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You are welcome but really THANK YOU for caring for those cats and for Inky. The difference you are making in the quality of their lives is really positive and important.I am very humbled by those incredibly nice words of yours, thank you. It is so nice to be part of a community that truly understands.
I don't understand ignorant people (like your neighbor), who treat feral cats with so much distain since it is our fault they are feral in the first place. Thank you for rescuing that little feline and giving her a second chance at life.
I am just very disappointed with my vet because I thought we were both on the same page. I will be visiting Inky on Friday. I doubt that her reaction to me will be as positive as your kitty's was to you. I think she views all humans as something to not be trusted.
I don't understand people like that either. But all we can do is our best and try to educate and help the situation. I am thankful every day for her in my life.
I know. The reactions of people (vets, rescues, etc) can be very different and disappointing. I have been there and all we can do is learn and try our best. I know how frustrating and heartbreaking it is.
Sadly, I don't think the reaction with Inky will be the same either and understandably so. Being caged with predators (dogs) is not an easy place to be for a cat. A feral's survival instinct tends to be caution and distrust of humans and other animals. In fact, I struggle with how much to socialize with ferals IF I can't find them a home (or don't think I can) since some humans can pose grave threats to ferals. It is so hard to find that balance and try to figure out what is the right way to do it. Is there really a right answer? I don't know. But all we can do is our best. And trying to give them a better life (even if it is only 30% or 50% or 70% better) is I guess the goal. We can't always succeed because of outside issues but if we do our best I think that is what matters.
I have gone through the issue with an "expert" (rescue, Humane Society) saying that the cat can only be an outside cat. Early on in my life I really fought that view. Later on I kind of understand that view. It is really more art than science. It is so hard emotionally. I could go on and on about the emotional battles I have struggled with about what is right for ferals. I honestly believe every cat is fundamentally a good cat that will respond to being loved BUT some cats need more time, attention, and the right situation. And whether it is fair to the existing or resident cats. I have at times thought about taking on situations and being warned by everyone not to and listening. And feeling the regret and guilt for not listening. BUT maybe they were right. It is just so hard because we just can't know the future. There is so much grey area, it is not black and white.
Everyone is giving great advice and support. Jcatbird brings up great points (as does everyone). We'll support you wherever you go. All my cats have been ferals. Some very feral. It really depends on your situation. If you have no cats in the house it is easier to bring in a very feral cat. If you have 4 cats in the house it becomes more of a challenge. If you decide (or can) TNR there are positives and negatives but it is the whole picture we will help you get through. We all have been where you are. It is really hard. But if we do our best then I think we can hold our head high and be proud. You really are a hero in what you are doing.
I will also add. Cats sense our emotions and the love you have for these cats IS felt by the cats. And knowing they are loved does makes their lives better.