Venting....

[tarasgirl06]

I know. Shes just lazy. I try to take him for occasional walks, but she puts off taking him outside. She wants to sit on her butt, and let him play with his toys. She will occasionally take him outside, but its not an every day thing. Ive given her the advice to take him out more, and so has her mom. But she doesnt really like listening to people.

I know its a risk to lend her my car. But my mom would have wanted me to help her, thats the only reason i try my best to help her. Even with her nasty attitude, my mom loved her very much. She has a special connection with her due to the health issues my niece had as a child. The way i got my license was because my sister in law took the risk of letting me use her car. Her insurance could have been ruined if i wasnt careful. I am very grateful to her for that.

Theres only three people i trust with my car, and no one else. Thankfully she doesnt use it much and goes close by. I have been saying no to her lately to save on my gas. Have to save money unfortunately.

I dont want to get to the point that i start becoming like her just to spite her. I know shes not helping me the way i am helping her. But i dont want to go down to her level of pettiness. I am hopeful my sister will help me. Shes the only one that can get my niece to listen. I dont want to stress because my pressure isnt going down much. If it comes to it, i will just lock up my cats and sleep in the living room.

And thank you for your kindness. Just the fact that the thought crossed your mind to want to help me shows that you have a big heart. That means a lot to me.

To be blunt, you can't count on these people to be personally responsible at all. They show that over and over. But the most important thing is that your cats are in your care and are your personal responsibility. Hopefully you love them unconditionally. THEY NEED TO BE KEPT SAFE. No matter what. The kid sounds like he is getting more and more likely to hurt them. So he MUST be kept away from them. That's more important than anything else. They are much smaller than him and they are much more fragile than human beings. They need you to keep them safe.

 

[terestrife]

I understand not wanting to go down to her level, and I'm possibly extra petty because of being hormonal. At the very least, she should give you $5 for gas money every time she wants to use your car. It's only a little, but would help you save.

I really hope your sister is able to help somehow. You really deserve to have less stress.

Believe me, i have been at that point many times where i have wanted to be that petty. Its exactly what shes like. She can be incredibly petty when she wants to be. Im getting tired of her and its getting harder and harder to put on my nice face. I tend to push things down until i explode. Thats not really a good thing.

To be blunt, you can't count on these people to be personally responsible at all. They show that over and over. But the most important thing is that your cats are in your care and are your personal responsibility. Hopefully you love them unconditionally. THEY NEED TO BE KEPT SAFE. No matter what. The kid sounds like he is getting more and more likely to hurt them. So he MUST be kept away from them. That's more important than anything else. They are much smaller than him and they are much more fragile than human beings. They need you to keep them safe.

I do love them unconditionally. I wouldnt bother protecting them if i didnt. I would just let them get hurt. Im doing the best i can in a home that isnt mine. My sister has her faults, but she has put my niece in her place before to protect the cats. My niece gets testy when it comes to cat hair and wasnt nice to the cats for a while, until my sister told her that she didnt want the cats treated badly. Once she had her baby she got really annoyed with the cats in general and my sister put a stop to that. If she doesnt fix things, i already decided to give my room to the cats and sleep in the living room.

Today i found a temporary fix. If i eat standing next to their enclosed eating area, Kitty doesnt roam around and he cant get to her. Had to have lunch standing up. If i go sit down on the table, she wants to go to me for attention. He then goes insane and starts chasing her around.

He freaked out, because he couldnt get to her. Normally i'm eating and watching him obsessively chase them. Now he was at the gate screaming because he couldnt get to her. Im thinking of buying a chair and just eating in there. That way Kitty gets attention and can go back to her tree afterwards. Not too excited to eat next to a cat toilet, but its much more peaceful than to have him chase her around as i try to eat in peace. I just dont get why she goes near him if she knows what he is like. I dont get that at all.

edit: my niece went on a trip to see her father this weekend. The house was so peaceful and i was so happy. The cats were at peace and were able to spend time with me. She gets here last night and i barely sleep the night as i try to find a solution for my cats.

 

[tarasgirl06]

Believe me, i have been at that point many times where i have wanted to be that petty. Its exactly what shes like. She can be incredibly petty when she wants to be. Im getting tired of her and its getting harder and harder to put on my nice face. I tend to push things down until i explode. Thats not really a good thing.




