Freeing Myself Of Cats

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jefferd18 said:
I have even thought of contacting a pet psychic to see if they could find Jeff and ask her if she is doing okay. Sounds crazy, I know.
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Actually, it doesn't sound crazy at all. And if it would help you, why not? But should you decide to do so, do your due diligence. There are some wonderful people out there, and some downright scum. And I can't begin to tell you how to know which is which.
 
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Jefferd18 i dont think its crazy for wanting to see a pet psychic, when i lost my two cats this year, i was thinking of doing the same thing.
When i lost my two cats this year i felt like you dead, depressed lifeless. But then after a few months , there is a shop that i go too that has kitens there with their mother cat and father cat, every few days i go to feed them now, and i found out that i am not the only one feeding them as well :) its not the same as having my own cats, but knowing that i am helping them in some way is helping me cope.
Maybe this new kitten is a new sign for you, that you may keep your cats, and help your friend look after this little stray kitten to get back on his little feet. At the same time you are helping this kitten, and still have your own cats at home, maybe this is jeff's way of letting you know you are able to do both, but your depression is bringing all this darkness around you that you are not able to see that.
 
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jefford18 Please do not rush into any of these decisions. You are still hurting so much from this loss and it is normal to be in deep dark distraught over the death of your beloved cat. But giving up your other cats will not bring back the one you have lost. Things will eventually get better. There is no fast way out of your pain unfortunately but please keep the faith. Be very good to yourself now, and maybe even take time off from helping ferals and concentrate on getting yourself back in better state of mind. The world is beautiful place and cats are beautiful creatures we are fortunate to be able to love so very much. God bless you, we are praying for you. Don't ever forget the good things about your beloved life with your beloved cat.
 
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sweet jane flash said:
jefford18 Please do not rush into any of these decisions. You are still hurting so much from this loss and it is normal to be in deep dark distraught over the death of your beloved cat. But giving up your other cats will not bring back the one you have lost. Things will eventually get better. There is no fast way out of your pain unfortunately but please keep the faith. Be very good to yourself now, and maybe even take time off from helping ferals and concentrate on getting yourself back in better state of mind. The world is beautiful place and cats are beautiful creatures we are fortunate to be able to love so very much. God bless you, we are praying for you. Don't ever forget the good things about your beloved life with your beloved cat.
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Thank you, sweet jane. :) I break down every time I think of her, her death was so unfair.

No, I won't make any decisions now because my mind is not in the right place. I am hoping new medication, therapy, and sleep (which I have not had more than three hours since Jeff passed), will help.

I can't stop feeding the ferals because I have been feeding that group for seven years now- they depend on me- especially the old tom who no longer can smell or see things very well.

I will be getting help in December and hopefully will see things in a different light and also be able to honor Jeff in the manner she deserves.

Thank you for your warm words and your compassion.
 
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jefferd18 said:
I had beloved animal companions who have died in the past but none has knocked me on the ground like Jeff's passing has.
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Same as me, I had lost other furry friends in the past, but the death of my last two cats has completely destroyed me, I feel empty, dead inside, useless, I have no drive in anything, so I fully understand what you are saying.
One of the reasons why I am not taking any other cat with me now is that, just like you, I know that I could not be able to give them the same level of care and love I was able to give Lola and Pallina.
It would be a lesser love and a lesser care, and they wouldn't deserve it.
I tried to have kittens, but I always felt that something wasn't working, and then I had to rehome them, also due to other issues.
Nothing, even if I had to live 2,000 years, will ever compare to my beloved two cats. On one hand I'm so glad, and consider myself lucky, to have had them in my life, they gave me a love that I will never feel again, I gave them a love I won't ever able to give any cat again. On the other hand I think that my love for them and theirs for me was too strong, so strong that it has shut my heart to other cats.

I have had bad thoughts too, like you have, if you know what I means.

And it's over 30 months since Lola's death and 14 months since Pallina's passing. Not one day has gone by without saying their names out loud, or thinking of them at least 10 times a day. I believe I'm one of those persons who will never get over it, though I feel that there's something missing in my life, another cat.

I'm currently giving my time to the ferals, but it's a different thing.
 
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jefferd18 said:
And the hard thing is- is that I have now gotten attached to Inky, Gypsy, and Shanghai. I honestly can't find the time to properly grieve for Jeff because I it seems I am always taking care of cats. Sometimes I think I care too much.
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Two days after the death of my beloved Pallina I found two dying kittens on two different occasions, a few hours apart. What a luck!
Understandably at that time I only needed to grieve, to cry and to suffer over the death of my cat, but I was forced to take care of those two poor souls. I was so glad that I found them and they found me, it was mid-August, who else could have done something for them?
In particular, the saving of one of the two kitties, the circumstances that led me to finding him and what I did for him on that day, still make me extremely proud of myself, and some tears roll down my face when I think of that day.
I devoted entirely to them during the time they were home with me (6 weeks), before I adopted them out.

But I have to admit that on certain days I kind of hated them because they were distracting me from my pain, I only wanted to cry and be desperate, but I had to give them the meds, play with them, take them to the vet visits, scoop their litter boxes, etc.
On those days I was sure, adamant, that my Pallina was mad at me because I was saving their lives instead of crying over her.

When I adopted them out I had my time to grieve again, and in time I thought that maybe, maybe, Pallina had made me cross the path of the two dying kittens because she knew that I would need something different in my hands, or I would have gone crazy for sure.
I might even think that those two kittens saved me, and that Pallina made it possible.

So, consider Inky, Gypsy, and Shanghai as a life buoy that is helping you not to sink and drown in your pain.
It is even possible that one day you will thank them.
 
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My cat Eliot died of a blood clot. There was probably an undiagnosed heart condition that the vet had missed, although one of the techs was suspicious of it. He literally fell over at my feet and that was it. I know that sounds terrible, but I do not believe that he suffered at all. Most clot related medical episodes are lightening fast which is I suppose the good news about them.

I have consulted animal psychics before. As was stated, there are good ones and bad ones, so you need to be careful. Don't give personal information to them which might help them to weave a story which will make sense to you because they have had a basis on which to build.

The one I used years ago was good, meaning that she definitely had some ability to pick up information from the field, some even quite accurate. For example, she told me to get the yellow blanket out of the bedroom and bring it back to my German shepherd because it had been his favorite and he wondered where it was. Her belief was that people and animals are reincarnated and that some of mine had been with me before...but she was completely wrong in one case.

The others I observed, once at a night time meeting of certain clients at the vet's office, were just weak and treading water.

Please take care of yourself; December is not too far away for your insurance to become available.
 
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