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See that‘s my fear: that he will my bfs cat and I will feel lonely for the next 10 years. I need a loving cat who needs me and who makes me feel happy. I work a lot from home and my bf is out a lot so the cat will mainly spend time with me. I need us to be a team - my bf doesnt need this as much as me - at least in my opinion. But I will be unhappy if Gustl will be my bfs cat and I will never really see in him what I need in a cat.I had a cat named Pickles for 18 years. I made a mistake due to pressure from others and ran out and got two new cats. I didn't love them right away. In fact, I refused to refer to myself as their "mommy" and decided we were all sisters living together. I learned to respect them and we got along. I think it was close to a year before I really felt love for them. I liked things about them. They were independent, had personalities and all that. When Tina got kidney failure and died suddenly I was crushed. I only had her four years.
You are grieving. It's very natural what you are feeling. You probably weren't ready to get another cat but...you got one. So it's your boyfriend's cat and who knows maybe one day YOU can go out and get one and have two! Double the love.