My middle brother and I did go to school for 3rd and 4th grades for me, kindergarten and 1st grade for him, after the youngest was born (to give my mom a break). I was SO BORED. I was reading fluently at 3 1/2 and some of the other kids could barely read, and I didn't want to wait around for people to stumble through the lessons, I'd just read ahead and answer all the questions then go back to my book. I constantly had a book with me and would read whenever I got bored, which was all the time. Fortunately the teachers didn't mind this, because their standard thing was to send someone to the reading corner if they finished early. So that's what I did, all the time. And I tested super high on the standardized tests, which made all the teachers practically hyperventilate. So academically I was OK.and I agree with arouetta. As someone who is a high functioning Aspie=I didn't have the support I needed until my mother pushed buttons to get the school to do something. I was very smart. In fact I was reading by 4. I could add and subtract by 6. I was bored in school and got in trouble for "reading" too much. I used to bring a book and put it in the middle of my text book in 4th to 12th grade and read the book while listening to the lecture-90% of the time same damn stuff I heard over and over. Back then I didn't want to call attention to myself.
So I found school a waste of time. I often jumped ahead and did the next 4 chapters before they were due. I was put into an IEP class and hated it. The teachers talked to me like a baby. You know what my issue was?? Too EMOTIONAL. I hated the kids. I hated the whole thing. I hated kids talking to me-because I have hearing auditory issues and sometimes takes me longer to come up with answers..when the internet came around in the 1990s=I was in HEAVEN. NOW I could COMMUNICATE!
Before I took jobs in the middle of the night and didn't want interaction with people-because I am STILL too emotional. But now the internet unlocked a way for me to meet up with other like minded folks. And now I have the information to work with and deal with my issues.
If school in the 1980s and 1990s utilized more things the students would have gone even farther. I was jealous of home schooled kids=they didn't have to deal with the social interactions that I dreaded. My favorite class was gym class when I could take my frustrations out in sports and art class=I worked with my hands and didn't have to deal with face to face communication..they gave me instructions to create work. And I did. It was the happiest I could be with what I had. I wish I had a real home life like most kids-but I didn't. My parents did the best they could with what they had.
High school was so much better than the other grades. I didn't like the IEP because kids called me hateful junk which only got me in trouble because I had a bad habit of punching people when they ticked me off. Yeah I was one of those. Angry mad all the time. Couldn't wait to be alone. Wore baggy ugly clothes. Looking back-I had a few good teachers but most of them didn't know what to do with me. I just mucked along the best I could.
In fact the one thing I loved the most- school dances-music. I would dance the entire 4 hours and the lights were dimmed and I didn't have to talk. Just sing and dance. I never had many friends and I often danced by myself..I was the freak on the dance floor but seriously when the music is going=it takes over and I move with it...it's like a totally new world..music is what made my life worth living. At least with music blaring I don't have to talk or listen-just dance and enjoy the music.
As far as disabilities I think we can do better. In fact I KNOW we can.
Socially not so much. THE NOISE about killed me. I read through recess. I didn't understand authority hierarchies or playground politics. A person is a person, isn't that what you're trying to teach us? Haha, nope, they say that but don't mean it. They say a lot of things they don't mean. Adults lie to kids all the time. And I didn't believe them and didn't know how to play along. Adults hate that.
I probably would not have done well in high school at all.
I was reading about PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance, not kissing in public, lol) as an autism-spectrum behavior, and, wow, that's my dad. I have a little of that, but not too strong. But he will just freak out if anyone expects anything of him. That's why he had problems in school. I'm not sure how he managed in the Navy. Probably because he was a machinist's mate and didn't have much contact with the higher-ups. Or because the ritualistic behaviors are clearly outlined so you don't have to guess at what they want. I know his immediate superiors were never very fond of him, good thing Navy men can't be fired by their immediate superiors.
For me, music=nothing. I have no attachment to music at all. I never listen to it on purpose; it just jumbles up as noise in my brain. Everybody thinks that's weird. I think my dad is the same, although he's never said it explicitly. But he has a tornado-safe room in the basement (we call it his Fortress of Solitude) with his gun safes, a TV, and a laptop, and will sit down there for hours with the TV on mute, cleaning his guns and playing on the laptop, in complete silence. And I don't think I've ever heard him listen to music. Maybe it's genetic.
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