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A good friend, due to unfortunate circumstances, had to move from a home into an apartment, and couldn't take her cat. I have volunteered to take her cat into my household.
I already have a cat; a tripod, that was originally a kitty I TNRed, who lost her leg after an injury. I have had my "Kitty" as an indoor cat now over 1.5 years, but she lives on the 2nd floor of my home. She simply will not come down stairs, does not jump UP on anything, and only kind of pulls herself up onto my bed when I'm in there. She was a "semi-feral", I'm thinking 1st generation, because she came to trust me and bond with me, but she's certainly no "normal" housecat or lapcat. We "understand" each other, she will cuddle and wants playtime and petting, but there's certain handling I just don't do, out of my own fear, mostly. If I had no fear, I'd simply grab her and take her down the stairs, for example!
New cat, is approximately same age as my Kitty (~4-6 y.o.), maybe a year older. New cat is also a female, a front only DECLAW, but very spry, and her owner let her outside all the time. (?? I find that so odd, declaw, outdoors in a big busy city neighborhood.) Anyway, I am doing the slow introduction, with new cat on 1st floor, Kitty remaining upstairs, the "scent exchange" thing and all the other cat behavior stuff I've read about, regarding slow and gentle introduction of two adult cats to each other. Feliway; check. But the new cat is a stranger to me, to my house, and ultimately to my homey cat, Kitty. I am terrified that this will fail miserably, and I am well aware of "that which you fear most, you will create".
I think that the two cats are well matched by size, and by temperament; both have lots of outdoors experience; one a semi-feral, the other a stray taken in, but still allowed outdoor access. That outdoor access will stop in my household, unless I can get her into a harness and on a leash. I took her to the vet before I even brought her home, to get her microchipped, examined, and updated on vaccines, as well as blood work and checked for worms. She's been acclimating in her own space, an office/bathroom arrangement, and I gave her free reign to the downstairs, thinking that the extra tall pet gate at the top of the stairs, covered with a blanket, would keep her from getting into Kitty's space. Ha Ha, when I heard meow meow meow, and went upstairs to find new cat had gotten onto the other side of the fence, and the two were just facing off. No hissing, growling, big hair, but I opened the gat and New Cat ran back downstairs like a flash. I took the gate down, what's the point, but now I've got an Upstair Downstairs thing going on here. New cat looks out the window a lot, meows sometimes, but hasn't (as far as I know) gone back upstairs. Resident Cat will often just peer down the stairs, trying to catch a glimpse of new cat, but is otherwise behaving just fine.
So..... Now I'm thinking about trying a "space swap"; closing Kitty in one of the 2 bedrooms, bringing up New Cat into the other bedroom, let her smell around.. But, who do I let out to have access to the other door? Or not even allow "under the door" contact yet? I'm only thinking of a brief visit, not more than an hour, if that, depending. New Cat is easy to handle, luckily. So confused. Should I nudge them into a little interaction, or just continue this way. I've had her about 10 days now.
I cannot believe that decades ago, when I had other cats, we just brought the new one in, opened the carrier, and let them "work it out amongst themselves"!