I have a very sick cat who is 16 years old. After many weeks of heartbreaking debate, we've decided that it's time to say goodbye. However, we have run into difficulties. He has always been very sweet to my husband and I, but can not stand other people. When we have visitors of any kind he will approach and growl. He gets very upset and agitated. He's never attacked or bit anyone but he is very vocal. Taking him to the vet is a nightmare. He hates being in the car and begins to meow frantically and will even pant. At his most recent visit, he SCREAMED like a cat in a fight, he hissed, growled and was hysterical to the point he defecated. The vet gave him a shot and he was so worked up he wouldn't sedate, his body was fighting it with all the adrenaline. I spoke to my vet about what we do when it's time, this was months ago, and she said she'd come to my home to help make his passing easier. I called the office thursday and told them that he's reached that time. Now, the vet is back pedaling saying she won't come out here , that he needs to be brought in. But he acts crazy when taken in...he takes gabapentin for pain, and the plan has always been to give him a bigger dose of that before hand to sedate him. Now they are saying that even if I sedated him before hand, it could snap out of the sedation when they are trying to work on him, even at home. So it won't go easy. So now it has turned into a horrible situation and I don't know what to do. His last moments should be peaceful, not frightened and screaming. The vet is back pedaling on me when I need her most. What do I do? I have read that the vet puts an iv catheter in their arm and then the drug, but are there any vets that will call in something that I can administer myself, maybe IM ? I don't want to be the one to do this, but I will so he has a peaceful passing. I don't know if any vets do that? Has anyone had a similar experience? What are my options, what do I do?