I do love them unconditionally. I wouldnt bother protecting them if i didnt. I would just let them get hurt. Im doing the best i can in a home that isnt mine. My sister has her faults, but she has put my niece in her place before to protect the cats. My niece gets testy when it comes to cat hair and wasnt nice to the cats for a while, until my sister told her that she didnt want the cats treated badly. Once she had her baby she got really annoyed with the cats in general and my sister put a stop to that. If she doesnt fix things, i already decided to give my room to the cats and sleep in the living room.

Today i found a temporary fix. If i eat standing next to their enclosed eating area, Kitty doesnt roam around and he cant get to her. Had to have lunch standing up. If i go sit down on the table, she wants to go to me for attention. He then goes insane and starts chasing her around.

He freaked out, because he couldnt get to her. Normally i'm eating and watching him obsessively chase them. Now he was at the gate screaming because he couldnt get to her. Im thinking of buying a chair and just eating in there. That way Kitty gets attention and can go back to her tree afterwards. Not too excited to eat next to a cat toilet, but its much more peaceful than to have him chase her around as i try to eat in peace. I just dont get why she goes near him if she knows what he is like. I dont get that at all.

edit: my niece went on a trip to see her father this weekend. The house was so peaceful and i was so happy. The cats were at peace and were able to spend time with me. She gets here last night and i barely sleep the night as i try to find a solution for my cats.

I just read this and liked it. This is how my parents raised me. It works.
https://www.cnbc.com/2020/12/08/har...g-intelligent-kids-with-resilient-brains.html

 

[Lari]

I just read this and liked it. This is how my parents raised me. It works.
https://www.cnbc.com/2020/12/08/har...g-intelligent-kids-with-resilient-brains.html

#6 is going to be hard to do in this pandemic world, though I agree with all the ideas there!

 

[tarasgirl06]

#6 is going to be hard to do in this pandemic world, though I agree with all the ideas there!

Yes...and no. Kid-safe social media can help with that.

 

[terestrife]

I finally have some vacation for the next two weeks. And unfortunately, it’s the two weeks that my sister decides to visit. As well as my niece. Which I don’t mind my niece being here. Just annoyed that my sister and her husband are here. I really don’t like her husband. Im not really the type to be insincere and friendly towards people I don’t like. I will treat them with respect, but wont be fake and befriend them. But i have to put up a front so i wont upset my sister.

The good thing is that supposedly my sister is going to talk to my niece about the kitties. I feel my frustration growing. Frustration with my nephew for being so obsessed with the cats. Yes, i know its not his fault, but seeing how obsessed he is just gets to me. Annoyed with Kitty for being clingy and wanting to be with me every time I am downstairs. I cant even eat in peace. I have to eat near their closed off litter box/ food area so she can run to safety if my nephew gets obnoxious. So im stuck obsessively watching them as I eat. My nephew has picked up this habit now of yelling in a high pitched scream as loud as possible. His constant screaming fits are hard to deal with. He loses his mind every time his mom tells him no.

Im also grumpy cause I had my biopsy on Tuesday. I take after my mom, when we are in pain, we are not the friendliest people. So i usually stick to myself so i wont be mean to anyone. lol the doctor said my lining looks better so that’s good news. I have to wait two weeks to get my biopsy results, and to find out what further treatment is needing. Lately I am feeling regret that I didn’t just get a hysterectomy in the beginning of all of this. The D&C procedures have gotten more painful.

I have more negative news. I called up my brother and plucked up the courage to ask about the plans of me moving in. This is the brother who bought a home and is fixing it up. He told me he spent all his money renovating the place. That he hopes to buy me a little RV to be in his property, until he can build me a little room. But that he doesn’t know when it will happen.

My sister from time to time mentions selling/renting this place as you guys know. We cant afford all the bills and we are behind. She isn’t working and isn’t really helping. So its just me and my nieces BF that have tried keeping up with things. Im not sure how long things can stay this way. And I don’t know who I would turn to. My nieces BF occasionally says he wants to move to another state for a better job.

I’m going to have to start looking to change jobs. I’ve been really comfortable with the job I have so I am fearful to change. I need a good job plus good health insurance. My job has kept us home through the pandemic and has been really good to us (I work for Miami dade college as a secretary.) My job isn’t very stressful, which is good since I haven’t been doing my best mentally as you all know. I worry about changing, but I don’t know if I have much of a choice. I've applied for a few jobs within MDC but no luck just yet.

Not looking forward to the next couple of weeks. Just hope it goes by fast and my sister can fix the problem between my niece and the cats.

