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(Sorry it's messy, I'm writing this at 3 a.m.) So for the past two weeks they've been un-separated during the night. Yet they wake me up every night when they start fighting and i separate them till morning (cause i fall back asleep). they are separated when i'm not home. today i left for about 15 minutes and left them both in the living room and when I came back I found some mess that indicated there was some chasing. I planned on leaving them un-separated when I went to my nieces birthday but they stared fighting right before, so i changed my mind.
Tonight stella was sleeping with me when Betsy just jumped on the bed and started smacking her. I moved her away (like always) and went to bathroom when I heard her chasing Stella again. I locked Stella in the bedroom for a bit (she ate, went to the litter box) and than she stood next to the gate crying again, so I opened it. and betsy smacked her again, so I put her back in the room. (FYI, Usually when they start fighting Stella runs to the room, its her safety zone). and after a while she was standing by the gate again (normal behavior for the last two weeks) this time betsy didn't just jump her but she grabbed her and and didn't let go. It took me a bit to separate them (i even got scratched for my efforts), Stella pooped on her self and after she didn't breath properly for like a second (she's slightly asthmatic).
It feels like we're making a step forward and seven steps back.
Am I doing something wrong?
I know some cats who live together fight their all lives but it feels to me like Stella is always defending herself (although she does try to catch Betsy'd tail when the both cuddle to me on the couch) and I'm scared for her.
I added two photos- one of them cuddling with me on the coach (Betsy is sniffing my nose while Stella is sitting on my shoulder); The other is a minute before a fight (Stella is growling while Betsy stalks around her).
Tonight stella was sleeping with me when Betsy just jumped on the bed and started smacking her. I moved her away (like always) and went to bathroom when I heard her chasing Stella again. I locked Stella in the bedroom for a bit (she ate, went to the litter box) and than she stood next to the gate crying again, so I opened it. and betsy smacked her again, so I put her back in the room. (FYI, Usually when they start fighting Stella runs to the room, its her safety zone). and after a while she was standing by the gate again (normal behavior for the last two weeks) this time betsy didn't just jump her but she grabbed her and and didn't let go. It took me a bit to separate them (i even got scratched for my efforts), Stella pooped on her self and after she didn't breath properly for like a second (she's slightly asthmatic).
It feels like we're making a step forward and seven steps back.
Am I doing something wrong?
I know some cats who live together fight their all lives but it feels to me like Stella is always defending herself (although she does try to catch Betsy'd tail when the both cuddle to me on the couch) and I'm scared for her.
I added two photos- one of them cuddling with me on the coach (Betsy is sniffing my nose while Stella is sitting on my shoulder); The other is a minute before a fight (Stella is growling while Betsy stalks around her).
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