Oh Lauren, I'm just so sorry to hear this update. I know it's really hard to hear your mom like this and to know she's in pain.
I do agree with Libby - in the end, it's your mom's decision. Actually, it sounds very much to me like the family should let this happen and figure out the best way to make it happen. It's SO important to her, and so meaningful to her, it gives her a goal to achieve, you know?
I, too, wish there was something I could do. Your anguish - and the many reasons for it - makes my heart hurt. Thank goodness for Pipsqueak!
Continued for your mom, and and