 

[Lari]

That all sounds really rough, and I wish you didn't have to deal with it all! (I'm glad your lining looks decent, though). It totally sucks that you can't depend on your support system to do the right thing and help you. Hopefully you can find an awesome and safe job!

 

[Willowy]

He loses his mind every time his mom tells him no.

Can you ask your sister to suggest they have him evaluated? Yes, pampered children don't like to be told no. But for him to lose his mind every time sounds neuroatypical to me. And it's best to get early intervention.

 

[tarasgirl06]

I finally have some vacation for the next two weeks. And unfortunately, it’s the two weeks that my sister decides to visit. As well as my niece. Which I don’t mind my niece being here. Just annoyed that my sister and her husband are here. I really don’t like her husband. Im not really the type to be insincere and friendly towards people I don’t like. I will treat them with respect, but wont be fake and befriend them. But i have to put up a front so i wont upset my sister.

The good thing is that supposedly my sister is going to talk to my niece about the kitties. I feel my frustration growing. Frustration with my nephew for being so obsessed with the cats. Yes, i know its not his fault, but seeing how obsessed he is just gets to me. Annoyed with Kitty for being clingy and wanting to be with me every time I am downstairs. I cant even eat in peace. I have to eat near their closed off litter box/ food area so she can run to safety if my nephew gets obnoxious. So im stuck obsessively watching them as I eat. My nephew has picked up this habit now of yelling in a high pitched scream as loud as possible. His constant screaming fits are hard to deal with. He loses his mind every time his mom tells him no.

Im also grumpy cause I had my biopsy on Tuesday. I take after my mom, when we are in pain, we are not the friendliest people. So i usually stick to myself so i wont be mean to anyone. lol the doctor said my lining looks better so that’s good news. I have to wait two weeks to get my biopsy results, and to find out what further treatment is needing. Lately I am feeling regret that I didn’t just get a hysterectomy in the beginning of all of this. The D&C procedures have gotten more painful.

I have more negative news. I called up my brother and plucked up the courage to ask about the plans of me moving in. This is the brother who bought a home and is fixing it up. He told me he spent all his money renovating the place. That he hopes to buy me a little RV to be in his property, until he can build me a little room. But that he doesn’t know when it will happen.

My sister from time to time mentions selling/renting this place as you guys know. We cant afford all the bills and we are behind. She isn’t working and isn’t really helping. So its just me and my nieces BF that have tried keeping up with things. Im not sure how long things can stay this way. And I don’t know who I would turn to. My nieces BF occasionally says he wants to move to another state for a better job.

I’m going to have to start looking to change jobs. I’ve been really comfortable with the job I have so I am fearful to change. I need a good job plus good health insurance. My job has kept us home through the pandemic and has been really good to us (I work for Miami dade college as a secretary.) My job isn’t very stressful, which is good since I haven’t been doing my best mentally as you all know. I worry about changing, but I don’t know if I have much of a choice. I've applied for a few jobs within MDC but no luck just yet.

Not looking forward to the next couple of weeks. Just hope it goes by fast and my sister can fix the problem between my niece and the cats.

Oh NO. Screaming should never be allowed. It creates such stress not only for you, but so much more for the cats whose hearing is much more sensitive than humans', and for any neighbors who may hear it. We have a screaming kid several doors up and every time I hear it I feel like thumping the kid. It's ridiculous for the parents to allow the kid to do this.
Just sayin', but I would HOLD ON to that job. Now is not a good time to change, when so many people are losing their jobs and things are so uncertain. Applying is at your discretion, but from what you say, the job you have has a LOT of plusses.
I do hope your sister makes good on her word and deals with her kid.
As for future housing, I guess it's also not a good time to be even thinking about this, while things are so crazy. Try as hard as you can to hold on and let the bigger picture improve. It may take some time. But give it all you've got. *PRAYERS* and best thoughts for your sweet cats and for you.

 

[terestrife]

That all sounds really rough, and I wish you didn't have to deal with it all! (I'm glad your lining looks decent, though). It totally sucks that you can't depend on your support system to do the right thing and help you. Hopefully you can find an awesome and safe job!

Thank you! It sucks because im the type of person that will go out of my way to help people. It sucks when you give to others and they dont respond in kind. Im not claiming im perfect. I think i have shown my negative side here enough. lol But Im the person people turn to when they need help with their kids.

