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I'm glad it's more peaceful in your new place! I know you're already short on room, but would an air filter help with the smell, maybe?

That is a lot of medicine, but I'm hopeful your health will improve the longer you're out of that stressful situation and maybe it won't be permanent.
 

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Glad things are mostly going well.

It's great that your brother isn't asking for rent. Being able to save money will help you reach your goal of your own place.

The musty smell is a bit of a concern, especially since you can't open the window. Maybe you could find a removable screen at Amazon that would work: Amazon.com : removable window screen

Still have my fingers crossed that you get the new job. :crossfingers:

And about the meds, like Lari Lari , maybe once your heath improves, you'll be able to lower dosage, or even eliminate some of them.
 

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I will do that, thank you!

So far i have had three interviews. But they told me the process can take long.



Thats true. I just wonder if departments i apply for will call him even though i put not to contact my boss. lol


Still no luck with finding a job. But i will continue trying. The kitties are happy. They just dont like when i stay away from the room too long. lol



I decided not to tell him. Not worth the risk as you mentioned.

It does feel like my mom is watching over me. Just miss having her around. So many things would be different if she were still here.



I'm sorry i havent been posting. I am still trying to get my things over here and trying to find a way to fit everything i need in my small room. My car is small so i cant bring over everything so fast.

Things are going well. There havent been any problems. I get to spend more time with my nieces and nephew. I offered my brother to pay rent or help in any way i could. He told me to save up my money. So he is being very kind to me.

The only negative is the cats being stuck in such a tiny bedroom. My old room has an issue that it didnt have a couple of years back. Theres this odd musty/dusty smell. The windows were opened for a few days. The floor cleaned with bleach. I even dusted and sprayed disinfectant on the walls with a wet rag.

I cannot get the smell to go away. It even gets on my towel. Makes me sick to my stomach. I cant even air out the room anymore since the window doesnt have a screen. I was told the ac was leaking while i was away. But the ac systems are now new. But perhaps the water caused some kind of issue.

Thankfully thats the only issue i am having. Everything has been peaceful here.

I had a doctors appointment yesterday. They had to increase my BP meds. I was put on two different medications to control my sugar. They put me on cholesterol meds. Not to mention the hormone meds i am already on. I hate having to take all these medications. So thats been stressing me out. These meds help you. while also causing damage.
Good to hear from you and thanks for the progress report, terestrife terestrife -- sounds like you're doing really, really well. Keep your mom in your mind and heart and keep your Prayer up -- it really, really helps and is so needed in these times. Put all your Trust in Him. And know your mom is definitely looking on you and protecting you and guiding you.
I have read that coffee grounds soak up smells. There are also products readymade that you can buy (search "odor-soaking products" for many links) that help with this. Some people also recommend de-humidifiers if it is a musty smell.
Praying for you and thinking of you all!:vibes::vibes::vibes::vibes::vibes::cheerleader:
 

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I'm glad it's more peaceful in your new place! I know you're already short on room, but would an air filter help with the smell, maybe?

That is a lot of medicine, but I'm hopeful your health will improve the longer you're out of that stressful situation and maybe it won't be permanent.
I do have an air purifier, and its next to my door where my towel is and the smell still got on the towel.

However, i just bought a product called Damprid and the smell is gone after just a few days! I am so relieved, the smell was making me sick.

I do hope my health improves, i admit to using food for comfort, and the medicine i am on causes hunger. So that makes things worse, and the weight gain has worsened my health. I have started exercising, just need to figure out how to fix up my diet and stop turning to food when i am stressed.

Glad things are mostly going well.

It's great that your brother isn't asking for rent. Being able to save money will help you reach your goal of your own place.

