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I used IUDs for years. They did not cause any weight gain, sleepiness, or any other side effects except some pretty heavy flow and cramps. I was more than willing to put up with those for something with such a good rate of prevention and no drugs. Before I could get my tubal cauterization, which carries with it its own initial risks, this was my favored method of birth control and I would absolutely recommend it, as long as you get all of the facts on it and decide in favor of it on your own, without any pressure from any source. Everything does have possible side effects, but to me, an IUD was the safest way to go. The drugs are all far too risky IMHO.
I will keep doing my research. I dont like the side effects of the pills, but i want to be sure this is cured and goes away. I will try reaching out to my doctor to see what he says.

There's a difference between the hormonal IUDs and the copper IUDs (they prevent sperm from getting to the egg but have no hormonal effects). Since you have a hormonal issue, not just using it for birth control, they probably mean the hormonal IUD which would have the same side effects as hormone pills, I think.
I will ask my doctor just in case. thanks for the heads up!

Yes, the IUD has to have progesterone, i think they mentioned mirena.
 

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I will keep doing my research. I dont like the side effects of the pills, but i want to be sure this is cured and goes away. I will try reaching out to my doctor to see what he says.



I will ask my doctor just in case. thanks for the heads up!

Yes, the IUD has to have progesterone, i think they mentioned mirena.
Ah. Yes. The one I had was the Copper-7. No hormones.
Copper IUDs - Wikipedia This is quite accurate as far as I can tell.
 
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Ah. Yes. The one I had was the Copper-7. No hormones.
Copper IUDs - Wikipedia This is quite accurate as far as I can tell.
I was reading its considered a natural alternative by many people since its hormone free. But that some people experiences copper poisoning. Its interesting how everything has side effects. :sigh: I started reading up on it out of curiosity. lol

I have three months left on the meds. Not sure if the change right now is worth the hassle. Or if waiting will mean my weight just keeps going up. :sigh: I started getting really down today about my weight.
 

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I was reading its considered a natural alternative by many people since its hormone free. But that some people experiences copper poisoning. Its interesting how everything has side effects. :sigh: I started reading up on it out of curiosity. lol

I have three months left on the meds. Not sure if the change right now is worth the hassle. Or if waiting will mean my weight just keeps going up. :sigh: I started getting really down today about my weight.
The Copper-7 is one of the safest methods of birth control.
There have been times when something was less than my "standard" about myself, and yes, it can be discouraging. But it's helpful to remember that in the case of weight, in many cases, it can be reduced. You're young and in you have good will power and determination, you should be able to lose it in time, but right now, while you are undergoing this therapy, maybe is not the right time. Personally, the more I live, the more I really realize that what's on the outside is so minor a part of someone's quality! and also, how differently people perceive things like that. Usually, we are our own worst critics. You're a wonderful, caring person. That's something people either have or they don't, and it's something at the top of my list of what makes a person beautiful. If you don't have compassion and kindness, as far as I'm concerned, you ain't much.
I'd say one thing at a time. Get better, and get to the place you want to be, or at least to a better place where you feel better. The rest is unimportant compared to those things, and it can follow those things, don't you agree?
 
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The Copper-7 is one of the safest methods of birth control.
There have been times when something was less than my "standard" about myself, and yes, it can be discouraging. But it's helpful to remember that in the case, the more I really realize that what's on the outside is so minor a part of someone's quality! and also, how differently people perceive things like that. Usually, we are our own worst critics. You're a wonderful, caring person. That's something people either have or they don't, and it's something at the top of my list of what makes a person beautiful. If you don't have compassion and kindness, as far as I'm concerned, you ain't much.
I'd say one thing at a time. Get better, and get to the place you want to be, or at least to a better place where you feel better. The rest is unimportant compared to those things, and it can follow those things, don't you agree?
I dont really mind the weight appearance wise. I just feel uncomfortable and health issues are starting to happen because of the weight. The bigger i get the more my body physically hurts, you know? My back pain has gotten so much worse, and i feel tired all the time.