Can you ask your sister to suggest they have him evaluated? Yes, pampered children don't like to be told no. But for him to lose his mind every time sounds neuroatypical to me. And it's best to get early intervention.

I can try. But parents tend to be hyper sensitive when it comes to their kids. My niece is convinced its normal because some moms told her their kids went through the "terrible 2s."

Honestly, i dont think theres anything wrong with him. Theres just no consequences for his actions. He gets yelled at No! and a smack on the butt and thats it. It just makes his aggression worse. She should be taking away his toys so he understands his behavior has a negative affect. For now, he gets yelled at and he yells back. Thats just the way she was raised. By sister had a terrible temper before she became christian. You could hear her hysterical screaming throughout the entire house. Not sure where she got it from as my mom didnt yell often.

Oh NO. Screaming should never be allowed. It creates such stress not only for you, but so much more for the cats whose hearing is much more sensitive than humans', and for any neighbors who may hear it. We have a screaming kid several doors up and every time I hear it I feel like thumping the kid. It's ridiculous for the parents to allow the kid to do this.
Just sayin', but I would HOLD ON to that job. Now is not a good time to change, when so many people are losing their jobs and things are so uncertain. Applying is at your discretion, but from what you say, the job you have has a LOT of plusses.
I do hope your sister makes good on her word and deals with her kid.
As for future housing, I guess it's also not a good time to be even thinking about this, while things are so crazy. Try as hard as you can to hold on and let the bigger picture improve. It may take some time. But give it all you've got. *PRAYERS* and best thoughts for your sweet cats and for you.

I feel awful saying it but i agree with you. Every time he screams i just want him to be quiet. Seeing him hysterically screaming at the cats gate and yanking at the gate, and i had an awful thought that i wouldnt care if he fell. Even his mom tells him not to complain if he falls. I know that sounds awful as i dont genuinely wish him harm. He can just be exasperating.

I know its a bad idea to change jobs. My main worry is the cats. I want them in a home where they are at peace and happy. I dont want to lock them up in my bedroom 24/7 which is the only real solution. Kitty is miserable when shes locked up.

 

[tarasgirl06]

Thank you! It sucks because im the type of person that will go out of my way to help people. It sucks when you give to others and they dont respond in kind. Im not claiming im perfect. I think i have shown my negative side here enough. lol But Im the person people turn to when they need help with their kids.



I can try. But parents tend to be hyper sensitive when it comes to their kids. My niece is convinced its normal because some moms told her their kids went through the "terrible 2s."

Honestly, i dont think theres anything wrong with him. Theres just no consequences for his actions. He gets yelled at No! and a smack on the butt and thats it. It just makes his aggression worse. She should be taking away his toys so he understands his behavior has a negative affect. For now, he gets yelled at and he yells back. Thats just the way she was raised. By sister had a terrible temper before she became christian. You could hear her hysterical screaming throughout the entire house. Not sure where she got it from as my mom didnt yell often.

GOOD suggestion, W Willowy . I agree 100%.

 

[terestrife]

Going to be stuck sharing my room for two weeks with my niece. I struggle with sleep and with the hormone medicine im on (this is TMI i apologize lol) i wake up at night sweaty. Been struggling with hot flashes since i started having these health issues. I go from extremely hot that i can't wear anything, to being extremely cold. Wanted these two weeks to relax and not deal with anyone or anything.

I'm sorry everyone, just in a sour mood all week and haven't been feeling well. I should be happy my niece is here. I'm blessed that I'm working and have time off. I'm aware of my blessings. Just trying to shake off the black cloud.

 

[tarasgirl06]

Going to be stuck sharing my room for two weeks with my niece. I struggle with sleep and with the hormone medicine im on (this is TMI i apologize lol) i wake up at night sweaty. Been struggling with hot flashes since i started having these health issues. I go from extremely hot that i can't wear anything, to being extremely cold. Wanted these two weeks to relax and not deal with anyone or anything.

I'm sorry everyone, just in a sour mood all week and haven't been feeling well. I should be happy my niece is here. I'm blessed that I'm working and have time off. I'm aware of my blessings. Just trying to shake off the black cloud.

It'll go up and down. It will change. You know. This is a tough time for you (in a long line of tough time) but it WILL pass.

 

[terestrife]

My sister is having breathing issues. Not sure if its the obsessive cleaning shes doing, or the cats. Her husband lightly pushed my cat to get her off a chair, had to tell him to let me know to move her and not push her. He then starts complaining about the cats affecting my sister.

