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I love my cat. She's my world. She's curled on my chest as I type (with full access the a large house and another gentle human).
She's a perfect cat. She always licks after she chomps, I got her from a failing no kill shelter when she was a year old, and have had her for 6 years now.
She's a wonderful single cat. She's been great with other animals in the past, but is becoming a grumpy old sheltered cat. She likes the quiet and soft blankets. We don't have issues. I respect her consent very much, never hold her when she doesn't want to be, unless I'm brushing her or her teeth/trimming claws.
Even then, she's tollerant, and if she goes so far as to hiss, telling her "we do not use that launguage" is enough. She's had multiple dental surgeries, and she's so bad with vets, they send meds home with the meds because shes too quick and vicious for them to get her to take them. I come to pick her up, and she scratches bad enough the vet tech had to let her go, and she came running and jumped in my arms. We have a strong bond.
I get home, and she's there for me. She follows me around. She's stayed up to a month at a time with different people (which nearly killed me (we are so codependent) and she acts out/looses weight/scratches furniture/attacks other animals/doesn't listen. And then I get back and she's a perfect angel.
She's never been abused.
Not until yesterday.
She's had issues in cars and planes the entire time I've had her. I can't keep her in a carrier. I've tried acclimating her to four different ones, but she feels safest on my lap, and will try to "escape" till her nose and paws are bloody. I've tried Xanax, I've even tried Benadryl. It would be one thing if she just curled up on my lap, but she cries constantly, occasionally working herself into yowling fits, she can go for hours. Her nose is dry, she's hoarse, I am in the brink of insanity.
I flew with her once, and she peed herself (had calm access to a cat box before the flight). She yowled the whole flight, I tried to comfort her, but she was so pannicked, I don't even think she knew I was there. She skinned her nose so so bad, so bad.
I just cried the entire flight. Not to mention how anxious I was about being such a disturbance. Needless to say, I'll never put her on a plane again.
But I need to move. I've had to move before, and she stops eating if I leave her. She's an absolute brat if I leave her with anyone.
And I need her. I have PTSD, anxiety, depression. She's my family. She's my child. She's my everything.
She's only terrible in a car if I'm there. It's like she realizes I'll listen, so she's got to tell me, CONSTANTLY, that we're going to die. Doesn't matter how much time I work with her on carriers or the car. She's a wreck, and she drives me insane. She's not in pain. She's fine. She's never died in a car before. She's got kitty pheramones and comfy places and food and water and her catbox.
She even has her scratching post.
It's not safe for me to drive with her.
Her meowing rips me apart,
Not to mention keeping her off the dash of from under my feet.
I hit her last night. We we're moving, which is stressful for her (and me) and she was yowling, and just going and Going and GOING. And I was yelling/crying at her to stop, and then trying to just ignore it, but it gets in my head and I seriously almost considered just getting out and walking away from the car and her.
I hit her. Not hard enough to hurt her, but it startled her for sure. And it worked. She stopped yowling, but a minute later she started up again, so I smacked her back again, so now she's got her ears pinned and she's still yowling. And I'm hating myself and thinking about just commiting suicide, but also just trying to get through this drive and I cannot. Handle. The. Meows.
So I squeeze her neck when the yowling gets really bad. And I say "NO" and I repeat this. And she's quiet for almost 5 minutes, just sitting on my lap, I know my strength. I'm a very sensitive person. I didn't actually hurt her.
But I've never actually done something like that. And I feel terrible. She doesn't seem to be holding grudges, she had a whole house to sleep in, one she's familiar with, and she still chose me. After I'd smacked her in the car.
I love her. It's only in the car she's so vocal, and only when I'm there. And I've tried a thundervest too. I just don't know how to get us anywhere in one piece, and I can't just stay where I am. We're moving with a 10 he car ride Thursday. I wish somebody could sedate her. It's not just the noise. It's like she picks the meow noises that will most get me to react. She sounds like somebody is pulling her intestines out. It's awful.
I can't leave her. Maybe I could, but then I'd have to trust somebody, and I don't see how anyone could love her more than I do, and she's rediculously bonded to me.
