Ive never been raised that holidays are about gifts and money. I grew up in a lower income family. Holidays were about family. Being with them, laughing and telling funny stories and reminiscing both good and sad. I grew up with great memories of holidays.
Now I’m 48 and I have dreaded the holidays for the past few years due to family fighting who goes where. We got that ironed out after many mother and MIL hurt feelings.
My family eats early so dinner at my family dessert at hubby’s. It’s worked out well.
But this year takes the dang cake. My brothers wife always hosts thanksgiving. This spring a week before mother’s day she lost her mom to cancer. It’s devastating to lose a parent. Her heart wasn’t into thanksgiving so she asked if we could bring a dish. Yes great I thought, my sister agreed. My mom has not stopped complaining that it’s tacky and rude. Every day for the past 2 weeks. I listen to my mom say you just don’t do that, they better enjoy it and eat it, she ( meaning My brothers wife ) is lazy and not making anything. Just so you know my mom is making deviled eggs, I’m making homemade bread and my sister is making green beans. My brothers wife is doing turkey, gravy, stuffing, potatoes and desserts. Yeah and my moms tearing the family apart about deviled eggs. Ugh. I’m embarrassed to be related to her. The things she says are hurtful. I told my mom today that my brothers wife is having a hard time as it’s the first real holiday without her mom and to stop complaining. My moms response well my parents are dead get over it.
CANT WE JUST ALL GET ALONG AND LOVE EACH OTHER.
Now I’m 48 and I have dreaded the holidays for the past few years due to family fighting who goes where. We got that ironed out after many mother and MIL hurt feelings.
My family eats early so dinner at my family dessert at hubby’s. It’s worked out well.
But this year takes the dang cake. My brothers wife always hosts thanksgiving. This spring a week before mother’s day she lost her mom to cancer. It’s devastating to lose a parent. Her heart wasn’t into thanksgiving so she asked if we could bring a dish. Yes great I thought, my sister agreed. My mom has not stopped complaining that it’s tacky and rude. Every day for the past 2 weeks. I listen to my mom say you just don’t do that, they better enjoy it and eat it, she ( meaning My brothers wife ) is lazy and not making anything. Just so you know my mom is making deviled eggs, I’m making homemade bread and my sister is making green beans. My brothers wife is doing turkey, gravy, stuffing, potatoes and desserts. Yeah and my moms tearing the family apart about deviled eggs. Ugh. I’m embarrassed to be related to her. The things she says are hurtful. I told my mom today that my brothers wife is having a hard time as it’s the first real holiday without her mom and to stop complaining. My moms response well my parents are dead get over it.
CANT WE JUST ALL GET ALONG AND LOVE EACH OTHER.