Venting....

[Lari]

I've never had an IUD, so I'm glad you were able to get some insight from those that have and hopefully that's the end of the pain.

 

[Willowy]

The copper IUDs have heavy periods as a common side effect, but the hormonal ones (like Mirena) are supposed to make your period lighter or non-existent, the same as pills. So hopefully things will be more pleasant once your body adjusts. The cramping at first is because they had to dilate your cervix to place it and it's going back to normal now.

 

[terestrife]

I've never had an IUD, so I'm glad you were able to get some insight from those that have and hopefully that's the end of the pain.

I'm much better now. After taking some ibuprofen it took the pain away in a couple of days.

The copper IUDs have heavy periods as a common side effect, but the hormonal ones (like Mirena) are supposed to make your period lighter or non-existent, the same as pills. So hopefully things will be more pleasant once your body adjusts. The cramping at first is because they had to dilate your cervix to place it and it's going back to normal now.

My period is already gone since I've been on megestrol. Which is a relief. Lol

Thanks again for responding. I started reading online about the iud migrating and i was sure that's what was happening. Freaked me out. Lol
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My sister is here. Remember how my cats supposedly gave her ashtma and she can't be near pet hair ever again or she needs the inhaler? (that she's allergic to.)

This morning she was comfortably hanging out in a room that my nieces 2 dogs and cat stayed in for a week. They weren't in there, but the room is full of pet hair that hasn't been cleaned.

Not one single sniffle did she get. this is why i don't feel sorry for her when shes sick. Her illnesses are always so exaggerated and convenient. I truly believe she makes them up for sympathy. Or she makes herself sick.

 

[tarasgirl06]

They seem happy and calmer now. I'm not happy that my niece got her way as always. But I'm glad my cats are happy and safe. I don't need to worry as much about them now.

Thank you for sharing that information. Its my first time getting an iud so i wasn't sure what to expect. Your post made me feel relieved.

I didn't get it for birth control. Mirena has a secondary use, it helps with providing progesterone when you have precancerous cells.

Yes, I know that. So you need the IUD, it seems, for your health. I hope it calms down in time, and am glad my info helps; but if it doesn't change, at least you know those are common side-effects of having an IUD.
Yeah, it seems everything in life has baggage attached. We have to compromise in just about everything. Not happy! but we do the best we can, right?
Umm, yeah, on the other subject. I have always had the feeling that it is largely self-induced and imaginary. You know how when we don't like someone or are irritated/annoyed by someone, that it seems their faults are magnified and we become hypersensitive to them? I'm not saying your sister dislikes you! but someone(s) is/are causing her a lot of stress, and often people redirect onto someone else when this happens. It's like the story of the man who is abused at work and comes home and kicks his dog.

 

[terestrife]

Yes, I know that. So you need the IUD, it seems, for your health. I hope it calms down in time, and am glad my info helps; but if it doesn't change, at least you know those are common side-effects of having an IUD.
Yeah, it seems everything in life has baggage attached. We have to compromise in just about everything. Not happy! but we do the best we can, right?
Umm, yeah, on the other subject. I have always had the feeling that it is largely self-induced and imaginary. You know how when we don't like someone or are irritated/annoyed by someone, that it seems their faults are magnified and we become hypersensitive to them? I'm not saying your sister dislikes you! but someone(s) is/are causing her a lot of stress, and often people redirect onto someone else when this happens. It's like the story of the man who is abused at work and comes home and kicks his dog.

I truly think its her husband. He was helping to fix the vacuum on the house, and he just had to mention that it was full of cat hair. My sister stepped in and said it was other things too. Its just the silly need to mention the cats. I am sure my niece has also complained about the cats. I am sure she whined to her mother that she cant be expected to watch her own son 24/7. Thats exactly what she said to me. lol I think thats what caused her irritation and what made her want the cats in the garage. Shes easily susceptible to manipulation and i can see them doing that to her.

I dont love having the cat hair and litter in my room, but there is the relief that they are safe. I dont have to sit and worry the baby will hurt them anymore. They have settled into my room and are allowing me to sleep.

I just wish i could find a way to expand the space for them. I dont want to put up shelves as i dont want to deal with my sister complaining. I've thought of somehow elevating their eating area but not sure how to do that. The space is very limited for the three of us.