I was talking to my old boss, the one that has cancer. He was telling me the same things you were telling me. lol

Thank you for the support. Been feeling really down these days. :heartshape:
 

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I dont really mind the weight appearance wise. I just feel uncomfortable and health issues are starting to happen because of the weight. The bigger i get the more my body physically hurts, you know? My back pain has gotten so much worse, and i feel tired all the time.

I was talking to my old boss, the one that has cancer. He was telling me the same things you were telling me. lol

Thank you for the support. Been feeling really down these days. :heartshape:
I know. Extra weight is not helpful for anyone to have, health-wise. But you can't do this all at once, and the priority has to come first. The healthy way that I know to lose weight is to eat what you like/what you have, but eat smaller portions. Drugs frequently cause weight gain, though, and if you have to take them, I don't really see a way to reduce that until you can get off of them. My back drives me crazy at times, and sometimes I just can't do everything I want to do because of it, but what makes the big difference to me is working out. I drive myself to do it, even when I'm in pain or tired or whatever, because IT HELPS.
 

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I dont really mind the weight appearance wise. I just feel uncomfortable and health issues are starting to happen because of the weight. The bigger i get the more my body physically hurts, you know? My back pain has gotten so much worse, and i feel tired all the time.

Just don't starve yourself, it does not work! I went from 132 pounds to 180 pounds by starving myself! So it actually made me gain weight. When they forced me to start eating again, I went back down to 125 pounds by just eating and walking 2 hours per day.
 

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Just don't starve yourself, it does not work! I went from 132 pounds to 180 pounds by starving myself! So it actually made me gain weight. When they forced me to start eating again, I went back down to 125 pounds by just eating and walking 2 hours per day.
SO true. The body goes into starvation mode when that happens, and saves everything, just about, that you put into it. Small, sensible meals, three or more times a day, are the way to go (and NOT any of the fad diets like "keto").
 

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When I started losing weight, I started with small sustainable things I could keep up - two spoonfuls of sugar in my coffee instead of three, switching to butter over margarine, drinking mire water. Of course, my weight gain came from depressive eating and I didn't have any hormonal issues like pcos to interfere.
 

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When I started losing weight, I started with small sustainable things I could keep up - two spoonfuls of sugar in my coffee instead of three, switching to butter over margarine, drinking mire water. Of course, my weight gain came from depressive eating and I didn't have any hormonal issues like pcos to interfere.
But your suggestions are wonderful, Lari Lari ! and they would work for anyone. Trim a little here and there, while still eating the things you love. If you cut those out entirely, you'll get cravings and eat MORE, and undo all the progress. That's why so many people going on "diets" completely fail in the long run. To take it off and keep it off, you need to do what you're suggesting.
 
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I know. Extra weight is not helpful for anyone to have, health-wise. But you can't do this all at once, and the priority has to come first. The healthy way that I know to lose weight is to eat what you like/what you have, but eat smaller portions. Drugs frequently cause weight gain, though, and if you have to take them, I don't really see a way to reduce that until you can get off of them. My back drives me crazy at times, and sometimes I just can't do everything I want to do because of it, but what makes the big difference to me is working out. I drive myself to do it, even when I'm in pain or tired or whatever, because IT HELPS.
I really do have to force myself to exercise. I keep telling myself im too tired, or im in too much pain. Which is not a lie. But i need to push myself. I used to love exercising and loved how i felt. But you're right. I am going to focus on trying to make healthier habits, but not obsess about the weight. Getting better is the most important thing.

I just worry because my gyno has been pushing weightloss. I dont think he understands how strongly the medication affects people. He just advised me to eat less junky foods, and thats about it, and to ignore the hunger.

Just don't starve yourself, it does not work! I went from 132 pounds to 180 pounds by starving myself! So it actually made me gain weight. When they forced me to start eating again, I went back down to 125 pounds by just eating and walking 2 hours per day.
I know i tried that once. I did the whole calorie counting diet in my 20s. I went from close to 300 lbs to 120 lbs. I was eating very low calorie and exercising twice a day. This triggered my overeating issues so badly. i dont like remembering this time.