I dont like her being sick. but i have no where to go and i cant abandon the cats. Shes always told me not to lock up the cats for her sake. I would have, if she ever asks. Im sick of this guy acting like his opinion matters here. On top of that, i have had to hear whining about the cats in two houses. Im so freaking sick of it. To have this man (dont want to curse and break a rule here lol) trying to tell me what do with the cats made me so angry. i don't want my sister to be sick, but where am i supposed to stick them? i genuinely cannot stand this man and these ugly feelings start to transfer to my cats.

I've had so many issues in the two houses i have lived in that it makes me resent my cats sometimes. i had to leave my childhood home because my brother despises them and wouldn't stop complaining. Now here i have to hear complaining from my niece, my sister, and now her husband. Every time my nephew would get sick somehow it was magically the cats fault. I cant go to a cheap efficiency because its more complicated when you have two cats. Everywhere i go will cost me more because of the cats. I love my cats and would never abandon them, but i do wish i had waited to be independent to adopt them.

I'm not being uncaring, i don't like that they affect my sister. It isn't my choice to be here. I would have left long ago if i could afford it. I was tempted to tell my sister to let me know if the cats bother her husband, so i can lock them up, but i dont want to cause a potential rift. Shes very protective of him. I can already tell hes annoyed with the cats.

I'm tired and feeling very lost. They leave in a week, but my sister keeps mentioning renting this place. The bills are behind and no one can catch up. Not sure what i will do. My niece can afford an apartment but i cant.

For now, i cannot wait for my sister and her husband to get out of here. The constant complaining from my sister gets to me too. My niece is a pig and leaves food out for days, so we are infested with roaches (she also caused the tick infestation.) Now they are making a big deal about being clean, when the truth is my niece will go back to get a pig once my sister is gone.

My sister hasn't talked to my niece about the cats and her baby either. With so many people here, the baby isnt focusing on my cats as much so she isn't seeing the obsessive behavior.

An update about my nieces dog. They gave him some kind of flea/tick medicine that my niece (the one that is visiting) uses on her pets. She gets it from a vet. They are trying to see if they can take spooky to a vet to get checked out. My sister has been pushing my niece to rehome the dog, but shes refusing. Not sure if its worth getting the dog fixed up when he will go back to his original state in a few months. But at least a vet will tell us what his condition is. My sister bathed and clipped his fur.

My niece actually had the gall to ask if she could adopt a Dalmatian. How can you abuse a dog, and have people tell you that he could die, and you want another animal? I know i am not perfect, but i know my faults well. I know when i do, say, or even think, bad things. And i sometimes wonder how people can be so in denial of the bad things they do?

 

[Lari]

I hope your sister doesn't have Covid. That would be my thought before it being the cats causing it.

I'm sorry things are so rough right now terestrife . I hope you had at least a little bit of a Merry Christmas.

 

[terestrife]

I hope your sister doesn't have Covid. That would be my thought before it being the cats causing it.

I'm sorry things are so rough right now terestrife . I hope you had at least a little bit of a Merry Christmas.

She spent years cleaning with bleach and doing home repairs. So when she got older she started having issues with difficulty of breathing when she's around dust, cleaning agents, or pets. The problem is that she aggravates things by going near the cats. She even kissed my cat a few days ago. If she stays away from them she's fine.

My christmas was okay. Just sucks that i looked forward to having two weeks off all year long, and ive been stuck with my sister, her husband. My niece is here, which she doesnt bother me. But her husband and his brother are all here.

7 people using my one bathroom, and making a mess. And taking forever in there. Stuck with them all for one more week.

Yesterday was a mission. My nieces take over the bathroom for over 2 hours, and i kept asking to use it. Like children i had to ask their mother to get them out of there. I sometimes feel like my sister overly spoiled her kids, and they think of themselves first.

I hope yours was better. All things considered, i am glad i was able to spend time with family. My dad decided to take the risk and go to Cuba, which has left me concerned.

 

[Lari]

I guess if it's something that's been happening I'd see why you think it's the cats. Whereas I'm just covid paranoid. I hope your dad is able to stay safe and healthy on his trip to Cuba.

Seven people per bathroom? Ugh, that sounds like a nightmare.

My Christmas was pretty good, thanks. I'll be crossing my fingers that things can turn around for you in 2021.