 

[tarasgirl06]

I truly think its her husband. He was helping to fix the vacuum on the house, and he just had to mention that it was full of cat hair. My sister stepped in and said it was other things too. Its just the silly need to mention the cats. I am sure my niece has also complained about the cats. I am sure she whined to her mother that she cant be expected to watch her own son 24/7. Thats exactly what she said to me. lol I think thats what caused her irritation and what made her want the cats in the garage. Shes easily susceptible to manipulation and i can see them doing that to her.

I dont love having the cat hair and litter in my room, but there is the relief that they are safe. I dont have to sit and worry the baby will hurt them anymore. They have settled into my room and are allowing me to sleep.

I just wish i could find a way to expand the space for them. I dont want to put up shelves as i dont want to deal with my sister complaining. I've thought of somehow elevating their eating area but not sure how to do that. The space is very limited for the three of us.

Well, the fact that they have settled in means they are accepting of the new situation. Cats are adaptable. They prefer pattern, and they don't like moving, or things moving in their environment, much; but they do adapt. I've moved so many times in my life, and different feline family members have also had several moves under their belts, and/or things changing in their environments. Baby Su has had only one move that I know of, and the same for Elvis; and we're not moving. So they have it good. But they've had to adapt to not having one room any more, and to having two people in their space that they didn't have before. All in all, they seem to have rolled with the punches.
As for cat hair and litter, well, it's part of life. I have little dustpans and brooms by every litterbox, so I can sweep the floors when necessary. They're very cheap and you can get them at dollar stores. Good investment. Humans shed hair all the time, and skin cells. No home environment is without these things. I feel for anyone obsessing about stuff like this, but seriously, people need to get real and accept that we are not sterile and our environments are not sterile, that it's been that way forever, and that we don't need to obsess over it. Normal cleaning is enough.

 

[terestrife]

Well, the fact that they have settled in means they are accepting of the new situation. Cats are adaptable. They prefer pattern, and they don't like moving, or things moving in their environment, much; but they do adapt. I've moved so many times in my life, and different feline family members have also had several moves under their belts, and/or things changing in their environments. Baby Su has had only one move that I know of, and the same for Elvis; and we're not moving. So they have it good. But they've had to adapt to not having one room any more, and to having two people in their space that they didn't have before. All in all, they seem to have rolled with the punches.
As for cat hair and litter, well, it's part of life. I have little dustpans and brooms by every litterbox, so I can sweep the floors when necessary. They're very cheap and you can get them at dollar stores. Good investment. Humans shed hair all the time, and skin cells. No home environment is without these things. I feel for anyone obsessing about stuff like this, but seriously, people need to get real and accept that we are not sterile and our environments are not sterile, that it's been that way forever, and that we don't need to obsess over it. Normal cleaning is enough.

I do sweep twice a day and have a hand held vacuum. I just tend to obsess about things. I like specific places in the house to be extra clean. One of those places is my bedroom. Sounds silly, but i like sleeping in a nice clean room.

My cats have only moved once and it took them weeks to get used to the change. So i am surprised they have gotten used to the change. But i think Kitty always wanted to be in my room. She would try to follow me up the stairs from time to time. They both seem more at peace than they have in a long time.

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(warning: womens health issues. lol)

Havent been feeling well. The cramps are pretty strong and i have been having to take ibuprofen. The thing is, a week before i got the IUD i had finished antibiotics for a UTI. The first time i ever got one. So now i dont know what is causing me pain anymore. If i still have the UTI or if its just the IUD. Just not feeling well. My gynos office recommended that i start with a urine test and then see what it says. Dont know if i should head to a PCP or just go to an urgent care to get the test over with. I am in between changing my primary doctor right now.

 

[Lari]

If you're switching doctors, I'd just go to urgent care. That's what I did when I had a uti once, because I figured it was faster than trying to get an appointment. They're perfectly qualified to check for something like that.

 

[terestrife]

If you're switching doctors, I'd just urgent care. That's what I did when I had a uti once, because I figured it was faster than trying to get an appointment. They're perfectly qualified to check for something like that.

Going in the morning, there will be less people then. I'm hoping its something simple, i dont want to be depending on ibuprofen to get through the day. I know its not a serious medication, but its not good to be taking it all the time.

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Just found out my sister decided to move down here soon. Not sure when it will be. But it seems certain this time. Its giving me awful anxiety. Her husband is being a moron and giving up a steady job, selling his house, all to start a business with one of my brothers. They are being stupid enough to give $100,000 to a man that was arrested for racketeering. Now, i love my brother. He has turned his life around and lived an honest life since he got out of prison 4 years ago. He has dedicated himself to his kids and running his own little construction company.

But i think its stupid to give up a good job, sell your home, and give all this money to him.

