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Here is the first post I made about our new cat situation: Attempt #2 - I feel like giving up. (info on all three cats involved is in the previous thread). Writing that one and reading responses was so comforting, so I thought I'd post an update.
Things started out bleak, I must admit. Since then, we've made tremendous progress between my cat and one of his cats, Aldous (M, 1yo). Aldous and Clarence (new F cat, 4yo) have now been introduced in the same room together. They eat treats, play, and give each other plenty of space with little intervention from us. Today they came almost nose to nose a couple times with no negative reactions whatsoever.
Her and Graves (second M cat, 1yo), however, are the complete opposite story. There was an incident when we were feeding them all through the screen once; I took my eyes off her for a second, and she charged through the screen completely, and chased Graves down the stairs. They ended up snarling at each other in a corner, but thankfully no physical fight was exchanged. I was able to just grab her and separate them again. This was after making significant progress with no obvious signs of aggression anymore, which is why I was caught so off guard by her charging the screen.
Ever since then, which was about 2 weeks ago, they've been extremely on edge about each other's scents. She seems to have mostly gotten over it, but Graves will now even try to attack things just because they smell like her. She still gets some defensive body language when they make eye contact. We've gone back to giving them treats through the door, and putting Graves in her room/giving him treats while her and Aldous get to meet in person. I understand why they don't trust each other, I blame myself, but hopefully it's still recoverable. Graves is extremely territorial. When they met through the screen, he got nervous when she went to explore the house and he couldn't see her anymore. I honestly have wondered if it was a bad surgery and he isn't full fixed, because he's just that level of obsessed/upset about her presence.
I assume that that's the right thing to do, start over scent swapping and positive associations between her and Graves, but I was wondering if anyone has any other tips to help speed up the process, or ideas as to why Graves was so extremely territorial to begin with. Is it possible for a cat to not be fully fixed, or is it just his personality?
Thank you <3
Things started out bleak, I must admit. Since then, we've made tremendous progress between my cat and one of his cats, Aldous (M, 1yo). Aldous and Clarence (new F cat, 4yo) have now been introduced in the same room together. They eat treats, play, and give each other plenty of space with little intervention from us. Today they came almost nose to nose a couple times with no negative reactions whatsoever.
Her and Graves (second M cat, 1yo), however, are the complete opposite story. There was an incident when we were feeding them all through the screen once; I took my eyes off her for a second, and she charged through the screen completely, and chased Graves down the stairs. They ended up snarling at each other in a corner, but thankfully no physical fight was exchanged. I was able to just grab her and separate them again. This was after making significant progress with no obvious signs of aggression anymore, which is why I was caught so off guard by her charging the screen.
Ever since then, which was about 2 weeks ago, they've been extremely on edge about each other's scents. She seems to have mostly gotten over it, but Graves will now even try to attack things just because they smell like her. She still gets some defensive body language when they make eye contact. We've gone back to giving them treats through the door, and putting Graves in her room/giving him treats while her and Aldous get to meet in person. I understand why they don't trust each other, I blame myself, but hopefully it's still recoverable. Graves is extremely territorial. When they met through the screen, he got nervous when she went to explore the house and he couldn't see her anymore. I honestly have wondered if it was a bad surgery and he isn't full fixed, because he's just that level of obsessed/upset about her presence.
I assume that that's the right thing to do, start over scent swapping and positive associations between her and Graves, but I was wondering if anyone has any other tips to help speed up the process, or ideas as to why Graves was so extremely territorial to begin with. Is it possible for a cat to not be fully fixed, or is it just his personality?
Thank you <3