I gained all the weight back. I felt so hungry in such an abnormal way. i would sneak into family members rooms to take snacks they had. I wanted to eat all the time. i didnt care if i liked the food, i just had to eat all the time. I gave up on getting healthy after that.

SO true. The body goes into starvation mode when that happens, and saves everything, just about, that you put into it. Small, sensible meals, three or more times a day, are the way to go (and NOT any of the fad diets like "keto").
Thats the trap i used to fall into. i tried every diet in the book. lol its just confusing because everyone swears that their diet is the best one ever created, or the ideal diet.

When I started losing weight, I started with small sustainable things I could keep up - two spoonfuls of sugar in my coffee instead of three, switching to butter over margarine, drinking mire water. Of course, my weight gain came from depressive eating and I didn't have any hormonal issues like pcos to interfere.
I really think thats one of my problems. Whenever i think about eating healthy, my obsessive tendencies take over. I try to make so many extreme changes that nothing ever sticks long term. Been having weight issues since i was a teen. I tend to eat emotionally as well so things have just gotten worse.

But your suggestions are wonderful, Lari Lari ! and they would work for anyone. Trim a little here and there, while still eating the things you love. If you cut those out entirely, you'll get cravings and eat MORE, and undo all the progress. That's why so many people going on "diets" completely fail in the long run. To take it off and keep it off, you need to do what you're suggesting.
thats exactly what happens to me. i get on a diet, lose some weight, and then go back to my old ways. I dont know why i cant stick with eating healthy long term.

I dont like admitting this, but i have had issues with overeating in the past. I will eat until its hard to breathe, and end up with heartburn all day. I was reading online that its caused my addictive foods. But i will actually overeat on healthy things. For example, for lunch i have some kind of protein and broccoli (my favorite vegetable). I eat so much vegetables that i am painfully full. I dont know why i do this to myself, but it almost feels like i dont have control. I have tried so many times to give up fast food (its awful and expensive) and somehow i end up going back again.

I dont care about being thin anymore, that was what motivated me when i was younger lol. I just want to feel healthy, and not have these health issues. I have high blood pressure, and im pre-diabetic. My hormones are all out of wack.

I get anxiety because i have had issues with heart palpitations since i was a teen. I was with my mom in her last moments and saw what she looked like as her heart stopped (she had pancreatic cancer, but her heart stopped randomly in her last moments).

So i have been panicking that im so overweight that my heart will stop. My grandmother also had a heart attack. I go to sleep wondering if i will wake up again. My heart palpitations tend to get worse, the bigger that i get.

I want to be able to get out of bed without pain. And walk down the stairs without gasping for breath. I am in my 30s and im starting to remind myself of my mom, who was in her 60s when she passed. She would sleep all day, and had pain in her body. She was diabetic, and had issues with food.

I was crying yesterday thinking of her. I remember one of the times that we took her home from the hospital, the first thing she wanted to do was to go to mcds. How could we deny her, when she was dying? So my mom had issues with food too.

Food has always been a comfort to me. My mom would show up at school with mcds, or promise us mcds after scary things like the dentist/doctor. This isnt me blaming her. There wasnt much information on nutrition and eating disorders in the past. I have learned that using food as a reward can have long term effects on a person. Hispanic people give love by using food unfortunately.

My dad didnt make things better with his constant comments on my weight and scrutinizing what i was eating.

lol sorry for the long comment. I know right now getting better is my priority. But i know im going to have to figure out how to get healthy eventually.
 

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I really do have to force myself to exercise. I keep telling myself im too tired, or im in too much pain. Which is not a lie. But i need to push myself. I used to love exercising and loved how i felt. But you're right. I am going to focus on trying to make healthier habits, but not obsess about the weight. Getting better is the most important thing.

I just worry because my gyno has been pushing weightloss. I dont think he understands how strongly the medication affects people. He just advised me to eat less junky foods, and thats about it, and to ignore the hunger.



I know i tried that once. I did the whole calorie counting diet in my 20s. I went from close to 300 lbs to 120 lbs. I was eating very low calorie and exercising twice a day. This triggered my overeating issues so badly. i dont like remembering this time.