Regardless, what worries me the most is being stuck living with my sister and her husband. My sister drives me to insanity. Shes very possessive of her house. And whines about every single little thing. It was such a huge relief when she married some random guy and left.
My sister:
Who left this here? Who left the panini press dirty? who didnt take out their recyclables? make sure the cats dont climb on the sofa, or on the kitchen table. I see a scratch on X table, it must have been one of the cats. I see cat hair on X location.

She'll sometimes just ask calmly, its just the nagging that gets to me. Or you'll hear her in the distance yelling when she finds something wrong. My niece had her moments where she would act like her little soldier ordering the cats off of places.


Shes kind of crazy. She once told me to not bother taking out recyclables since i was working and she wasnt. That she wanted to help me out. Then one day she sent me an angry text that shes not my mind, and sent me a photo of a milk carton. Shes whined a few times because the kitchen trash can that broke was replaced. We put a cheap one and she wanted us to put the same one she had (touch free one). Her mind is hard to grasp and it makes it hard to deal with her.

Her husband tries to be nice and fixes things around the house, but i just dont like him. Theres something about him that rubs me the wrong way. Even worse i will be stuck sharing a bathroom with my niece and her boyfriend. I loved having my own bathroom since my sister left. I didnt have to deal with anyones mess.

She used the word soon. So i dont know how fast they will get everything done. I dont want to interfere with anyone having success or wish ill will on anyone. Just hope there was a way i could be gone before she moves in. I am worried that once her husband moves in, he will see himself as the owner of this house. Which is what my sister has always tried to avoid. Not sure what will come of them moving in. But i feel very worried.

 

[tarasgirl06]

Going in the morning, there will be less people then. I'm hoping its something simple, i dont want to be depending on ibuprofen to get through the day. I know its not a serious medication, but its not good to be taking it all the time.

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Just found out my sister decided to move down here soon. Not sure when it will be. But it seems certain this time. Its giving me awful anxiety. Her husband is being a moron and giving up a steady job, selling his house, all to start a business with one of my brothers. They are being stupid enough to give $100,000 to a man that was arrested for racketeering. Now, i love my brother. He has turned his life around and lived an honest life since he got out of prison 4 years ago. He has dedicated himself to his kids and running his own little construction company.

But i think its stupid to give up a good job, sell your home, and give all this money to him.

Regardless, what worries me the most is being stuck living with my sister and her husband. My sister drives me to insanity. Shes very possessive of her house. And whines about every single little thing. It was such a huge relief when she married some random guy and left.
My sister:
Who left this here? Who left the panini press dirty? who didnt take out their recyclables? make sure the cats dont climb on the sofa, or on the kitchen table. I see a scratch on X table, it must have been one of the cats. I see cat hair on X location.

She'll sometimes just ask calmly, its just the nagging that gets to me. Or you'll hear her in the distance yelling when she finds something wrong. My niece had her moments where she would act like her little soldier ordering the cats off of places.


Shes kind of crazy. She once told me to not bother taking out recyclables since i was working and she wasnt. That she wanted to help me out. Then one day she sent me an angry text that shes not my mind, and sent me a photo of a milk carton. Shes whined a few times because the kitchen trash can that broke was replaced. We put a cheap one and she wanted us to put the same one she had (touch free one). Her mind is hard to grasp and it makes it hard to deal with her.

Her husband tries to be nice and fixes things around the house, but i just dont like him. Theres something about him that rubs me the wrong way. Even worse i will be stuck sharing a bathroom with my niece and her boyfriend. I loved having my own bathroom since my sister left. I didnt have to deal with anyones mess.

She used the word soon. So i dont know how fast they will get everything done. I dont want to interfere with anyone having success or wish ill will on anyone. Just hope there was a way i could be gone before she moves in. I am worried that once her husband moves in, he will see himself as the owner of this house. Which is what my sister has always tried to avoid. Not sure what will come of them moving in. But i feel very worried.

Like you said before, you'll deal with your own life and loved ones and stay out of their business, because it's their business. Their decisions are their decisions.
Your cats are in your room, so there will be no grounds or reason for anyone complaining about them.
Obsessing over cleanliness should subside once you realize they are very clean and you sweet and vacuum. You can clean as much as you like. They are very clean. That should do it.
I'm like your sister, too, it seems -- I am constantly having to remind my roomie about things like that. It is my house; I pay the taxes and do the upkeep, so I have the right to do so. Honestly, I never would have invited them to stay here if I knew how different their standards were to mine. Whenever I visited their home, it looked clean and orderly. IDK why it changed so much when they moved here. I've asked many times. I've never gotten an answer. But my boss is a doctor and according to the examples I've provided, she believes they suffer from cognitive issues. I do what I can, and that's all I can do.
Until you're able to go out on your own, those are compromises you'll just have to make.