 

[tarasgirl06]

She spent years cleaning with bleach and doing home repairs. So when she got older she started having issues with difficulty of breathing when she's around dust, cleaning agents, or pets. The problem is that she aggravates things by going near the cats. She even kissed my cat a few days ago. If she stays away from them she's fine.

My christmas was okay. Just sucks that i looked forward to having two weeks off all year long, and ive been stuck with my sister, her husband. My niece is here, which she doesnt bother me. But her husband and his brother are all here.

7 people using my one bathroom, and making a mess. And taking forever in there. Stuck with them all for one more week.

Yesterday was a mission. My nieces take over the bathroom for over 2 hours, and i kept asking to use it. Like children i had to ask their mother to get them out of there. I sometimes feel like my sister overly spoiled her kids, and they think of themselves first.

I hope yours was better. All things considered, i am glad i was able to spend time with family. My dad decided to take the risk and go to Cuba, which has left me concerned.

There are numerous allergy drugs, Rx and OTC. I have had friends who were "allergic" to cats, whose love for and loyalty to their cats took priority over the "allergy". They took drugs for this. There are more of these drugs all the time and some of them are said to be very effective.
Other than that, I'm afraid I don't have anything positive to say in what sounds like insurmountable problems, except that I pray for your situation to improve and for you and your cats to be able to get away from all of these very, very dysfunctional people.

 

[terestrife]

I guess if it's something that's been happening I'd see why you think it's the cats. Whereas I'm just covid paranoid. I hope your dad is able to stay safe and healthy on his trip to Cuba.

Seven people per bathroom? Ugh, that sounds like a nightmare.

My Christmas was pretty good, thanks. I'll be crossing my fingers that things can turn around for you in 2021.

Shes complained of pet allergies these past few years. But i am worried because she has a slight fever. My niece also had a slight fever after the christmas party. My nephew was congested too. I'll insist she go get the covid test if she keeps feeling bad.

The bathroom is gross, i hope everyone leaves soon. Especially with 3 men in the group. Just one more week and they will be gone.

Im glad your christmas was good. I know some people didnt bother celebrating with family.

There are numerous allergy drugs, Rx and OTC. I have had friends who were "allergic" to cats, whose love for and loyalty to their cats took priority over the "allergy". They took drugs for this. There are more of these drugs all the time and some of them are said to be very effective.
Other than that, I'm afraid I don't have anything positive to say in what sounds like insurmountable problems, except that I pray for your situation to improve and for you and your cats to be able to get away from all of these very, very dysfunctional people.

Shes taking Benadryl. I offered my own non-drowsy allergy meds, but she says shes scared of gaining weight. To be honest, i sometimes think my sister creates her own illnesses. She lived with animals for years, and then suddenly has breathing issues. Shes constantly sick with different things. Even my mom thought she was making things up. If you spoke to her of your health issues, she would tell you she has or has gone through the same illness. LOL I remember she told me i was lucky my back pain isnt as bad as hers. While i was in severe pain.

I pray i am wrong. I think thats why i dont feel panicky when she complains about her allergies. My sister and husband were saying someone asked to buy their home, and they were hinting about doing a business with my brother. I think my sisters husband knows i cant stand him. He says they might move in soon and i will be stuck being annoyed with him. This house is about to be lost and they arent doing anything to save it, and they want to move in. lol

I pray they dont move in. He isnt paying bills here (occasionally replaces/repairs things) but he still thinks he has a voice. He was telling me if they move in that we had to do something with the cats. My sister wants to enclose the front porch and shove the cats in there 24/7.

My sister doesnt hate the cats, she hasnt even asked me to lock them up due to her allergies. I was expecting her to do this. But i dont like the thought of my cats locked up in a small space. Even less do i like this guy coming in here and making demands. My niece thinks they wont move down for a few years. But thats not what it sounded like to me. I might need to start really trying to change jobs, even though i didn't want to take that risk. I cant stand the thought of living with this guy and the house being so full. Its been stressful having everyone here this past week.

Anyway, i do have positive news about my niece. Her hair is finally cut!!!! This has been a constant worry of mine. My sister said there was so much buildup on her scalp that she had to wash her hair 8 times. She had to cut off three huge balls of hair. My niece hates the haircut, but hopefully it will grow quickly. My SIL tried to insist that she was eventually taking her to a salon, but my brother put his foot down. Her hair used to be waist length.

 

[Lari]

Yay for the haircut!