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Hi y’all. I’ve never posted here before but I am REALLY in need of some advice and (hopefully) some hope in regards to my current situation.
A week ago my fiancé and I adopted a 1 1/2 year old tortise cat named gwart and she’s the sweetest most affectionate thing. We got her so she could be a companion for my 1 1/2 year old cat named mochi. And also because she was so cute and oh so sweet.
introducing them went okay. We kept them seperate for the first few days, swapped scents, used feliway, tried to feed them on opposite sides of the door (although my resident cat didn’t partake as he’s particular about where his food bowl goes lol) and when we actually physically introduced them it was relatively fine. No fighting. Light swatting and a few hisses at first but nothing major. Although My resident cat was/is stressed and didn’t eat much for the first three days. Fast forward to now a week later and there’s no hissing or swatting at all. My resident cat is eating again and I even saw them playing for a short time this morning.
my question is this: why do I still have so much anxiety? We keep them seperate while we sleep or go to work and then let them interact while we’re home and monitoring them. My resident cat will barely play with me whereas before he played every day with me for at least an hour. Now he seems to be totally uninterested in playing at all. He follows the newbie around, and watches her every move basically. She wants to play all the time and wants my attention constantly, although I do give my resident cat more because I want him to feel like He’s still the head of the house.
Like I said they’ve played a bit but I’m sad because I miss playing with mochi. I loved playing with him every day after work. I am afraid that adopting this new cat is going to cause his personality to change or him to become depressed and reserved. I know it’s only been aweek and I know this will take time but I can’t shake the anxiety. I feel guilty for sometimes thinking bringing her home was a bad idea because she’s the SWEETEST. I just miss how mochi and I used to play/interact.
siiiiiigh. Any opinions?
I’ve also attached photos of them for cutes.
A week ago my fiancé and I adopted a 1 1/2 year old tortise cat named gwart and she’s the sweetest most affectionate thing. We got her so she could be a companion for my 1 1/2 year old cat named mochi. And also because she was so cute and oh so sweet.
introducing them went okay. We kept them seperate for the first few days, swapped scents, used feliway, tried to feed them on opposite sides of the door (although my resident cat didn’t partake as he’s particular about where his food bowl goes lol) and when we actually physically introduced them it was relatively fine. No fighting. Light swatting and a few hisses at first but nothing major. Although My resident cat was/is stressed and didn’t eat much for the first three days. Fast forward to now a week later and there’s no hissing or swatting at all. My resident cat is eating again and I even saw them playing for a short time this morning.
my question is this: why do I still have so much anxiety? We keep them seperate while we sleep or go to work and then let them interact while we’re home and monitoring them. My resident cat will barely play with me whereas before he played every day with me for at least an hour. Now he seems to be totally uninterested in playing at all. He follows the newbie around, and watches her every move basically. She wants to play all the time and wants my attention constantly, although I do give my resident cat more because I want him to feel like He’s still the head of the house.
Like I said they’ve played a bit but I’m sad because I miss playing with mochi. I loved playing with him every day after work. I am afraid that adopting this new cat is going to cause his personality to change or him to become depressed and reserved. I know it’s only been aweek and I know this will take time but I can’t shake the anxiety. I feel guilty for sometimes thinking bringing her home was a bad idea because she’s the SWEETEST. I just miss how mochi and I used to play/interact.
siiiiiigh. Any opinions?
I’ve also attached photos of them for cutes.
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