The "what's On Your Mind?" Thread -2021

[Willowy]

They manage. I've never heard of a farm cat freezing to death if they have a building to go into with enclosed spaces to sleep (although I'm sure it must happen occasionally). Raccoons know how to stay warm without human help and I guess wild cats do too.

I saw the big feral tom standing in 6 inches of snow in the yard eating chicken bones in -10 weather last night. He looked fine, despite being cold and not supposed to eat chicken bones :/ (I don't know what to do about it because if I put them out he'll eat them but if I put them in the trash he'll get into the trash can, still eat them and make a mess too, can't really win). I don't have any outside cats but I still keep a couple of straw-filled totes in the machine shed so he probably uses those.

 

[Alicia88]

Well the morning is fun. Have to hide the few cat tents/shelters, the cat food as well as my cams. Now she's going on about those. I don't understand why no one in my city helps me with her. Alz dot org wont help because Mom refuses to see a doctor. Isn't there some kind of law that would force her to see one in this instance. The woman needs to be committed or something.

Cats seemed confused again. 13 degrees 0 windchill and I'm having t hide their stuff again, although this time side of the house where Mom would have to lean out the window to see and the tents are upright that they can just go in. Ugh I feel so bad and helpless as I mentioned above. Treasure is here now underneath a chair that I have a self warming pad. Not the best but I suppose it's better than nothing at all. At least til I can move everything back to where I want it for night time. Poor Sopdet wasn't able to eat because of this mess.

To go on and on and on about these cams is ridiculous. She's scared someone is going to come and steal the cams. Right a $20 cam. I told her how much and then she threw more fits. Now she's screaming about a red fox running through our yard this morning. I can't win for losing with this crazy woman. Maybe I shouldn't refer to her like this but seriously. Now I control the red foxes. I have ore magical abilities then I thought I did. Anyway if she decides to stop listening to me when I make phone calls I may call Alz dot org again to see what my options are. I twisted my ankle, I'm not feeling well and the cats are still needing my help. I can't even get a pallet for their tents but I made a commitment to care for these cats. I didn't sign up to be verbally abused. Everything has to be her way. I drive her to the hairdresser and to the stores on Fridays. Because both of us have limited mobility in hands I run out 3 x a week to get take out to bring home. She sends me out in blizzards. If I stand up to her she starts getting so angry she gets worked up and finds it hard to breathe. I told my cousin that this is the reason why I don't stand up to her and hide things because I don't want to be responsible for her having a heart attack or whatever. My hands are tied. All her relatives live in FLA or California. We're in MO. And Stuart is really on my Dad's side. He knows what I'm going through but Mom won't even listen to him and she used to. I hope the cats will be ok until this entire mess is taken care of. I just get advice that sadly will not work for her. We even called to have a home nurse stop to check up and Mom called the police to have her removed from the premises.

Now to top it off my V3 cams arrive today. She'll start screaming about those. She's already yelling about me ordering toothpaste off amazon that will be delivered today. It just never ends with her.

What part of Missouri do you live in? I'm also in Missouri - if I'm close to you, maybe there's something I could do to help.

 

[MoonstoneWolf]

What part of Missouri do you live in? I'm also in Missouri - if I'm close to you, maybe there's something I could do to help.

I’m in St Louis

 

[Alicia88]

Oh, that's a good 4 hours away from me. I'm in Kirksville.

 

[strider rose]

Pfft, 17 degrees is balmy! It's currently 8 degrees here, was -10 overnight, and isn't expected to get over 0 all weekend.

W Willowy yeah i know ... i have been to south dakota but when it was summer though

 

[MoonstoneWolf]

Oh, that's a good 4 hours away from me. I'm in Kirksville.

Yea that is far. I wish Tourmaline would go into a shelter instead of these tents. It would be so much easier to quickly pick up and move.plus she’d be warmer. She isn’t enticed by food, stinky food and she does not like catnip. And if its cold now at 3:44 pm what’s it going to be like at 3:44 am.

 

[strider rose]

MoonstoneWolf - how are you doing today ?

 

[MoonstoneWolf]

MoonstoneWolf - how are you doing today ?

Cold. I updated this morning. Mom has flipped

 

[Willowy]

W Willowy yeah i know ... i have been to south dakota but when it was summer though

I shouldn't complain; we've had a very mild winter up until now. We had several days in the 50s in December and January. We always get 2 weeks of frigid weather. . .it's just a little later than normal, that's all.

 

[MoonstoneWolf]

I shouldn't complain; we've had a very mild winter up until now. We had several days in the 50s in December and January. We always get 2 weeks of frigid weather. . .it's just a little later than normal, that's all.

True we had a pretty mild winter so far as well. At least in St Louis. Other parts in the Midwest got slammed hard with the cold and snow

 

[muffy]

Well... I was doing my thing saving spiders while cleaning the bathroom. Normally, I catch them and put them outside when I find them, but figured it could be too cold for them to survive so let it stay since it was not "scary" looking. I was wiping the ledge by the window and forgot it was crawling nearby and did not see it in the area under the sill and between the ledge, the area is only half an inch wide.... Well, bumped the spider and worried it passed away after walking a few minutes after... We'll see... maybe it is taking a nap and will move later?? I'm sorry spider! <3 I was trying to be helpful by leaving you inside!

Well, you tried to help. I always left the spiders alone. They never bothered me.

