- Sep 19, 2006
- Glendale, CATifornia
Your mom and I said/say the same thing. I'd rather have no company than bad company. That's why I choose the best company -- cats ANYONE -- family or not -- who would object to or in any way be negative about cats would not be in my company. I am very fortunate to be able to do that, of course. There have been a couple of guys in my life that I liked, but once they said they didn't like cats, out they went--out of my heart, and out of my life.This is what i have been doing. I sanitize and i am careful. I would love to follow the habit of leaving outdoor shoes near the doorway and having indoor shoes. I used to do that with my bedroom. The floor always looked great. I cant wait to have my own place so i can do things like that. I love seeing a clean kitchen and bathroom. My bedroom can be messy, but those two places must be clean. lol I dont know why.
I am so happy that you got the house. And that you got away from that awful relationship. My mom always liked to say that its better to be alone than to be stuck in bad company. My mom tried to be sure that i would have a safe home once she was gone, but things didnt work out. She made my brother and his wife promise that i would always be able to stay in my childhood home. The home belonged to my mother until she couldnt pay for it anymore. Then i t was switched to my brothers name.
After she passed we got into constant fights. He would complain incessantly about the cats. Then we got into a fight (unrelated to the cats) and i choose to leave the house. He never told me to come back. I dont know how it doesnt affect him that he didnt keep his promise to his dying mother. That really affected me to feel that i dont have true stability in my life. That i can lose the place i am living in, in a moments notice. It showed me that you cant depend on anyone. And yet i still have this stupid notion of being there for other people to my own detriment.
I am glad you have that stability, and it is very wise of you to have room mates. Its not my business, but try to have as much saved up for the future as you can.
My niece, her husband, and his brother are still here. I dont understand being in someone elses home and not feeling shame when you leave a mess for someone else to clean up. I already told them i cleaned up their dishes this morning and to make sure they clean up after themselves. I am trying to not blow up because they are only here until friday. But my mood isnt stable right now. The brother is here taking classes, and shrieking/singing for his music class in our front porch. I get irritated so easily these days. I am starting to understand why my sister went so crazy after menopause, with all the hormones running inside me i feel like a crazy women. lol
Oh, yeah, thanks! I'm beyond frugal. I'll allow myself a tiny special thing once in awhile, like a Tshirt or a mask, but beyond that, I'm also obsessive about saving. When I'm grocery shopping, anything that's above my set limit on price doesn't get bought unless it's really necessary.
I pretty much need every place I'm in to be clean. Even when I get into my roomies' car, if there's dust on the computer panel, I feel compelled to dust it (but I don't). Today I made up a bleach/water solution for use on hard surfaces for disinfection. There are a lot of conflicting opinions as to the percentages and length of effectiveness time. So I made just a small spray bottle. I told my roomie about it so she knows not to put it on her skin, but just on hard surfaces.
In this life, I've learned never to trust ANYONE -- repeat, ANYONE -- with any decision that is crucial. That's why I've made everything legal as far as my wishes are concerned, for my loved ones and everything we have. I'm not old, but to me it is the most important thing to do all I can to ensure the safety and wellbeing of my loved ones. I've seen too many stories of cats surrendered to the ACC because someone passed away or had to go into medical/assisted living care and the family absolutely bailed. Everyone who thinks their family will do as they ask/beg/plead should do the work I do. Sorry to rain on anyone's parade, but reality is reality and my bottom line is the wellbeing of my loved ones.
So far, I've found patience to be the best medicine for when something someone else does stresses me out. My roomies do occasionally make mistakes that mean I have to do extra work/have a talk with them. I know they don't do it to be mean. They just don't always think, and they are forgetful. So instead of blowing up, as I feel when I discover this, I take a break and do something else until I calm down, then try to pick a time when I'm feeling calm and they are going to be receptive. It works a lot better for us all than just going off at them.