The "what's On Your Mind?" Thread -2019

[jefferd18]

Is there someone you can speak to "higher up" about what you're doing? I don't know how police units work but maybe a chief or supervisor? What exactly are they harassing you about? Is it being in the parking lot or feeding the cats?

I was so taken aback by their responses. I can't believe how incredibly rude they were to me over something so simple. They read one of my responses and took it out of proportion. Said I was "rebuking" them and "not listening" basically. Ridiculous. I don't understand how they could have caught my "tone" from just reading words I typed on a computer.

I use to be stopped and questioned for being over on a parking lot after the store had closed. When I told them I was feeding the cats they would say okay and walk away. Now they are jumping on me for feeding the cats even though I have permission from the store manager to do that. I have had my car searched, been told to stand up against the car, while they searched me- all the BS from bored small town cops.

I am on a parrot site and they are the same way- always misunderstanding and always so judgemental.

 

[Graceful-Lily]

I use to be stopped and questioned for being over on a parking lot after the store had closed. When I told them I was feeding the cats they would say okay and walk away. Now they are jumping on me for feeding the cats even though I have permission from the store manager to do that. I have had my car searched, been told to stand up against the car, while they searched me- all the BS from bored small town cops.

I am on a parrot site and they are the same way- always misunderstanding and always so judgemental.

Sounds like they're hoping to bust you for drugs or something. They probably want a fun story to bring back to the guys. That's crazy, honestly.

 

[Furballsmom]

I'm sorry, this is rough for both of you!

 

[kashmir64]

I hope not.

That betta fish forum I joined is toxic. I'm going to quit it.
I asked a simple question and was basically attacked by two members who when took my response to their harsh response wayyyy out of proportion. Jesus.

All fish forums are like that. My son was lurking on quite a few of them and they were all that way.

My son bought two pea Puffers and is working on a salt water tank for a snowflake moray eel. - oh joy.

 

[kashmir64]

I was so taken aback by their responses. I can't believe how incredibly rude they were to me over something so simple. They read one of my responses and took it out of proportion. Said I was "rebuking" them and "not listening" basically. Ridiculous. I don't understand how they could have caught my "tone" from just reading words I typed on a computer.

Unfortunately with fish forums it's their way and you agree with them, or get lost. And if you have a question, then it's "if you don't know then you shouldn't own the fish".
My son has been looking for a non-toxic fish forum for almost a year now. Hasn't found one yet.

 

[Graceful-Lily]

Unfortunately with fish forums it's their way and you agree with them, or get lost. And if you have a question, then it's "if you don't know then you shouldn't own the fish".
My son has been looking for a non-toxic fish forum for almost a year now. Hasn't found one yet.

That's unfortunate. I don't need that kind of attitude in my life right now so good riddance to them.

They said:
After reviewing your other posts I can now understand why you want to leave. Please contact a Moderator and ask them to delete the account. It's too bad the questions you ask and the answers that were given did not suit you. Since you had researched the questions first and had gotten your answers already. Because those answers were cut and dried in black and white. Sorry to burst your bubble, but in fish keeping there are many answers and cures for the same problem. Nothing is cut and dried. What works for one may not work for every one or every situation. But it is quite evident in reading your other posts that you didn't want help or other opinion's. I feel that we (the ones that tried to give our opinions and best answers ) were rebuked because you already had it in your mind we were wrong and our help was not needed.

Contact the mods.

That was in response to this:
Thank you.

I wasn't trying to start it today, next week, or even next month. Just trying to gather information because while researching, I see a lot of conflicting results.

I was told a male can be introduced into a sorority as long as it's well established before hand and the tank is big enough + heavily planted.

Also, wasn't looking to breed them either. Was just asking if housing them together was possible.

How is it "evident" from what I said that I didn't want help or other's opinions??

The person previously stated was also defending this person who said in response to my questions about betta sorority...
I’m going to be frivolous, and say ‘if you are asking those questions, then you are not ready to start a sorority’ - but of course you already know that or you wouldn’t be asking

My advice would be to read up on the many sorority articles out there, and then get a bigger tank than they say. Then plant it with huge numbers of plants, and let them grow and thicken til they fill the tank. That will take months. Plenty of time for a fish less cycle. Add many, many caves and shelters. Then add the girls all at once, while immature. And don’t add a boy.

But, in all honesty, I would not advise you to try a sorority unless you have masses of experience and already know the answers to all your questions.

Sorry to be so negative. Genuinely sorry.
But if you have a look through previous sorority threads, they rarely turn out to be successful long lasting setups. And the stress levels often lead to unhappy, nervous, ill fish

 

[AbbysMom]

We get that attitude when people join here from other forums some times. We try to catch it, but don't always see it. If you ever see people acting like that here, please flag the post.

If people wanted an attitude, they could always just post the question of FB, that's sure to bring about attitudes.

 

[Graceful-Lily]

We get that attitude when people join here from other forums some times. We try to catch it, but don't always see it. If you ever see people acting like that here, please flag the post.

If people wanted an attitude, they could always just post the question of FB, that's sure to bring about attitudes.

I'm so glad people aren't like that here. I've never felt so embraced by a community of people like this online before. It's truly refreshing and I smile every time I log in. I'm really glad I found this website.

 

[Furballsmom]

And we're glad you're here!

On my mind? I'm trying to keep track of new movies they're coming out with. There are quite a few we're interested in, for a nice change

 

[kashmir64]

That's unfortunate. I don't need that kind of attitude in my life right now so good riddance to them.