 

[terestrife]

Like you said before, you'll deal with your own life and loved ones and stay out of their business, because it's their business. Their decisions are their decisions.
Your cats are in your room, so there will be no grounds or reason for anyone complaining about them.
Obsessing over cleanliness should subside once you realize they are very clean and you sweet and vacuum. You can clean as much as you like. They are very clean. That should do it.
I'm like your sister, too, it seems -- I am constantly having to remind my roomie about things like that. It is my house; I pay the taxes and do the upkeep, so I have the right to do so. Honestly, I never would have invited them to stay here if I knew how different their standards were to mine. Whenever I visited their home, it looked clean and orderly. IDK why it changed so much when they moved here. I've asked many times. I've never gotten an answer. But my boss is a doctor and according to the examples I've provided, she believes they suffer from cognitive issues. I do what I can, and that's all I can do.
Until you're able to go out on your own, those are compromises you'll just have to make.

I do get that it's her home. I do my best to respect her wishes. Even though she spent years avoiding work and not helping pay for this house. Even though she messed up my credit. I try to ignore these things and just get along with everyone. I just don't handle nagging well. I can't stand people arguing, nagging, and yelling all the time. What's funny is when I'm alone in the house, everything is clean.

They make such a disgusting mess. My niece leaves food out for days. She infested the house with ticks and roaches.

I even see my sister leaving junk everywhere, while telling everyone to pick up after themselves. Lolol

But you're right. All i can do is deal with things until i have my own space. I hope she doesn't magically have allergies once she moves in. She was fine the entire time she was here this time with the cats in my room.

 

[tarasgirl06]

I do get that it's her home. I do my best to respect her wishes. Even though she spent years avoiding work and not helping pay for this house. Even though she messed up my credit. I try to ignore these things and just get along with everyone. I just don't handle nagging well. I can't stand people arguing, nagging, and yelling all the time. What's funny is when I'm alone in the house, everything is clean.

They make such a disgusting mess. My niece leaves food out for days. She infested the house with ticks and roaches.

I even see my sister leaving junk everywhere, while telling everyone to pick up after themselves. Lolol

But you're right. All i can do is deal with things until i have my own space. I hope she doesn't magically have allergies once she moves in. She was fine the entire time she was here this time with the cats in my room.

You do. You have to suck it up. As far as not "helping pay for this house" whose name is it legally in? Did they directly ask you to help pay? If so, then I believe you'd have legal rights. What and how far those go, I don't know. I would not get involved with ANY other person's financial or legal matters. That's why I've decided to be a free agent, so to speak. No more messes other people make.
People think having a relationship is something to strive for. I've had a lot of them and I'm not in agreement. Family? The ideal concept of family is that you have each other's back. In reality, in my life anyway, it has been far from that. There have been family members who HAVE been good to me. But others have definitely not. Personally, I want to be on my own, as hard as that often is; and I will set the parameters for any association I wish to have, like in this instance with my roomies. I'm really fond of them, I'm helping them out, and they also help me out to some degree, but if they decided they wanted to leave tomorrow, I'd be okay with that. Before the one-year anniversary of our being together, I drew up a "pros and cons" list. It came out pretty even, so it was like a coin toss as to whether I'd keep them or not. In the end, I posed the question to them and they chose to stay. I figured that during COVID time, it would be kind of me to let them stay; and the things they help me out with, which are pretty minor, would continue. I'd suck it up when I had to keep reminding them of things, and we'd keep on going. That's what's happened. Sometimes I feel like I wish they weren't here, when she messes things up and I have to clean them up. But in the end, that's pretty minor.
In retrospect, when your current situation is behind you, I hope you'll be able to look back on it as a time of learning, gaining strength and patience, being resilient, and looking forward to the better place you're now thinking of and working toward. Believe me, I've had a LOT of that kind of thing and although it's horrible while it's happening, it teaches and strengthens far more than the easy, happy times.

