Thank you so much for your advice abd kind words. It does make me feel more validated to hear your stories! It can get discouraging but Im trusting the process. By the way, today Boogie made the biggest step for him yet and actually LEF THE SAFE ROOM for the first time in two months! I was reading on the couch and he came into the room, super scared at first and moving very slowly. At the end he lied and took a brief nap! I am so happy!!
Well, that's very good news that he is venturing out and having fun. It shows that his confidence have picked up.
This is just the best news!
Thank you! As some of you said, I am learning patience is the way to go! It is definitely one step forward two backwards with him. The next morning of him laying with me in the living room, he came to the kitchen, where I was at that moment, and explored it. It was the first time he was actually moving in the open room and not close to the walls like a ninja! He is a lot more skittish with my partner though, but I guess it is because Ive spent much more time with him and I am his primary carer.
Aww,that's so cute.... Yeah,it just takes time is all
You're doing great,no worries.... The dance is very very normal,1,2,3 forward then back and so on.... It'll be fine,slowly but surely
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Kittens,yes- they adjust,there's absolutely no reason they need to see the outside world -indoors is their "world"
We try to move as slowly as we can around him. Its only my partner and I in the house and I dont think we are being really noisy… I do see he is more comfortable with me than with my partner, who is a bit louder than I am (but still I wouldnt consider ourselves loud). I cant think of any loud noises that might be scaring him really… When Im with him in the kitchen and he is resting and laying tummy up, even if Im using noisy utensils, he doesnt seem to mind and keeps sleeping.
Does he stay in your room when you go to bed ,you say he stays under the table during the day- kitchen table? Where is his safe room?
His safe room is the guest room, but now he is usually in the kitchen (I think because its the coolest room in the house). At night he explores the house and he does come into our room. Ive caught him twice coming to the living room qhen we were watching TV. He laid for like fice minutes and then went back to the kitchen. When we wake up in the morning he is always back under the kitchen table.
This is pretty normal. After reading the later posts, it seems that the kitchen table is one of his favorite place to be and also one of his safe place. I'm not sure if he can see you guys from there. If he can, it's his way of being a lap cat. Not all cats are lap cats and when cats are not lapping on you, doesn't mean they are not lap cats. They can be at a position somewhere where they can see you and are near you and that's a lap cat in the manner.
Kwik
mentioned, get some toys and play with him. Have interactions with him while he's awake in the day and try to play away from the safe room. 
Kwik
noted, playing is always a good option. I have fostered a shy little brown tabby called Sophie who would not come out of her safe room. I tried to lure her out with toys, but it didn't usually work as she was not toy-motivated. We had to use wet treat to get her out into the living room, but she would only do that at night. She didn't have time to fully adjust before our time with her was over. But usually, toys are always my first resort. Lure your cat out with a toy that puts a lot of distance between them and you.Yes! I have a long piece of string tied to a stick that he loves to play with (he doesnt like regular wand toys, I think because the string is too short and he gets scared of being so close to us). He comes from under the table and moves around the room. Even gets the zoomies while playing! I always play with him 3-4 times a day and he loves it. He also eats treats from my hand, though if he hears any noise, he will retreat to under the table.
Thank you for your kind words! He can deffinitely see us from under the table and so can we, so Ill take it as a positive sign!This is pretty normal. After reading the later posts, it seems that the kitchen table is one of his favorite place to be and also one of his safe place. I'm not sure if he can see you guys from there. If he can, it's his way of being a lap cat. Not all cats are lap cats and when cats are not lapping on you, doesn't mean they are not lap cats. They can be at a position somewhere where they can see you and are near you and that's a lap cat in the manner.
Having his belly up in the kitchen shows a lot of good signs. Also he came to the room where you guys are watching tv, it means that he's checking out the place too and curious what the sound is and coming from.
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Also kittens sleep lots and cats are crepuscular creatures meaning that they are most active from dawn to dusk and hat's why the kitten is out at play in the night.
Definitely he'll adjust living indoors. Give him time and also plan a routine for him so that he can follow. Don't let him do things his way but don't force him in any way. The other thing is that their sleeping habits will change. Now it's the kitchen table and next will be somewhere else. They'll snooze wherever they feel comfortable and safe. My boy is coming to 8 years old and he's a rescue at around 3 - 4weeks old and till today, his sleeping place always change And sometimes I just cannot find him
Don't worry, you are making good progress. Just don't be discourage. I'd always one step forward and two steps back. No one's and no kitties are perfect.
Fantastic! So those long stringy things you've made are excellent,they can get shorter and eventually he'll enjoy the wands-a safe distance is always best for thst type of play- you're doing well- good to hear it.....I do have to ask,you hadn't mentioned and I know he's your first kitty so just know thst I ask because I'm here to offer help,support and encouragement- not for any other reason
tabbytom
explained he is being a 'lapcat" in his way-- the belly up in the kitchen,watching you from under the table and don't forget the 5minutes he spent by you & your partner in tye living room!Remember a good 5minutes is spectacular,it's not " how long " that matters,it's that it's a good interaction ending on a good note..... an hour of something great that ends badly is unproductive,they'll only associate the end resultYeah, you are right. I never expected him to be a lap cat (the idea that we all have in mind of one). I am just worried that he gets very anxious and every interaction we have its like he has to warm up to us before fully relaxing. Also if he is out of the kitchen and catches our eye, he runs back to it. This is what I am worried about, him being so anxious… Also the fact that I cant pet him, at all. I stopped trying because I read it would be better for him to initiate, but him being so anxious makes me think the petting is so far away from happening… it makes me sad cause I dont mind him not being a “traditional” lap cat, but I do wish he interacted with us more, even if it was laying a couple feet from us in the room we were in, which has only happened twice for now…Fantastic! So those long stringy things you've made are excellent,they can get shorter and eventually he'll enjoy the wands-a safe distance is always best for thst type of play- you're doing well- good to hear it.....I do have to ask,you hadn't mentioned and I know he's your first kitty so just know thst I ask because I'm here to offer help,support and encouragement- not for any other reason
Just so you are assured,you are doing everything right- Boogie is doing great,his behavior is not uncommon with his type of timid personality and you will be pleasantly surprised to find that once he's completely confident that timid little boy might become quite bold and end up on your lap!!!,But as
Didn't you mention considering another kitten somewhere or was thst someone else?Since you all will be away from home alot it might be an idea?