They said:
After reviewing your other posts I can now understand why you want to leave. Please contact a Moderator and ask them to delete the account. It's too bad the questions you ask and the answers that were given did not suit you. Since you had researched the questions first and had gotten your answers already. Because those answers were cut and dried in black and white. Sorry to burst your bubble, but in fish keeping there are many answers and cures for the same problem. Nothing is cut and dried. What works for one may not work for every one or every situation. But it is quite evident in reading your other posts that you didn't want help or other opinion's. I feel that we (the ones that tried to give our opinions and best answers ) were rebuked because you already had it in your mind we were wrong and our help was not needed.

Contact the mods.

That was in response to this:
Thank you.

I wasn't trying to start it today, next week, or even next month. Just trying to gather information because while researching, I see a lot of conflicting results.

I was told a male can be introduced into a sorority as long as it's well established before hand and the tank is big enough + heavily planted.

Also, wasn't looking to breed them either. Was just asking if housing them together was possible.

How is it "evident" from what I said that I didn't want help or other's opinions??

The person previously stated was also defending this person who said in response to my questions about betta sorority...
I’m going to be frivolous, and say ‘if you are asking those questions, then you are not ready to start a sorority’ - but of course you already know that or you wouldn’t be asking

My advice would be to read up on the many sorority articles out there, and then get a bigger tank than they say. Then plant it with huge numbers of plants, and let them grow and thicken til they fill the tank. That will take months. Plenty of time for a fish less cycle. Add many, many caves and shelters. Then add the girls all at once, while immature. And don’t add a boy.

But, in all honesty, I would not advise you to try a sorority unless you have masses of experience and already know the answers to all your questions.

Sorry to be so negative. Genuinely sorry.
But if you have a look through previous sorority threads, they rarely turn out to be successful long lasting setups. And the stress levels often lead to unhappy, nervous, ill fish

If you have a fish question, PM me, I'll have my son look at it. He's not a professional, but he has tanks all over this house and knows quite a bit. He even has a sorority of betta's in my bathroom. (my bathroom is huge).

 

[Furballsmom]

He even has a sorority of betta's in my bathroom. (my bathroom is huge).

What a nice mom you are!!

Hmmm, on my mind? Lunch, I'm starving lol!

 

[jefferd18]

That's unfortunate. I don't need that kind of attitude in my life right now so good riddance to them.

They said:
After reviewing your other posts I can now understand why you want to leave. Please contact a Moderator and ask them to delete the account. It's too bad the questions you ask and the answers that were given did not suit you. Since you had researched the questions first and had gotten your answers already. Because those answers were cut and dried in black and white. Sorry to burst your bubble, but in fish keeping there are many answers and cures for the same problem. Nothing is cut and dried. What works for one may not work for every one or every situation. But it is quite evident in reading your other posts that you didn't want help or other opinion's. I feel that we (the ones that tried to give our opinions and best answers ) were rebuked because you already had it in your mind we were wrong and our help was not needed.

Contact the mods.

That was in response to this:
Thank you.

I wasn't trying to start it today, next week, or even next month. Just trying to gather information because while researching, I see a lot of conflicting results.

I was told a male can be introduced into a sorority as long as it's well established before hand and the tank is big enough + heavily planted.

Also, wasn't looking to breed them either. Was just asking if housing them together was possible.

How is it "evident" from what I said that I didn't want help or other's opinions??

The person previously stated was also defending this person who said in response to my questions about betta sorority...
I’m going to be frivolous, and say ‘if you are asking those questions, then you are not ready to start a sorority’ - but of course you already know that or you wouldn’t be asking

My advice would be to read up on the many sorority articles out there, and then get a bigger tank than they say. Then plant it with huge numbers of plants, and let them grow and thicken til they fill the tank. That will take months. Plenty of time for a fish less cycle. Add many, many caves and shelters. Then add the girls all at once, while immature. And don’t add a boy.

But, in all honesty, I would not advise you to try a sorority unless you have masses of experience and already know the answers to all your questions.

Sorry to be so negative. Genuinely sorry.
But if you have a look through previous sorority threads, they rarely turn out to be successful long lasting setups. And the stress levels often lead to unhappy, nervous, ill fish

They are a snarky bunch on the parrot forum- real tight little group. As far going to the moderators on that site- they are the ones who instigate most of the fights.

 

[jefferd18]

I'm sorry, this is rough for both of you!

Well, I'm going to lead out in cuffs one night- I have a temper. I asked them one night when they really annoyed me- why is it that they are never over here with a bag of cat food- that didn't go over well.

 

[tarasgirl06]

I can hear the laughs already, but I GOT A NEW TOILET INSTALLED TODAY and I am SO EXCITED. There. I said it.

 

[Graceful-Lily]

I can hear the laughs already, but I GOT A NEW TOILET INSTALLED TODAY and I am SO EXCITED. There. I said it.

Hey, when you an adult, that's how it be sometimes.

I get excited when I park on a street and don't pay and come back to a car without a ticket on it lol.

 

[tarasgirl06]

Hey, when you an adult, that's how it be sometimes.

I get excited when I park on a street and don't pay and come back to a car without a ticket on it lol.

...and when the toilet that was torn out was dated 1931 and hasn't worked for ??? you KNOW you're happy.

 

[Alicia88]

Ran across this on reddit today. It was nice.

 

[MoonstoneWolf]

What's on my mind is if my Mom or the cats will let me catch up with the episodes of Castle Rock. I'm several episodes behind and want to just chill and catch up on them, if they let me.

 

[tarasgirl06]

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Ran across this on reddit today. It was nice.

Robin knew. Unfortunately, it wasn't enough for him, but all of us who love him continue to be amazed by his wit and talent!

 

[susanm9006]

I can hear the laughs already, but I GOT A NEW TOILET INSTALLED TODAY and I am SO EXCITED. There. I said it.

I absolutely hated, hated my old toilet so I sure understand your excitement. You think a toilet is a toilet but they are not all the same and really old ones are just gross. A fresh and new, good flushing toilet is a blessing. Congrats.