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Back in late September, I adopted a now nearly 2 year old male cat, Kirby. We had some bumps along the road with introductions to our nearly 5 year old female cat, Sango. I shared in prior threads of how Kirby would chase Sango around and she perceived it as bullying and hid. I used a lot of the advice shared on this forum and other cat behavior sites and things have improved a lot.
In fact, she chases him a lot now to play with him.
A big however though- Whenever she is resting on a spot, Kirby will be a jerk wad and have to groom her until she's irritated enough that she moves off her spot. I think he's doing this on purpose to claim her favorite spots. Sometimes she will swat him and he'll back off but 9 times of 10, she will move. I get the whole cat pecking order, except when Sango gets kicked off her resting spot, she will start meowing at me for attention and even start pawing at me (or the couch, full claws out) - she is a very attention seeking cat and always wants my attention specifically. I play with her constantly and when she rests, it is a blessing!
I have tried moving Kirby but that's only a temporary fix. It sometimes helps playing with him while she rests, but again that's temporary (and I want to rest too, especially in the evenings after work) - and sometimes playing with him wakes her up. I have plenty of cat trees, perches, etc. for them, but he only wants where she is resting.
Is there anything I can do to improve things? Or is this a time thing because he's still a fairly new cat to our house? He occasionally finds his own resting spots but he mostly wants to be where she is (and usually that's somewhere near me, being the clingy thing she is).
In fact, she chases him a lot now to play with him.
A big however though- Whenever she is resting on a spot, Kirby will be a jerk wad and have to groom her until she's irritated enough that she moves off her spot. I think he's doing this on purpose to claim her favorite spots. Sometimes she will swat him and he'll back off but 9 times of 10, she will move. I get the whole cat pecking order, except when Sango gets kicked off her resting spot, she will start meowing at me for attention and even start pawing at me (or the couch, full claws out) - she is a very attention seeking cat and always wants my attention specifically. I play with her constantly and when she rests, it is a blessing!
I have tried moving Kirby but that's only a temporary fix. It sometimes helps playing with him while she rests, but again that's temporary (and I want to rest too, especially in the evenings after work) - and sometimes playing with him wakes her up. I have plenty of cat trees, perches, etc. for them, but he only wants where she is resting.
Is there anything I can do to improve things? Or is this a time thing because he's still a fairly new cat to our house? He occasionally finds his own resting spots but he mostly wants to be where she is (and usually that's somewhere near me, being the clingy thing she is).