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yep that is so true=I was harassed in 5th grade=some nasty girl tried to get me to do things I was uncomfortable with-then when we went to school after that weekend=she told everyone horrible lies about me. I got whispers in my ear are you still a -----? in High school=I couldn't wait to leave that school. all my years I was a loner. I read books..I was reading dean koontz by 6th grade. I hated girls and loved hanging with boys=because they didn't pull the stuff girls do. I got involved in cycling. I hated riding the bus so I biked 5 miles to and from school to avoid the bus as much as I could.
Years later some of the popular girls said they had much respect for me. I was athletic and took no crap from anyone. I also had an art talent that I hyper focused on. Drawing, reading and MUSIC and my bike were my saving grace.
The trick is=STAND UP AND LOOK THEM IN THE EYE. They are cowards and someday they will see how dumb they are. But Don't give in to the urge to self harm or other coping methods that could cause harm. We all have to learn to love ourselves. It hurts. I know. I still cry to this day when I think about those nasty girls. My parents went to the principle to stop the nonsense and they said there's nothing they can do...the following year the nasty girl moved away-I don't even remember her name-I hated her with all my passion. Maybe she fixed her ways but I doubt it.
I did meet a few girl friends from the prior grade=those two girls are my best friends still. We don't chat as much as we have gone off the path but we still say hi on facebook and we try to keep in contact the best we can.
All I can say is people suck. So with my love of cats=going to people's houses to get away from my horrible home life and get away from horrible students=I felt trapped-meaning I couldn't stay home without being in an environment that was toxic. I vowed to never feel that way again.
Some things in my life have revealed to myself that I am now starting to feel trapped again=so I know I have to make some hard decisions to keep my sanity=job wise and love wise.
But for now=I cling onto my friends online, in person, my cats and hope this too shall pass. And learn coping skills. Because it's not my fault I was never taught this as a child-what I was taught-drink until I don't feel anything, take pills to numb the pain but as an older adult I know now that is not how healthy adults handle things. So my journey is leanring new ways to think=stop using the old crap voices telling me I am worthless. Because those voices are WRONG. We all deserve happiness and be treated like decent human beings.
Keep searching for real friends. PM if you need a shoulder. I have been there. But know there's a few of us gems left in the world-and NEVER GIVE UP.
From one tortured child to another=nothing but hugs and love.
Years later some of the popular girls said they had much respect for me. I was athletic and took no crap from anyone. I also had an art talent that I hyper focused on. Drawing, reading and MUSIC and my bike were my saving grace.
The trick is=STAND UP AND LOOK THEM IN THE EYE. They are cowards and someday they will see how dumb they are. But Don't give in to the urge to self harm or other coping methods that could cause harm. We all have to learn to love ourselves. It hurts. I know. I still cry to this day when I think about those nasty girls. My parents went to the principle to stop the nonsense and they said there's nothing they can do...the following year the nasty girl moved away-I don't even remember her name-I hated her with all my passion. Maybe she fixed her ways but I doubt it.
I did meet a few girl friends from the prior grade=those two girls are my best friends still. We don't chat as much as we have gone off the path but we still say hi on facebook and we try to keep in contact the best we can.
All I can say is people suck. So with my love of cats=going to people's houses to get away from my horrible home life and get away from horrible students=I felt trapped-meaning I couldn't stay home without being in an environment that was toxic. I vowed to never feel that way again.
Some things in my life have revealed to myself that I am now starting to feel trapped again=so I know I have to make some hard decisions to keep my sanity=job wise and love wise.
But for now=I cling onto my friends online, in person, my cats and hope this too shall pass. And learn coping skills. Because it's not my fault I was never taught this as a child-what I was taught-drink until I don't feel anything, take pills to numb the pain but as an older adult I know now that is not how healthy adults handle things. So my journey is leanring new ways to think=stop using the old crap voices telling me I am worthless. Because those voices are WRONG. We all deserve happiness and be treated like decent human beings.
Keep searching for real friends. PM if you need a shoulder. I have been there. But know there's a few of us gems left in the world-and NEVER GIVE UP.
From one tortured child to another=nothing but hugs and love.
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