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Hello,
Barely a week has passed since the loss of my other cat to kidney failure and i am back on here again.
My surviving bicolor male is extremely distressed over the loss of the other cat. He did not see the other cat when he was dead as I brought him straight to the vet hoping he was still alive (didn't want to believe he was dead).
These two cats as seen in my byline photo have been together for the last seven years give or take. They went from sworn enemies (the deceased cat would come up when neither were neutered and attack the bicolor) to sharing territory with regular outbreaks of hostility to (when both were neutered) an increasingly close if fractious relationship. They were together most of the time, would sleep together in front of the range in the evening and shelter from the sun under a large box hedge in the garden. In the last four months the bicolor would regularly lick the now deceased cat on the head and body and smell him but on the last day when the cat was near death would not go near him when I brought him into the room to say his goodbyes so I thought he wasn't too concerned.
Since my other cat died - the bicolor who is completely deaf is following me around the kitchen meowing constantly. He has gone down into the cellar (something he never did as he is very arthritic) to I think look for the other cat. It is a very steep flight of steps down there but he clambered down anyway. I followed him - he spent the next 15 minutes climbing over boxes and looking in every nook and cranny for the other cat. He regularly if the door is open lies in the same place in the dining room where the other cat lay for most of the last few hours of his life. It must be because there is a residue of the other cats smell there. Last night the side door was open the cat stood there looking out as if waiting for the other cat to come in. Whenever I am in the kitchen he follows me around meowing. He only started to come into the kitchen in the last six months. He associates me with food and if I am holding anything he will meow and approach me asking me to 'feed him'. He is eating much too much so I cut back on his food as he had gained a lot of weight but he is still following me around. I regularly pet and groom the cat but I am only a human and I can't bring his companion back.. This is now happening all the time I am in the kitchen even after he is fed. I don't know what else to do about this cat. He is even more distressed than I am about the loss of his friend. I try to tell him that his friend is not coming back and I shake my head in front of him when I am shedding a few tears but it has not registered yet. He should have seen his friend when he was deceased. How do I stop this guy following me around the kitchen meowing for food ? I think he is comfort eating but he is already overweight and I don't want him to get diabetes. What I have been doing is petting him instead when he meows or grooming him and that will calm him down for a minute or so but then he goes back to meowing and following me around the room
Pudner1
Barely a week has passed since the loss of my other cat to kidney failure and i am back on here again.
My surviving bicolor male is extremely distressed over the loss of the other cat. He did not see the other cat when he was dead as I brought him straight to the vet hoping he was still alive (didn't want to believe he was dead).
These two cats as seen in my byline photo have been together for the last seven years give or take. They went from sworn enemies (the deceased cat would come up when neither were neutered and attack the bicolor) to sharing territory with regular outbreaks of hostility to (when both were neutered) an increasingly close if fractious relationship. They were together most of the time, would sleep together in front of the range in the evening and shelter from the sun under a large box hedge in the garden. In the last four months the bicolor would regularly lick the now deceased cat on the head and body and smell him but on the last day when the cat was near death would not go near him when I brought him into the room to say his goodbyes so I thought he wasn't too concerned.
Since my other cat died - the bicolor who is completely deaf is following me around the kitchen meowing constantly. He has gone down into the cellar (something he never did as he is very arthritic) to I think look for the other cat. It is a very steep flight of steps down there but he clambered down anyway. I followed him - he spent the next 15 minutes climbing over boxes and looking in every nook and cranny for the other cat. He regularly if the door is open lies in the same place in the dining room where the other cat lay for most of the last few hours of his life. It must be because there is a residue of the other cats smell there. Last night the side door was open the cat stood there looking out as if waiting for the other cat to come in. Whenever I am in the kitchen he follows me around meowing. He only started to come into the kitchen in the last six months. He associates me with food and if I am holding anything he will meow and approach me asking me to 'feed him'. He is eating much too much so I cut back on his food as he had gained a lot of weight but he is still following me around. I regularly pet and groom the cat but I am only a human and I can't bring his companion back.. This is now happening all the time I am in the kitchen even after he is fed. I don't know what else to do about this cat. He is even more distressed than I am about the loss of his friend. I try to tell him that his friend is not coming back and I shake my head in front of him when I am shedding a few tears but it has not registered yet. He should have seen his friend when he was deceased. How do I stop this guy following me around the kitchen meowing for food ? I think he is comfort eating but he is already overweight and I don't want him to get diabetes. What I have been doing is petting him instead when he meows or grooming him and that will calm him down for a minute or so but then he goes back to meowing and following me around the room
Pudner1