 

[terestrife]

You do. You have to suck it up. As far as not "helping pay for this house" whose name is it legally in? Did they directly ask you to help pay? If so, then I believe you'd have legal rights. What and how far those go, I don't know. I would not get involved with ANY other person's financial or legal matters. That's why I've decided to be a free agent, so to speak. No more messes other people make.
People think having a relationship is something to strive for. I've had a lot of them and I'm not in agreement. Family? The ideal concept of family is that you have each other's back. In reality, in my life anyway, it has been far from that. There have been family members who HAVE been good to me. But others have definitely not. Personally, I want to be on my own, as hard as that often is; and I will set the parameters for any association I wish to have, like in this instance with my roomies. I'm really fond of them, I'm helping them out, and they also help me out to some degree, but if they decided they wanted to leave tomorrow, I'd be okay with that. Before the one-year anniversary of our being together, I drew up a "pros and cons" list. It came out pretty even, so it was like a coin toss as to whether I'd keep them or not. In the end, I posed the question to them and they chose to stay. I figured that during COVID time, it would be kind of me to let them stay; and the things they help me out with, which are pretty minor, would continue. I'd suck it up when I had to keep reminding them of things, and we'd keep on going. That's what's happened. Sometimes I feel like I wish they weren't here, when she messes things up and I have to clean them up. But in the end, that's pretty minor.
In retrospect, when your current situation is behind you, I hope you'll be able to look back on it as a time of learning, gaining strength and patience, being resilient, and looking forward to the better place you're now thinking of and working toward. Believe me, I've had a LOT of that kind of thing and although it's horrible while it's happening, it teaches and strengthens far more than the easy, happy times.

The house is under my sister's name. Even though she wants to keep it away from her husband. He's technically an owner too.

I know you're right and I've come to terms with things. Going to focus on changing jobs and getting me and the kitties out of here.

I'm in a better head space now that i don't have to worry constantly about the cats.

Since this thread has been so negative I'm going to share 2 pictures of my kitties.

Happy valentines from me and my kitties:

 

[susanm9006]

Gorgeous cats!

 

[tarasgirl06]

The house is under my sister's name. Even though she wants to keep it away from her husband. He's technically an owner too.

I know you're right and I've come to terms with things. Going to focus on changing jobs and getting me and the kitties out of here.

I'm in a better head space now that i don't have to worry constantly about the cats.

Since this thread has been so negative I'm going to share 2 pictures of my kitties.

Happy valentines from me and my kitties:
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AWWWWW, Kitty and Elsa are so lovely! Please give them lots of strokings and kisses and play from me, and we wish you all a good Valentine's Day! *The love of cats is the BEST!*

 

[terestrife]

Gorgeous cats!

Thank you!

AWWWWW, Kitty and Elsa are so lovely! Please give them lots of strokings and kisses and play from me, and we wish you all a good Valentine's Day! *The love of cats is the BEST!*

I will, and thank you!

 

[terestrife]

Anyone know if fans are safe around cats? Had to get a really strong fan. I'm hot all the time. Lol

Kitty keeps putting her face close to sniff it. Should i worry? I don't think their paws fit through the grill. I guess I'm just overly worrying.

Everything else has been the same. Still looking for work. I'm finally feeling better after getting the iud. I thought i would have to get it removed. The pain got really bad. But then eased up after resting thankfully.

 

[tarasgirl06]

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Anyone know if fans are safe around cats? Had to get a really strong fan. I'm hot all the time. Lol

Kitty keeps putting her face close to sniff it. Should i worry? I don't think their paws fit through the grill. I guess I'm just overly worrying.

Everything else has been the same. Still looking for work. I'm finally feeling better after getting the iud. I thought i would have to get it removed. The pain got really bad. But then eased up after resting thankfully.

Good news about the IUD! And about feeling better.
I use fans all the time. No problem at all. That looks like a really nice one and the grille looks absolutely safe.
Scritches for Kitty and Elsa! from all of us.

 

[terestrife]

Good news about the IUD! And about feeling better.
I use fans all the time. No problem at all. That looks like a really nice one and the grille looks absolutely safe.
Scritches for Kitty and Elsa! from all of us.

Thank you! That makes me feel better.
The fan is really good moves the air better than the ceiling fan.



I set up a camera so i could watch them when I go out. They can tell when the camera moves.

I found these funny lol

 

[tarasgirl06]

Thank you! That makes me feel better.
The fan is really good moves the air better than the ceiling fan.

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I set up a camera so i could watch them when I go out. They can tell when the camera moves.

I found these funny lol

So cute! Looks like you have a nice room and sounds like it's nice and comfortable. I rely on my ceiling fans in summer. My roomies' room doesn't have one so they have a table fan. I put one in the living room in summer too, because my roomie likes to sleep in there sometimes and watch TV in there when there's nothing on her package.