I gained all the weight back. I felt so hungry in such an abnormal way. i would sneak into family members rooms to take snacks they had. I wanted to eat all the time. i didnt care if i liked the food, i just had to eat all the time. I gave up on getting healthy after that.



Thats the trap i used to fall into. i tried every diet in the book. lol its just confusing because everyone swears that their diet is the best one ever created, or the ideal diet.



I really think thats one of my problems. Whenever i think about eating healthy, my obsessive tendencies take over. I try to make so many extreme changes that nothing ever sticks long term. Been having weight issues since i was a teen. I tend to eat emotionally as well so things have just gotten worse.



thats exactly what happens to me. i get on a diet, lose some weight, and then go back to my old ways. I dont know why i cant stick with eating healthy long term.

I dont like admitting this, but i have had issues with overeating in the past. I will eat until its hard to breathe, and end up with heartburn all day. I was reading online that its caused my addictive foods. But i will actually overeat on healthy things. For example, for lunch i have some kind of protein and broccoli (my favorite vegetable). I eat so much vegetables that i am painfully full. I dont know why i do this to myself, but it almost feels like i dont have control. I have tried so many times to give up fast food (its awful and expensive) and somehow i end up going back again.

I dont care about being thin anymore, that was what motivated me when i was younger lol. I just want to feel healthy, and not have these health issues. I have high blood pressure, and im pre-diabetic. My hormones are all out of wack.

I get anxiety because i have had issues with heart palpitations since i was a teen. I was with my mom in her last moments and saw what she looked like as her heart stopped (she had pancreatic cancer, but her heart stopped randomly in her last moments).

So i have been panicking that im so overweight that my heart will stop. My grandmother also had a heart attack. I go to sleep wondering if i will wake up again. My heart palpitations tend to get worse, the bigger that i get.

I want to be able to get out of bed without pain. And walk down the stairs without gasping for breath. I am in my 30s and im starting to remind myself of my mom, who was in her 60s when she passed. She would sleep all day, and had pain in her body. She was diabetic, and had issues with food.

I was crying yesterday thinking of her. I remember one of the times that we took her home from the hospital, the first thing she wanted to do was to go to mcds. How could we deny her, when she was dying? So my mom had issues with food too.

Food has always been a comfort to me. My mom would show up at school with mcds, or promise us mcds after scary things like the dentist/doctor. This isnt me blaming her. There wasnt much information on nutrition and eating disorders in the past. I have learned that using food as a reward can have long term effects on a person. Hispanic people give love by using food unfortunately.

My dad didnt make things better with his constant comments on my weight and scrutinizing what i was eating.

lol sorry for the long comment. I know right now getting better is my priority. But i know im going to have to figure out how to get healthy eventually.
Nothing you've said is at all abnormal. Habits, good or bad, become entrenched and are very difficult to change. Will power is really necessary, along with having a goal. I know that if I can do it -- and I did -- that anyone can. You are young and you've thought it all out, and are being very honest with yourself (and us), which is the first step in achieving your goal. Food is a comfort -- it is our survival, after all! -- and with all of the choices we have now, that we can get so easily, it is no wonder that so many people have problems around food. Obesity, heart disease, diabetes are epidemic -- or pandemic? -- and the fast food corporations spend a lot of money on their PR campaigns, as does the pharmaceutical empire that deals with what happens when people eat the junk food. The positive, hopeful, good part is that people can make choices, such as choosing not to eat the junk food.
It isn't easy to change habits. But it can be done. For me, what helped was keeping my goal always in mind and every time I wanted to eat a lot/the things I made that I knew would not let me reach my goal, I asked myself, "What do you want? Some food that you'll forget all about a half hour from now, or to reach your goal and feel much better?" I wanted that goal! much more than I wanted the food. And food was a big deal for me, too. When my ex and I started going out, we were restaurant hoppers. We'd start at one place, then go to an ice cream place afterwards, and then go to the movies, with popcorn and candy. We'd finish up at ANOTHER restaurant with a fancy coffee!!! There was one time he actually had to carry me up the stairs to my apartment because I was so full I couldn't walk. A few years of that kind of thing, and yeah, I wasn't feeling great about where I was. I'd think of ways to add even MORE richness to things I made.
So now, I eat well, but I just don't make those rich dishes any more. I don't go to restaurants at all -- can't afford them any more. Dessert is fresh fruit, and some dried cranberries, which I love. Very occasionally, like on my birthday when my roomies gave me candy, I'll have one or two pieces of that. At lunch, I have one cookie, or two small cookies, as dessert. My diet is varied, and I like everything I buy to eat. Workouts are a must for me, because if I don't keep fit, I am going to be in MORE pain. No one is going to do my work if I don't, and I need to do it.
Bad habits are like a downward spiral. The good thing is that good habits are an upward spiral. Set goals, get started, and don't beat yourself up if you slip here and there. Just get back on, and keep going. You're a wonderful person and you have cats who love you very much. Do it for you. Do it for THEM. :yess::cheerleader:
 
