (I was unconscious at the time and my dead weight added to the difficulty. Sadly, I know this because my children saw him do it.)
I made excuses for him because he had gone all those years without laying a hand on me. He "only" threw things, broke things, and yelled at me. I blamed his recent increase in drinking. His stress at work. Myself. Things only got worse from there. (Being drunk/high is never an excuse for DV. People who abuse while drunk or high are still abusers and responsible for their actions.)
Please, take a look at the Power and Control Wheel image I am including. Does any of it would like your situation? I am guessing it does since you have already described some of the things listed. This is abuse.
I mean it about DMing me. If you do not feel comfortable doing that for whatever reason, please, contact any of the people here who know you. Anyone. It is not going to get better.
*This wheel uses woman-centered language because it includes the concept of male privilege and how it can be used in abusive relationships. Anyone can be a victim of abuse.