Anyone Else Have Nobody

[Jcatbird]

Just thought I would let you know that even when you are not aware of it sometimes someone is thinking about you and hoping all is well.

 

[daisyd]

Thank you Jcatbird xxxx so Gracie and I moved into our home today - I’ve spent more time deciding where to put her litter tray, food and scratch post than anything else . She’s acting unsettled again and it upsetting I know I have at least 5 weeks until I get the happy kitty back showing me her belly ! Went through a crisis trying to set up the tv earlier - I always had my dad or a boyfriend to do that stuff now just me !!!

 

[Jcatbird]

First Congratulations!!!! You just jumped and hurdle and made it. You! You did this! I am proud of you. I know it was hard but you did great! Applause, applause! I support you! I am here and smiling for you.
I know how it feels trying to set things up that are technical or mechanical. Frustrating! Even though I have been doing stuff for myself for many years I still run into times I wish there was someone else to figure it out. I just spent twenty minutes doing what should have been a simple repair. Lol I got it done though. One more skill under my belt. Next time maybe it will be simple! When IPods first came out my brother thought it would be funny to give me one with no preparation on his part, no instructions, no info at all. He had a four hour drive home. When he got there he called expecting me to say ,” what do I do with this?” Ha! Joker that he is! Instead his call was greeted with music from the IPod. I met the challenge and triumphed. I was pretty satisfied with myself. Lol I admit to getting tired of doing everything but I also know that each challenge conquered gives me news skills, strength and independence. If someone comes along who can help me, great! If I need to do it I can. If I need to do it for someone else, I can. In younger days I helped an elderly lady by repairing her roof, putting in new ceiling tiles, painting entire house and totally redoing her yard. I had to cut it with a sling blade it was so overgrown. She cleaned as we went. When we were finished the neighbors came to compliment the improved situation. I have never felt better about something I did for someone just to help. It’s great just to know how. We learn by doing. I am always here if you have a question about anything. I may not know the answer but we can figure it out together. If we fumble a bit we may even laugh about it.
Kitty is an upset too. I know that worries you but Gracie will adapt too. You both need time to adjust. Believe me, one evening you will be sitting there enjoying a snack or meal and watching Gracie roll until she is belly up and find yourself laughing. Or maybe she will wake you with a snuggle and purr. Things get good. Really peaceful and calm. Happiness sneaks up on you! PM any time. I will answer.

 

[MeganLLB]

I didn't read all the posts, but just wanted to say to hang in there! I pretty much quit my job because I'm so lonely living where I am. I'm only 25. All my friends are getting married and having kids. I'm stuck in this town in the middle of nowhere, there is no one my own age, I have no friends here. I spend 6-7 hours a day on the phone with my family because I am so lonely wishing I was somewhere else. I hate my job and I hate living here. No-one likes me here because they don't like "outsiders." If you weren't born here, they don't accept you. That's why I live alone with three pets. They help fill a void in my life. I'm so lonely, all I have is my dog and cats. At least until I can move closer to my family.

I can't stand being lonely, but I'm bored and lonely all the time. So you're not the only one who feels alone is all I'm trying to say basically. PM me any time! We can do this! I believe everything happens for a reason and there is always a bigger plan even when I don't understand what it is.

 

[arouetta]

Thank you Jcatbird I always had my dad or a boyfriend to do that stuff now just me !!!

Neighborhood teenagers....pizza and soda....that should buy you reliable help. Just ask your neighbors to spread the word whenever you anticipate needing help soon.

 

[JamesCalifornia]

~ If your kitty is having anxiety you may want to try a "calming collar " . I have a few cats wearing them - they do help.

 

[rubysmama]

Congratulations! Hope you and Gracie had a good first night. Also, I bet she'll sense your positive vibes, and will adjust to this move quicker than when you moved into the temporary apartment.

 

[Norachan]

Happy New Home!

I hope everything works out for you and Gracie.

 

[dustydiamond1]

You are making your way back from a hard place. Don’t backtrack! Answering is just giving them a way to get back under your skin. Nothing good can come of it either way. I have come very near to walking in your shoes many ways. I am alone. I am much older than you now but I was once in situations that reflect what I have been reading here. It may be hard to resist having a connection with another human in the way you must have felt connected to him. I was married once. When it ended I was alone with a quadriplegic baby. ( other babies had been lost) Her Dad had turned to booze and anger. To keep our daughter safe I slipped out after he passed out one night. I had only my child, a diaper bag and a cat. I was responsible for everything from then on. I started a life for my daughter and cat. Over the years the struggle to provide was hard and lonely. I had almost no opportunities to meet people. The couple of times I did it became serious but failed. Each time the man tried to start something up again. Sometimes with just a call, sometimes a plea for help and sometimes by “ dropping by to check on us.” It was always the same ending. They wanted something from me that was not good. I can’t say I have given up on finding someone to share my life with even now. I can say that I know not to let history repeat itself. I am even more alone now. My daughter and my reason for living died at 29. Her Dad killed himself five months before she died. I continue on. I have built a life and a home. I built a business from nothing. I have had gains and losses. I discovered one VERY important thing. No matter what else is going on in my life , I am responsible for producing my own happiness. That’s not to say I don’t have my down times but I make a point to stop and look around. You have a new start. You have a life and your wonderful cat friend. Look outside at the amazing beauty all around you. The sky, stars, sunrise or set. How wonderful is a deep breath during the coming of a fresh rain? Life is grand! Don’t turn back. Go forward to something fresh and new. The world is always a new adventure for each of us. Old friends may go but new ones will come. New ones are here right now supporting you and praising your new world. Excitement in life awaits you. Grab it and take that wonderful ride forward. I am still around to tell you that more good things are coming. If you ever feel alone again, just let me know. I will keep you from being alone. People really do care about you. Good people! They are right here. I am very glad you posted that original message. It showed you have great courage. You are strong but you are not ever alone. Not as long as you tell someone.