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Nothing you've said is at all abnormal. Habits, good or bad, become entrenched and are very difficult to change. Will power is really necessary, along with having a goal. I know that if I can do it -- and I did -- that anyone can. You are young and you've thought it all out, and are being very honest with yourself (and us), which is the first step in achieving your goal. Food is a comfort -- it is our survival, after all! -- and with all of the choices we have now, that we can get so easily, it is no wonder that so many people have problems around food. Obesity, heart disease, diabetes are epidemic -- or pandemic? -- and the fast food corporations spend a lot of money on their PR campaigns, as does the pharmaceutical empire that deals with what happens when people eat the junk food. The positive, hopeful, good part is that people can make choices, such as choosing not to eat the junk food.
It isn't easy to change habits. But it can be done. For me, what helped was keeping my goal always in mind and every time I wanted to eat a lot/the things I made that I knew would not let me reach my goal, I asked myself, "What do you want? Some food that you'll forget all about a half hour from now, or to reach your goal and feel much better?" I wanted that goal! much more than I wanted the food. And food was a big deal for me, too. When my ex and I started going out, we were restaurant hoppers. We'd start at one place, then go to an ice cream place afterwards, and then go to the movies, with popcorn and candy. We'd finish up at ANOTHER restaurant with a fancy coffee!!! There was one time he actually had to carry me up the stairs to my apartment because I was so full I couldn't walk. A few years of that kind of thing, and yeah, I wasn't feeling great about where I was. I'd think of ways to add even MORE richness to things I made.
So now, I eat well, but I just don't make those rich dishes any more. I don't go to restaurants at all -- can't afford them any more. Dessert is fresh fruit, and some dried cranberries, which I love. Very occasionally, like on my birthday when my roomies gave me candy, I'll have one or two pieces of that. At lunch, I have one cookie, or two small cookies, as dessert. My diet is varied, and I like everything I buy to eat. Workouts are a must for me, because if I don't keep fit, I am going to be in MORE pain. No one is going to do my work if I don't, and I need to do it.
Bad habits are like a downward spiral. The good thing is that good habits are an upward spiral. Set goals, get started, and don't beat yourself up if you slip here and there. Just get back on, and keep going. You're a wonderful person and you have cats who love you very much. Do it for you. Do it for THEM. :yess::cheerleader:
Thank you for the support. It makes me feel less alone to hear about the struggles that others have gone through. So thank you for trusting me enough to share your own health struggles. :heartshape:

Its not easy, but i definitely want to start making healthier changes. I just bought a back belt in the hopes that exercising wont cause me pain. My body physically hurts from being inactive. Just walking down the stairs gives me pain all over my body. I feel out of breathe in the grocery story. I used to be able to run up and down stairs at my job.

I like your suggestion of stopping and asking myself what my goal is when the desire to overeat/eat junk happens. Especially since eating junk can feel mindless sometimes. I tend to be obsessive as you know, so when i fail i go down a downward spiral and tend to give up. I have to learn to accept the mess ups and just move on.

I think cooking is going to help me a lot. I dont love cooking, but I know enough to survive. I have managed to convince myself not to eat fast food at times, because i start thinking about a specific meal that i know how to make and it makes it easier to say no. So, i want to see if i can find some new fun, inexpensive recipes that are healthy.
 