 

[MoonstoneWolf]

Shadow is here. She looks well groomed. I wonder if she found a home although shame on whoever took her if so, letting her run around in snow at 18 degrees. Treasure seems tolerant unlike he is with Gypsy

 

[MoonstoneWolf]

Getting ready for the hide the cat stuff in 20 degrees. One thing though is I’m getta lot of exercise lifting 22 lb bags of cat food to quickly hide as well as shelters and tents weighted with bricks to not blow away.

 

[MoonstoneWolf]

Poor Sopdet hasn't been able to drink the past 2 days all because of Mom. Sopdet is terrified of me again after 2 years of trying to tame. I'm very sad about this entire situation. And the water just keeps freezing within 10 minutes. I don't know what to do Also she's forcing me to drive in snow and ice to get dinner tonight. She doesn't give a whoop about me. As long as its all about her. But I have stand outside on hard snow in -5 degree windchill getting cars cleaned.

 

[WillowMarie]

Well, you tried to help. I always left the spiders alone. They never bothered me.

Yea, I did try. Spidey is done this morning, so either a cat ate it or it was alive and moved. Hopefully the latter!

 

[MoonstoneWolf]

It's confirmed. I lost Sopdet over Mom's stupid tantrums. It took 2 years to tame her and this most horrible thing happened. And before you come on here and say she'll get over it Sopdet was abused as a kitten, lost her vocal chords, been through at least 2 hoarding situations. So no she will not get over it. As a caretaker I failed her miserably because I have no one to help me commit crazy woman here. Last time I checked caretaker means to take care of. I'm this close to being committed to an institution because of lack of help from stupid so called friends, stupid relatives and the stupid doctors and other medical staff with help with this woman. And at -5 there is no way I can sit outside for 4 hours straight waiting for Sopdet to approach me.

And the water. That's another issue. By the time Sopdet is brave enough to come back to drink the water is froze again. So the cycle continues. Am I supposed to allow her to not drink? I don't want her drink the snow as people throw rock salt all over. Sometimes I wonder why I just don't have someone else take this over who doesn't have a screaming irrational mother that makes their lives hard. Tourmaline will NOT go into the tent unless it's right outside the door Mom comes to look out. She will not go into the shelters (even at -15 windchill). If her tent is not there by the door she will lay on the cold concrete. She is scared of the straw, does not like chicken or fish and is not affected by catnip. Yes I know the problem with Treasure and Sopdet was the same but they at least were born feral and it wasn't this frigid cold last year. All because no one helps me with my Mother.

 

[maggiedemi]

All because no one helps me with my Mother.

Your mom & my mom should live together. They would probably get along great...or not. They might be too much alike.
No one helps because in their minds mothers are sacred. I agree most of them are. But not all.
My mom has always been like this though. So I don't think it can be blamed on dementia or alzheimer's. Not unless she got it really young. Probably a personality disorder.

 

[strider rose]

It's confirmed. I lost Sopdet over Mom's stupid tantrums. It took 2 years to tame her and this most horrible thing happened. And before you come on here and say she'll get over it Sopdet was abused as a kitten, lost her vocal chords, been through at least 2 hoarding situations. So no she will not get over it. As a caretaker I failed her miserably because I have no one to help me commit crazy woman here. Last time I checked caretaker means to take care of. I'm this close to being committed to an institution because of lack of help from stupid so called friends, stupid relatives and the stupid doctors and other medical staff with help with this woman. And at -5 there is no way I can sit outside for 4 hours straight waiting for Sopdet to approach me.

And the water. That's another issue. By the time Sopdet is brave enough to come back to drink the water is froze again. So the cycle continues. Am I supposed to allow her to not drink? I don't want her drink the snow as people throw rock salt all over. Sometimes I wonder why I just don't have someone else take this over who doesn't have a screaming irrational mother that makes their lives hard. Tourmaline will NOT go into the tent unless it's right outside the door Mom comes to look out. She will not go into the shelters (even at -15 windchill). If her tent is not there by the door she will lay on the cold concrete. She is scared of the straw, does not like chicken or fish and is not affected by catnip. Yes I know the problem with Treasure and Sopdet was the same but they at least were born feral and it wasn't this frigid cold last year. All because no one helps me with my Mother.

MoonstoneWolf - im so sorry about sopdet ... sending hugs your way

 

[Graceful-Lily]

Felix is currently under to have his bad teeth pulled. The x-ray showed that his other teeth are perfectly healthy so the vet is afraid to pull them because she doesn't want to break his jaw or leave fragments behind. I'm not going to make the same mistake twice. I love this vet and she always does an amazing job with my cats but I'm going to contact a specialist.

 

[MoonstoneWolf]

Your mom & my mom should live together. They would probably get along great...or not. They might be too much alike.
No one helps because in their minds mothers are sacred. I agree most of them are. But not all.
My mom has always been like this though. So I don't think it can be blamed on dementia or alzheimer's. Not unless she got it really young. Probably a personality disorder.

My Mom has always been stubborn and strict but not unreasonable. I mean really, a red fox is going to attack us because it was cutting through the yard? Raccoons are not going to gang up on us and come in and eat us like she thinks. And charging a power bank by the sun is not going to cost her thousands of dollars a year. She never used to think this way. And the anger, strictness and stubbornness is just gets worse. So what am I supposed to do? Keel over from exhaustion before someone steps in? No my relatives are just stupid. They know how she is yet they refuse to step in, and most of my so called friends knew me for 60 years and have met her and know how she is. I guess it's my fate and karma to be mentally and emotionally abused even if she isn't aware of doing it right now
And now I have the Sopdet situation and she needs that water. This is so terribly sad and uncalled for that this woman canget by with this