I definitely wouldn't mind having a significant other in my life. I just haven't had the best luck romantically. The boys I've dated tend to be... very carefree and inconsiderate to my concerns/feelings about whatever problem may arise in the relationship. Some have just not been good people in general.If you don't have one, do you want one? or tell us about an ex or one who is longer with you. If you fancy someone where would you like to go on your first date?
I have a few examples:
1. I met a guy on this social app thingy (I don't know how to describe it). Basically, you can connect with people in your area and make friends. I think he messaged me first, I don't remember. We both liked art and bonded over that. He asked me to come over. Which I did, we had both stated before that neither of us were in a relationship. Long story short, he lied. He had a girlfriend. She was just out of the city (in a whole other province if I remember correctly). I'm not sure what he expected but I guess when I got to his house, he felt guilty so he eventually told me about her. Which put me in a very uncomfortable situation. He then told me that she was upset and his phone kept blowing up (I'm assuming his girlfriend was upset with me being there) so I left. I eventually cut all contact with him.
2. Met this guy on another social app thingy. He had a drinking problem he refused to acknowledge and would drunk text me. When I'd ask about it, he would always say he had little to no recollection of the text or sending it. He was a very nice person but I just couldn't get over the drinking. He was getting hammed almost 3 times a week and went out frequently with "the boys". There was always alcohol in the house, almost always a drink in hand. I didn't know how to bring it up because I was afraid I'd offend him. Since he never treated me poorly, I just allowed it. But he started to change eventually and I couldn't take it anymore so I told him that we shouldn't see each other anymore.
3. This particular gentleman, I met in college. He took advantage of me emotionally and physically and it took me months to realize that. The last straw was when he cheated on me and told me that he was going to be seeing the other girl instead. I cut all contact with him. But he messaged me after he thought I had "cooled down". I told him to kick rocks.
I haven't dated anyone in a whole year now because of all these negative experiences. I don't doubt that there are good men out there, I'm just not finding them. I'm also told that I think too much. Multiple guys have told me this. I like planning ahead - I don't see the harm in that.
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