 

[dustydiamond1]

I didn't read all the posts, but just wanted to say to hang in there! I pretty much quit my job because I'm so lonely living where I am. I'm only 25. All my friends are getting married and having kids. I'm stuck in this town in the middle of nowhere, there is no one my own age, I have no friends here. I spend 6-7 hours a day on the phone with my family because I am so lonely wishing I was somewhere else. I hate my job and I hate living here. No-one likes me here because they don't like "outsiders." If you weren't born here, they don't accept you. That's why I live alone with three pets. They help fill a void in my life. I'm so lonely, all I have is my dog and cats. At least until I can move closer to my family.

I can't stand being lonely, but I'm bored and lonely all the time. So you're not the only one who feels alone is all I'm trying to say basically. PM me any time! We can do this! I believe everything happens for a reason and there is always a bigger plan even when I don't understand what it is.

You have lots of friends here

 

[dustydiamond1]

Happy House warming! Try not to stress so much. Gracie is picking up your harried vibes.

 

[Jcatbird]

Just a simple, hello! I hope today was a good one!

 

[wannahelp]

I basically have nobody but my parents...for now, at least. I don’t see things changing for me. It definitely feels like I’m the only one in this position. The prospect of being COMPLETELY alone, haunts me. You can’t drag people in off the street. I think i’s a little bit different for me, though. I’m just one of those outsiders, who doesn’t fit in anywhere. Is it my appearance, my personality, lack of social skills? The point is I’m alone too.

 

[daisyd]

Thank you all ! Been busy trying to settle in . Gracie is much better - she still hides under the sofa much of the day however not sure if thats also to do with the heat - she found a gap in there (it’s a sofa bed ) where she hangs out ! We are amazingly having a heatwave in the UK at the moment ...

XXXxx

 

[FeralHearts]

Hi daisyd!

My mom's in the UK right now visiting her sister she said the same thing to me about the heat wave! Very unusual.

I hope you and Gracie continue to settle in and enjoy the new space. Sending good vibes your way!

 

[dustydiamond1]

I basically have nobody but my parents...for now, at least. I don’t see things changing for me. It definitely feels like I’m the only one in this position. The prospect of being COMPLETELY alone, haunts me. You can’t drag people in off the street. I think i’s a little bit different for me, though. I’m just one of those outsiders, who doesn’t fit in anywhere. Is it my appearance, my personality, lack of social skills? The point is I’m alone too.

I can relate, I've never been 'one of the crowd', not yet figured out if I am a maverick or a misfit, but it really doesn't matter. I like not being one of the so-called 'normal people'. Practice being comfortable in your own skin. Cultivate the company of other animal lovers and of course the company of animals. Don't try too hard to impress people. Remember you have lots of friends here so visit often.

 

[Jayflower]

I basically have nobody but my parents...for now, at least. I don’t see things changing for me. It definitely feels like I’m the only one in this position. The prospect of being COMPLETELY alone, haunts me. You can’t drag people in off the street. I think i’s a little bit different for me, though. I’m just one of those outsiders, who doesn’t fit in anywhere. Is it my appearance, my personality, lack of social skills? The point is I’m alone too.

I can relate, too. I literally have no one except for my 3 cats. The only family that I had who ever cared about me were my mom and my grandma, both of whom passed away over the course of the past decade. My cats are the only reason that I keep on going, I love them too much to abandon them. I may be shy, quiet, socially awkward, "weird" or whatever else, but my cats don't mind, they love me anyways. It is scary to be alone in the world, but I think my greatest fear is something happening to my cats. I just could not bear to lose them.

 

[dustydiamond1]

Just remember there are lots of other non-conforming folks out there. I found mine over 20yrs ago and we are still together and since 2016 our family is three.

 

[Jcatbird]

Just checking in! Just little ole me! Lol Many of us have no one. I read something as a child that has always stuck with me. “ we are responsible for our own happiness”. Tough to do sometimes but I think we just need to be comfortable with who we are. It really does not matter if others see us as different if we feel okay with ourselves. If we were a world of repeats it would be a very bland place to be. Maybe being different spices things up and keeps the world interesting. What do you think people said to Einstein about his hairdo? Different? Lol It does take strength to be alone. We do get lonely but just reach out. You will touch someone. The kitties know! That’s why they choose us. They don’t want to be alone either. I am glad you are all here. That means none of us are alone.

 

[JamesCalifornia]

~ And don't forget it's better to be alone than to be with the wrong people . `