She's a perfect cat. She always licks after she chomps, I got her from a failing no kill shelter when she was a year old, and have had her for 6 years now.
She's a wonderful single cat. She's been great with other animals in the past, but is becoming a grumpy old sheltered cat. She likes the quiet and soft blankets. We don't have issues. I respect her consent very much, never hold her when she doesn't want to be, unless I'm brushing her or her teeth/trimming claws.
Even then, she's tollerant, and if she goes so far as to hiss, telling her "we do not use that launguage" is enough. She's had multiple dental surgeries, and she's so bad with vets, they send meds home with the meds because shes too quick and vicious for them to get her to take them. I come to pick her up, and she scratches bad enough the vet tech had to let her go, and she came running and jumped in my arms. We have a strong bond.
I get home, and she's there for me. She follows me around. She's stayed up to a month at a time with different people (which nearly killed me (we are so codependent) and she acts out/looses weight/scratches furniture/attacks other animals/doesn't listen. And then I get back and she's a perfect angel.
She's never been abused.
Not until yesterday.
She's had issues in cars and planes the entire time I've had her. I can't keep her in a carrier. I've tried acclimating her to four different ones, but she feels safest on my lap, and will try to "escape" till her nose and paws are bloody. I've tried Xanax, I've even tried Benadryl. It would be one thing if she just curled up on my lap, but she cries constantly, occasionally working herself into yowling fits, she can go for hours. Her nose is dry, she's hoarse, I am in the brink of insanity.
I flew with her once, and she peed herself (had calm access to a cat box before the flight). She yowled the whole flight, I tried to comfort her, but she was so pannicked, I don't even think she knew I was there. She skinned her nose so so bad, so bad.
I just cried the entire flight. Not to mention how anxious I was about being such a disturbance. Needless to say, I'll never put her on a plane again.
But I need to move. I've had to move before, and she stops eating if I leave her. She's an absolute brat if I leave her with anyone.
And I need her. I have PTSD, anxiety, depression. She's my family. She's my child. She's my everything.
She's only terrible in a car if I'm there. It's like she realizes I'll listen, so she's got to tell me, CONSTANTLY, that we're going to die. Doesn't matter how much time I work with her on carriers or the car. She's a wreck, and she drives me insane. She's not in pain. She's fine. She's never died in a car before. She's got kitty pheramones and comfy places and food and water and her catbox.
She even has her scratching post.
It's not safe for me to drive with her.
Her meowing rips me apart,
Not to mention keeping her off the dash of from under my feet.
I hit her last night. We we're moving, which is stressful for her (and me) and she was yowling, and just going and Going and GOING. And I was yelling/crying at her to stop, and then trying to just ignore it, but it gets in my head and I seriously almost considered just getting out and walking away from the car and her.
I hit her. Not hard enough to hurt her, but it startled her for sure. And it worked. She stopped yowling, but a minute later she started up again, so I smacked her back again, so now she's got her ears pinned and she's still yowling. And I'm hating myself and thinking about just commiting suicide, but also just trying to get through this drive and I cannot. Handle. The. Meows.
So I squeeze her neck when the yowling gets really bad. And I say "NO" and I repeat this. And she's quiet for almost 5 minutes, just sitting on my lap, I know my strength. I'm a very sensitive person. I didn't actually hurt her.
But I've never actually done something like that. And I feel terrible. She doesn't seem to be holding grudges, she had a whole house to sleep in, one she's familiar with, and she still chose me. After I'd smacked her in the car.
I love her. It's only in the car she's so vocal, and only when I'm there. And I've tried a thundervest too. I just don't know how to get us anywhere in one piece, and I can't just stay where I am. We're moving with a 10 he car ride Thursday. I wish somebody could sedate her. It's not just the noise. It's like she picks the meow noises that will most get me to react. She sounds like somebody is pulling her intestines out. It's awful.
I can't leave her. Maybe I could, but then I'd have to trust somebody, and I don't see how anyone could love her more than I do, and she's rediculously bonded to me.