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I'm sorry I've missed some of the posts and haven't been keeping up with your thread so excuse me if this has already been suggested. One thing I find that helps is to not bring any junk food in the house. If it's not there you can't eat it. My husband and I both have a sweet tooth so I ask him not to bring any desserts home. Of course he doesn't always listen to me. ;)

Regarding your wanting to cook more - I think that's a great idea. :thumbsup: There are so many websites on-line that offer recipes or you can go to a used book store and purchase inexpensive cookbooks. Since I'm vegetarian I like a lot of ethnic food and have gone to various cooking demos. Once you find a chef you like whether from a tv show such as The Food Network or a cookbook author it may peek your interest in cooking more. I think you feel healthier when you prepare your own food because you can control what ingredients are used and the serving portions. Who knows, this might become a new hobby for you.🤗
 

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I will keep doing my research. I dont like the side effects of the pills, but i want to be sure this is cured and goes away. I will try reaching out to my doctor to see what he says.



I will ask my doctor just in case. thanks for the heads up!

Yes, the IUD has to have progesterone, i think they mentioned mirena.
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Thank you for the support. It makes me feel less alone to hear about the struggles that others have gone through. So thank you for trusting me enough to share your own health struggles. :heartshape:

Its not easy, but i definitely want to start making healthier changes. I just bought a back belt in the hopes that exercising wont cause me pain. My body physically hurts from being inactive. Just walking down the stairs gives me pain all over my body. I feel out of breathe in the grocery story. I used to be able to run up and down stairs at my job.

I like your suggestion of stopping and asking myself what my goal is when the desire to overeat/eat junk happens. Especially since eating junk can feel mindless sometimes. I tend to be obsessive as you know, so when i fail i go down a downward spiral and tend to give up. I have to learn to accept the mess ups and just move on.

I think cooking is going to help me a lot. I dont love cooking, but I know enough to survive. I have managed to convince myself not to eat fast food at times, because i start thinking about a specific meal that i know how to make and it makes it easier to say no. So, i want to see if i can find some new fun, inexpensive recipes that are healthy.
Having little talks with myself to remind myself of goals works really well for me, because I'm aspy and OCD and have an addictive personality. I've kicked several very negative habits in my time. The thing with addiction is you never stop being an addict -- you become a clean addict. The desire never goes away. You just control it rather than letting it control you. Once you do that with something, you find you are strong and that increases your self-esteem and will to keep on with other goals you set. *Hey, should I be a coach or something?* :insertevillaugh: All the courses, paid programs, diets etc., in the world won't work, or keep working, unless there's one thing at the core -- your absolute determination to change something in your life that you feel the need to change, for whatever reason.
It has to be strong enough that whenever you call upon it/remind yourself of it, it keeps on being stronger than the urge to fall back into old habits. Do you ever play dominoes? It's like when you stand them all up in a line and push one -- they all fall down. Show yourself you can change one thing/habit, and you will know you can change others, too.

And since we ALL love good food, you may find that what you cook is more satisfying and better than what you are eating now! My ex and I used to restaurant-hop all over the area, but I can't afford restaurants any more. One thing I have been fortunate enough to have is an ability to copy almost anything in terms of spices. So if there's something I love at a restaurant, chances are I can make something very close to it at home. And yes, neely neely is right! Not only can YOU control and choose the spices, but you will also know that what you're eating is clean and safe. It's really a lot better than restaurants IMHO. Of course, it's work, but that's not bad, either, is it?;)
 
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I'm sorry I've missed some of the posts and haven't been keeping up with your thread so excuse me if this has already been suggested. One thing I find that helps is to not bring any junk food in the house. If it's not there you can't eat it. My husband and I both have a sweet tooth so I ask him not to bring any desserts home. Of course he doesn't always listen to me. ;)

Regarding your wanting to cook more - I think that's a great idea. :thumbsup: There are so many websites on-line that offer recipes or you can go to a used book store and purchase inexpensive cookbooks. Since I'm vegetarian I like a lot of ethnic food and have gone to various cooking demos. Once you find a chef you like whether from a tv show such as The Food Network or a cookbook author it may peek your interest in cooking more. I think you feel healthier when you prepare your own food because you can control what ingredients are used and the serving portions. Who knows, this might become a new hobby for you.🤗
No need to apologize. Thank you for sticking with me, and coming back to check in.:heartshape:

I try so hard to not bring sweets into the house. :frustrated::bawling2: But i cant deny that i fail at doing that. Im starting to remind myself of my father. He is in his 80s and is always asking for his dessert after meals. :lol: I got his sweet tooth, but my moms weight issues/diabetes. :cloudy:But i am going to do my best and keep making changes.

