I made a thread about my husband and I separating not too long ago, and the story behind it. Well I got a big surprise tonight from him.
I was out for dinner with the BF's family for his dad's birthday. We went back to his dad's house for some cake and to relax, when my [ex] texted me, asking if I had been at Outback, and to tell me he was going to be a father and wanted me to hear it before he posted on FB. That was a shocker.... we had been together for 7 years and he told me he never wanted any kids, didn't like them, etc. Kind of makes me wonder if he just said that for my sake, which was something I always worried about. I'm openly and adamantly childfree, and have been since before we were together.
I imagine she's about 2 months pregnant, he posted the ultrasound picture tonight. Two weeks ago he had ordered a baby monitor through our joint credit card rewards program that I sort of wondered about, but since he hadn't told me anything I began to wonder if it was for a friend or family member. I told him I'm glad he is happy, since he told me he is very excited to be a father and the girl is great. (This girl tried to get between us while we were in happier times). Quite a few of us are in fact shocked he got her pregnant so quickly though, especially after saying how he wanted a year separation with me to give it a chance for us to get back together before finalizing a divorce. I imagine the 90-day SC divorce will be drawn up now, so we are legally apart before the baby is born and I won't be surprised if he marries her shortly after to "do the right thing".
There is absolutely no going back now, not even years in the future like we said was a possibility if it was meant to be. The BF and I are doing great, so its not as though I'm having thoughts about returning. I actually feel like the decision to separate was the right thing - if he was wanting to be a dad, he would never have had the opportunity with me. We truly wanted different things I guess. It does suck that the idiots I thought were my friends who began to judge me in the beginning still will judge me, and are all patting him on the back.
It's just crazy to see someone you thought you knew everything about do a 180 in just mere months...
I was out for dinner with the BF's family for his dad's birthday. We went back to his dad's house for some cake and to relax, when my [ex] texted me, asking if I had been at Outback, and to tell me he was going to be a father and wanted me to hear it before he posted on FB. That was a shocker.... we had been together for 7 years and he told me he never wanted any kids, didn't like them, etc. Kind of makes me wonder if he just said that for my sake, which was something I always worried about. I'm openly and adamantly childfree, and have been since before we were together.
I imagine she's about 2 months pregnant, he posted the ultrasound picture tonight. Two weeks ago he had ordered a baby monitor through our joint credit card rewards program that I sort of wondered about, but since he hadn't told me anything I began to wonder if it was for a friend or family member. I told him I'm glad he is happy, since he told me he is very excited to be a father and the girl is great. (This girl tried to get between us while we were in happier times). Quite a few of us are in fact shocked he got her pregnant so quickly though, especially after saying how he wanted a year separation with me to give it a chance for us to get back together before finalizing a divorce. I imagine the 90-day SC divorce will be drawn up now, so we are legally apart before the baby is born and I won't be surprised if he marries her shortly after to "do the right thing".
There is absolutely no going back now, not even years in the future like we said was a possibility if it was meant to be. The BF and I are doing great, so its not as though I'm having thoughts about returning. I actually feel like the decision to separate was the right thing - if he was wanting to be a dad, he would never have had the opportunity with me. We truly wanted different things I guess. It does suck that the idiots I thought were my friends who began to judge me in the beginning still will judge me, and are all patting him on the back.
It's just crazy to see someone you thought you knew everything about do a 180 in just mere months...