The musty smell is a bit of a concern, especially since you can't open the window. Maybe you could find a removable screen at Amazon that would work: Amazon.com : removable window screen

Still have my fingers crossed that you get the new job. :crossfingers:

And about the meds, like Lari Lari , maybe once your heath improves, you'll be able to lower dosage, or even eliminate some of them.
I still havent heard anything from the 3 interviews i did. They said it could take a while to find out. :(

Thankfully the smell is finally gone. Thanks for the link! It looks like a good product. My brother wants to put window screens. But money is tight, and he is slowly updating his home. The window screens should be put in place eventually.

Good to hear from you and thanks for the progress report, terestrife terestrife -- sounds like you're doing really, really well. Keep your mom in your mind and heart and keep your Prayer up -- it really, really helps and is so needed in these times. Put all your Trust in Him. And know your mom is definitely looking on you and protecting you and guiding you.
I have read that coffee grounds soak up smells. There are also products readymade that you can buy (search "odor-soaking products" for many links) that help with this. Some people also recommend de-humidifiers if it is a musty smell.
Praying for you and thinking of you all!:vibes::vibes::vibes::vibes::vibes::cheerleader:
Yes, i used a product that absorbs smells. I can finally spend time in my room. lol i was avoiding the room because of the smell. I felt bad having the kitties in there. Thankfully no one is getting allergies with the kitties in my room. My brother doesnt complain as he never sees them.

Everything is peaceful here. My sister in law is putting effort into making me feel welcome. Its nice to live with someone that i can communicate with and i dont feel dismissed.

My sister in law has started taking care of my nephew (the one i lived with that harassed my cats.) Guess what? All the behavior issues that i tried warning my niece about have become a problem. She didnt bother teaching him how to treat the cats, and now he is using that behavior against other children.

My brother has 3 kids (10 y/o, 2 y/o, 1 y/o.) He ended up throwing a tablet and hitting the 1 y/o on the shoulder. It barely missed her face. He doesnt listen, throws things, and hits them with things. Everything that i warned her he was doing to the cats. Now she considers it a big deal and is trying to discipline him. Half heartedly...

I feel guilty criticizing her as shes a new mom. But after how she acted with the cats, i dont feel too bad for her. i do feel bad for my nephew, as none of this is his fault. But he is so spoiled, he doesnt listen to anything. He runs away when you call him to you. He throws a tantrum for everything.

Dont get me wrong, he has a very sweet side to him. But she is creating an angry and aggressive child. Shes so stubborn she wont listen, and she has her mom in her ear telling her hes normal.
 

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I'm glad the smell is gone!

Your poor nephew. It's normal for small children to push limits to see what they can get away with, but they're looking for boundaries. Your niece isn't serving him well at all.
 

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I do have an air purifier, and its next to my door where my towel is and the smell still got on the towel.

However, i just bought a product called Damprid and the smell is gone after just a few days! I am so relieved, the smell was making me sick.

I do hope my health improves, i admit to using food for comfort, and the medicine i am on causes hunger. So that makes things worse, and the weight gain has worsened my health. I have started exercising, just need to figure out how to fix up my diet and stop turning to food when i am stressed.



I still havent heard anything from the 3 interviews i did. They said it could take a while to find out. :(

Thankfully the smell is finally gone. Thanks for the link! It looks like a good product. My brother wants to put window screens. But money is tight, and he is slowly updating his home. The window screens should be put in place eventually.



Yes, i used a product that absorbs smells. I can finally spend time in my room. lol i was avoiding the room because of the smell. I felt bad having the kitties in there. Thankfully no one is getting allergies with the kitties in my room. My brother doesnt complain as he never sees them.

Everything is peaceful here. My sister in law is putting effort into making me feel welcome. Its nice to live with someone that i can communicate with and i dont feel dismissed.

My sister in law has started taking care of my nephew (the one i lived with that harassed my cats.) Guess what? All the behavior issues that i tried warning my niece about have become a problem. She didnt bother teaching him how to treat the cats, and now he is using that behavior against other children.