I do feel better now that i am cooking more at home. I have been wanting to go to a fast food place all week, but i have been excited about cooking. I'll start looking around for recipes now to see what i can find. :heartshape:


Pity parties are useless, they get nothing accomplished. They sometimes hurt.😥:silver::catlove:
I know, i agree with you. lol I tend to fall into negative mental spirals. Been that way all my life. So its hard to change at my age. But i am trying.

I use the mealime app for recipes!
Thank you! I just downloaded the app. :heartshape:

Having little talks with myself to remind myself of goals works really well for me, because I'm aspy and OCD and have an addictive personality. I've kicked several very negative habits in my time. The thing with addiction is you never stop being an addict -- you become a clean addict. The desire never goes away. You just control it rather than letting it control you. Once you do that with something, you find you are strong and that increases your self-esteem and will to keep on with other goals you set. *Hey, should I be a coach or something?* :insertevillaugh: All the courses, paid programs, diets etc., in the world won't work, or keep working, unless there's one thing at the core -- your absolute determination to change something in your life that you feel the need to change, for whatever reason.
It has to be strong enough that whenever you call upon it/remind yourself of it, it keeps on being stronger than the urge to fall back into old habits. Do you ever play dominoes? It's like when you stand them all up in a line and push one -- they all fall down. Show yourself you can change one thing/habit, and you will know you can change others, too.

And since we ALL love good food, you may find that what you cook is more satisfying and better than what you are eating now! My ex and I used to restaurant-hop all over the area, but I can't afford restaurants any more. One thing I have been fortunate enough to have is an ability to copy almost anything in terms of spices. So if there's something I love at a restaurant, chances are I can make something very close to it at home. And yes, neely neely is right! Not only can YOU control and choose the spices, but you will also know that what you're eating is clean and safe. It's really a lot better than restaurants IMHO. Of course, it's work, but that's not bad, either, is it?;)
Sounds pathetic, but i went for a walk today. :blush: I bought a back belt and still felt pain, but not too bad. I am waiting for tomorrow to see how i feel. But I felt so energized after the walk that i didnt end up napping during the day. That horrible fatigue that never goes away was gone for today.

:flail:You seem like a great coach to me. :rock: I think what i struggle with is that half of me wants to be healthy. I want a strong healthy body, and i want to give my body a fighting chance. I want my hormones to normalize so i can avoid getting worse from my illness. I want to avoid having diabetes, and serious complications.

Then theres the other half of me thats lost weight many times before and gained it back. That part of me stopped caring about being healthy. There are moments that i dont care if i get better. I know that sounds crazy. lol But you already know im not completely normal.

But i completely agree with what you are saying. I have to focus on the reasons why I need to do this. I have tried so many diets, but i think you are right. My determination wasnt strong enough. I hope with time and good habits that things will become easier.
 

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Thank you! I just downloaded the app. :heartshape:
You're welcome! Some recipes are a bit weird (especially according to my husband), but I like that I can put in settings ingredients I don't like and they don't show up in the offered recipes.

I vary between sweet and salty cravings. When I'm doing well, I'm good at moderation and when I'm not, I'll just mindlessly eat. It does help to not have it in your house (says she who has been buying pretzels, popcorn, ice cream, and candy in her shopping trips lately - thanks stress cravings). I remember years back, back when I was ballooning up to my heaviest and I was trying not to keep sweets in my house and had such a bad craving I walked to Dunkin' Donuts and got a mocha frappuccino or something, and was proud because at least I got some exercise out of it!
 
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