Maybe. But also maybe not. This time Gracie will pick up all your happy (stress) feelings, and maybe will not get so stressed herself.
Funny enough he texted last night asking for money !!!This is great news! Glad to hear things are going well for you and Gracie! I take it you got rid of butt head!
If I may be allowed to make a suggestion about that. In my experience the best thing to do is not answer at all. There is the tendency to want to gloat, it's natural to do that after someone "gets what they deserve". But even something as simple as a "no, go away", opens the door for them to work on you and start pushing buttons. The next thing you know you will start feeling bad about something they say and that is exactly what they want to accomplish. Besides, ignoring them is one of the most infuriating things you can do to them. They believe they have the right to talk with you, they deserve it, they are entitled to communicate with you and you are required to respond to them. Once again its a abuse tactic called power over. It implies you don't have the right to not talk to them. Saying nothing and not responding in any way tells them they have no power over you. It drives them crazy. Some may try and tell you that you are being passive/aggressive but the truth is your taking back your life and saying you have the right to not talk to someone. And you do, period. Just because they are alive and exist doesn't mean you have an obligation to deal with them.
You are making your way back from a hard place. Don’t backtrack! Answering is just giving them a way to get back under your skin. Nothing good can come of it either way. I have come very near to walking in your shoes many ways. I am alone. I am much older than you now but I was once in situations that reflect what I have been reading here. It may be hard to resist having a connection with another human in the way you must have felt connected to him. I was married once. When it ended I was alone with a quadriplegic baby. ( other babies had been lost) Her Dad had turned to booze and anger. To keep our daughter safe I slipped out after he passed out one night. I had only my child, a diaper bag and a cat. I was responsible for everything from then on. I started a life for my daughter and cat. Over the years the struggle to provide was hard and lonely. I had almost no opportunities to meet people. The couple of times I did it became serious but failed. Each time the man tried to start something up again. Sometimes with just a call, sometimes a plea for help and sometimes by “ dropping by to check on us.” It was always the same ending. They wanted something from me that was not good. I can’t say I have given up on finding someone to share my life with even now. I can say that I know not to let history repeat itself. I am even more alone now. My daughter and my reason for living died at 29. Her Dad killed himself five months before she died. I continue on. I have built a life and a home. I built a business from nothing. I have had gains and losses. I discovered one VERY important thing. No matter what else is going on in my life , I am responsible for producing my own happiness. That’s not to say I don’t have my down times but I make a point to stop and look around. You have a new start. You have a life and your wonderful cat friend. Look outside at the amazing beauty all around you. The sky, stars, sunrise or set. How wonderful is a deep breath during the coming of a fresh rain? Life is grand! Don’t turn back. Go forward to something fresh and new. The world is always a new adventure for each of us. Old friends may go but new ones will come. New ones are here right now supporting you and praising your new world. Excitement in life awaits you. Grab it and take that wonderful ride forward. I am still around to tell you that more good things are coming. If you ever feel alone again, just let me know. I will keep you from being alone. People really do care about you. Good people! They are right here. I am very glad you posted that original message. It showed you have great courage. You are strong but you are not ever alone. Not as long as you tell someone.
You are most welcome. Xxxxx. It is possible and can lead to amazing things even though we neither see or feel them at the time. After all it lead me to you and you are amazing! Just keep posting. I want to know how things are going for you. Up and up I hope! PM me if you ever wish to. I will answer. I am an old cat with lots of tricks. Perhaps I can make you smile. Lol XxxxxJcatbird xxxx thank you x you’ve given me strength just knowing it is possible to carry on regardless
this is really wonderful news!! well done!!!
