Hey guys,
I've been pondering something as of late and I thought I'd bounce it off of your brains.
Last night I was speaking to my boyfriend, who happens to be long distance (and always has been). I'm planning on driving up to his place on Friday to celebrate a late valentines day and to be together for a little while. He works for the military, and mentioned that one of the guys on base wanted us to go up to Ottawa (my boyfriends hometown) with him to "hang out" with some other people who they graduated with from the training base. Under normal situations I'd think "great! he's antisocial, maybe this will be good!"
Unfortunately, here's the situation:
First of all, the last time I went to a party involving the people from the base he left me in the corner, by myself because no one would talk to me and went and played pool. It wasn't until 45mins later that his commanding officer (who's a nice guy) asked me why he wasn't with me and teased Kevin about leaving me alone. His responce to the situation was that I could have come to watch him play pool. So in other words, I could stand by myself in a different corner.
The second problem is his parents. If we go to Ottawa, we'll be staying with his dad, a man who every time I see him he lectures me. I do mean EVERY TIME, including as I walked in the door while meeting him the first time. He wags his finger at me and talks really loudly. My boyfriend says that this is how he treats everyone and just to ignore it, it's his "I'm concerned voice". Coincidently, his concerned voice is the same as my dad's yelling voice, which makes me want to hide under a rock.
So I'm unemployed (which has cost me lectures in the past) and just got a new cat (which I can support, but it wont be seen that way). Even his mom is questioning my sanity over the cat situation, but she doesn't like cats in the first place. I'd bet that she wouldn't have a problem with a dog.
I just feel like I'd be walking myself into a bad situation. My dad says that the problem is that Kevin doesn't know how to protect me properly. I'm going to talk to him tonight about it, but I feel so rotten telling him that we can't go because I'm scared of being left alone and of his parents yelling at me.
What would you do?
Jess
I've been pondering something as of late and I thought I'd bounce it off of your brains.
Last night I was speaking to my boyfriend, who happens to be long distance (and always has been). I'm planning on driving up to his place on Friday to celebrate a late valentines day and to be together for a little while. He works for the military, and mentioned that one of the guys on base wanted us to go up to Ottawa (my boyfriends hometown) with him to "hang out" with some other people who they graduated with from the training base. Under normal situations I'd think "great! he's antisocial, maybe this will be good!"
Unfortunately, here's the situation:
First of all, the last time I went to a party involving the people from the base he left me in the corner, by myself because no one would talk to me and went and played pool. It wasn't until 45mins later that his commanding officer (who's a nice guy) asked me why he wasn't with me and teased Kevin about leaving me alone. His responce to the situation was that I could have come to watch him play pool. So in other words, I could stand by myself in a different corner.
The second problem is his parents. If we go to Ottawa, we'll be staying with his dad, a man who every time I see him he lectures me. I do mean EVERY TIME, including as I walked in the door while meeting him the first time. He wags his finger at me and talks really loudly. My boyfriend says that this is how he treats everyone and just to ignore it, it's his "I'm concerned voice". Coincidently, his concerned voice is the same as my dad's yelling voice, which makes me want to hide under a rock.
So I'm unemployed (which has cost me lectures in the past) and just got a new cat (which I can support, but it wont be seen that way). Even his mom is questioning my sanity over the cat situation, but she doesn't like cats in the first place. I'd bet that she wouldn't have a problem with a dog.
I just feel like I'd be walking myself into a bad situation. My dad says that the problem is that Kevin doesn't know how to protect me properly. I'm going to talk to him tonight about it, but I feel so rotten telling him that we can't go because I'm scared of being left alone and of his parents yelling at me.
What would you do?
Jess