My brother has 3 kids (10 y/o, 2 y/o, 1 y/o.) He ended up throwing a tablet and hitting the 1 y/o on the shoulder. It barely missed her face. He doesnt listen, throws things, and hits them with things. Everything that i warned her he was doing to the cats. Now she considers it a big deal and is trying to discipline him. Half heartedly...

I feel guilty criticizing her as shes a new mom. But after how she acted with the cats, i dont feel too bad for her. i do feel bad for my nephew, as none of this is his fault. But he is so spoiled, he doesnt listen to anything. He runs away when you call him to you. He throws a tantrum for everything.

Dont get me wrong, he has a very sweet side to him. But she is creating an angry and aggressive child. Shes so stubborn she wont listen, and she has her mom in her ear telling her hes normal.
Thanks god your cats are in a safe environment and that you and they are getting along well there. Very glad about the Damprid working.
Kids are blank slates. What else can they be? It's up to their guardians to raise them and teach them. I have no sympathy or empathy for anyone who treats cats with anything but respect and love and gentleness. But kids have to be taught about these values/behaviors. Your nephew is obviously not being taught them. But it's not your problem. I'd stay as far away from all of them as possible. They are nothing but bad news, family or not. I am estranged from my mom's side of the family because they are bad news. Not my fault. Theirs. Learning lessons the hard way doesn't mean they aren't learned, once and for all.
 

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I'm glad the smell is gone!

Your poor nephew. It's normal for small children to push limits to see what they can get away with, but they're looking for boundaries. Your niece isn't serving him well at all.
Its odd. We all keep telling him to not push and he just keeps doing it. Everyone is trying to be consistent and we tell him no as soon as he does it. He keeps pushing and throwing things. He'll shove my 1 year old niece as he runs around, or tries to push past her to get to a toy/slide first.

Not sure how we are going to get him to listen, and i just hope my niece really is reinforcing things at home.

Thanks god your cats are in a safe environment and that you and they are getting along well there. Very glad about the Damprid working.
Kids are blank slates. What else can they be? It's up to their guardians to raise them and teach them. I have no sympathy or empathy for anyone who treats cats with anything but respect and love and gentleness. But kids have to be taught about these values/behaviors. Your nephew is obviously not being taught them. But it's not your problem. I'd stay as far away from all of them as possible. They are nothing but bad news, family or not. I am estranged from my mom's side of the family because they are bad news. Not my fault. Theirs. Learning lessons the hard way doesn't mean they aren't learned, once and for all.
My nephew comes over here three times a week. So i still have to see his bad behavior. My niece is working 3 days a week, I feel bad for my nephew, and worry he will struggle in school. But his mom is the one that needs to change her ways. She doesnt listen, and she has her ridiculous mom in her ear telling her theres nothing wrong with him. I've never seen a child that doesnt listen like this. That does nothing but push, hit, and throw things. Throw tantrums for everything. I do mostly stay in my room so i wont need to see the bad behavior.

Still feel a bit down. I dont know if its the medicine i am on, but i still get annoyed easily. I am happy here, so i dont know what else can be causing it. My niece talks so much and asks so many questions. I last for a while, but i eventually tell her shes making me dizzy. I want to spend time with her because this is an important period in her life. She's 10 years old, this is the time where you need to stay close to make sure they arent losing their way. I get a headache sometimes just hearing her chatter. She wants to spend time with me, which is a good thing. But all she wants to watch are things that i have no interest in. On top of that she talks throughout the entire movie. I used to have patience for her quirks and found them humorous.

I also get annoyed with the cats just wanting affection. I pet them and spend time with them. But there are times i dont want anyone even near me or touching me. I didnt used to be this way. I wasnt a very touchy feely person, but i wouldnt get upset like this. Not sure how to force myself to try to be more patient with everyone. I put in effort, but i always get to the point that i need to separate myself to avoid getting too upset.

Not sure whats wrong. I was never THIS impatient. I had my bad days like anyone else. But this is a constant thing.

