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Hi,
I am worried about my Luna. She is a 10 month old (almost 11) kitten. She never has been the most cuddly cat and I am fine with that. I have written a post about it and I meant every word. She is not a lap cat but I love her like she is! However lately she has been even more physically distant than usual and she appears stressed. My bf never has accepted the way she is and will try everyday to put her on his lap, to pet her even when she does not want to. They don't really have much of a relationship, I am the one who takes care of her and she does not appreciate his constant tries to pet her. It has been like that for a while. But lately she just runs away at the sight of him and does not want to be in the same room than him. She hissed at him multiple time (to which he answered by hissing back :/) and seems overly aware of his movements. I gave her some hiding spots to feel safer and she is using it but still seems nervous. Things have been also a bit more tense between her and me. She does not come to cuddle to bed like she used to and does not want me to pet her when I come home (which were the times she was fine with cuddling). She seems to not tolerate much petting lately and haven't kneaded for 2 weeks now (she used to do it every night). She still follows me from room to room but the interactions are not what they used to be. She seems stressed most of the time and want her space but if I leave the room she meows and follows me. I did a health checkup and she is fine. So I am not sure what is causing this change of behavior: Is it growing up? Is it her personality? Or could it be stress related?
Causes of stress that I can think of are:
-My bf
-I have stopped working from home so I am gone way more than I used to
-I have a lot of personal problems lately so when I am home I am often more on emotional edge and might be less tender with her.
I am worried that she is unhappy and I don't know how to help her. We still play a LOT, so that's good but she really seems on edge most of the time. My bf will not change my behavior (tried many times) so I have to find another way to help her, any ideas? I already gave her hiding spots.
And because I am a silly human: do you think she can be mad at me for being away more? Is she going to forgive me? Or does she feel abandoned? Can we get back our relationship?
I am worried about my Luna. She is a 10 month old (almost 11) kitten. She never has been the most cuddly cat and I am fine with that. I have written a post about it and I meant every word. She is not a lap cat but I love her like she is! However lately she has been even more physically distant than usual and she appears stressed. My bf never has accepted the way she is and will try everyday to put her on his lap, to pet her even when she does not want to. They don't really have much of a relationship, I am the one who takes care of her and she does not appreciate his constant tries to pet her. It has been like that for a while. But lately she just runs away at the sight of him and does not want to be in the same room than him. She hissed at him multiple time (to which he answered by hissing back :/) and seems overly aware of his movements. I gave her some hiding spots to feel safer and she is using it but still seems nervous. Things have been also a bit more tense between her and me. She does not come to cuddle to bed like she used to and does not want me to pet her when I come home (which were the times she was fine with cuddling). She seems to not tolerate much petting lately and haven't kneaded for 2 weeks now (she used to do it every night). She still follows me from room to room but the interactions are not what they used to be. She seems stressed most of the time and want her space but if I leave the room she meows and follows me. I did a health checkup and she is fine. So I am not sure what is causing this change of behavior: Is it growing up? Is it her personality? Or could it be stress related?
Causes of stress that I can think of are:
-My bf
-I have stopped working from home so I am gone way more than I used to
-I have a lot of personal problems lately so when I am home I am often more on emotional edge and might be less tender with her.
I am worried that she is unhappy and I don't know how to help her. We still play a LOT, so that's good but she really seems on edge most of the time. My bf will not change my behavior (tried many times) so I have to find another way to help her, any ideas? I already gave her hiding spots.
And because I am a silly human: do you think she can be mad at me for being away more? Is she going to forgive me? Or does she feel abandoned? Can we get back our relationship?