Anyway, I've been going through some old things, and donating old things that i dont need. I am struggling with letting go. I have the last purse my mom used, and a purse that she bought me. I dont use either one anymore. I need to make space. And yet i struggle to let go of something so simple.
 

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Does everyone tell your nephew "don't hit" and "don't throw", because I've heard some kids will just hear/focus on the last word spoken, so it's more likely to get through if you say what you want them to do instead, like "gentle hands."

I can't blame you for having trouble getting rid of things you don't use that have sentimental value.
 

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Still feel a bit down. I dont know if its the medicine i am on, but i still get annoyed easily.
Certainly could be the meds. Have you Googled them to see what side effects are common.

My niece talks so much and asks so many questions. I last for a while, but i eventually tell her shes making me dizzy.
Wait a couple years, and you'll be begging her to put her phone down and talk to you for a minute. ;)

Anyway, I've been going through some old things, and donating old things that i dont need. I am struggling with letting go. I have the last purse my mom used, and a purse that she bought me. I dont use either one anymore. I need to make space. And yet i struggle to let go of something so simple.
Totally normal to hold on to sentimental things, even ones you don't use. Maybe just keep one of the purses, whichever one you feel the least most attached to. 🤗

Edit: as I meant to type "most", not least.
 
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Its odd. We all keep telling him to not push and he just keeps doing it. Everyone is trying to be consistent and we tell him no as soon as he does it. He keeps pushing and throwing things. He'll shove my 1 year old niece as he runs around, or tries to push past her to get to a toy/slide first.

Not sure how we are going to get him to listen, and i just hope my niece really is reinforcing things at home.



My nephew comes over here three times a week. So i still have to see his bad behavior. My niece is working 3 days a week, I feel bad for my nephew, and worry he will struggle in school. But his mom is the one that needs to change her ways. She doesnt listen, and she has her ridiculous mom in her ear telling her theres nothing wrong with him. I've never seen a child that doesnt listen like this. That does nothing but push, hit, and throw things. Throw tantrums for everything. I do mostly stay in my room so i wont need to see the bad behavior.

Still feel a bit down. I dont know if its the medicine i am on, but i still get annoyed easily. I am happy here, so i dont know what else can be causing it. My niece talks so much and asks so many questions. I last for a while, but i eventually tell her shes making me dizzy. I want to spend time with her because this is an important period in her life. She's 10 years old, this is the time where you need to stay close to make sure they arent losing their way. I get a headache sometimes just hearing her chatter. She wants to spend time with me, which is a good thing. But all she wants to watch are things that i have no interest in. On top of that she talks throughout the entire movie. I used to have patience for her quirks and found them humorous.

I also get annoyed with the cats just wanting affection. I pet them and spend time with them. But there are times i dont want anyone even near me or touching me. I didnt used to be this way. I wasnt a very touchy feely person, but i wouldnt get upset like this. Not sure how to force myself to try to be more patient with everyone. I put in effort, but i always get to the point that i need to separate myself to avoid getting too upset.

Not sure whats wrong. I was never THIS impatient. I had my bad days like anyone else. But this is a constant thing.

Anyway, I've been going through some old things, and donating old things that i dont need. I am struggling with letting go. I have the last purse my mom used, and a purse that she bought me. I dont use either one anymore. I need to make space. And yet i struggle to let go of something so simple.
All drugs have side effects and some do make some people more irritable. I'd absolutely understand about the nephew and your sister -- I would not have any patience where they are concerned, and I'd be grateful that it's not my problem. But he is on a path to becoming a very antisocial adult and he definitely needs professional help. Otherwise, no one should be surprised at anything that happens regarding him later in his life. I'm not saying this to be mean, but because it's realistic. He's a kid, and so he needs adults to step up NOW and intervene; but you are not that adult. I'd stay well away from him, and her, since she refuses to do the right thing and is in total denial.
Your niece? Yeah, kids go through those stages. You're being patient with her and letting her know gently when you've had enough. That's the best you can do and again, she's not your problem, either, no matter what you thought in the past.
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