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Hi all,
I would like some advice on what to do. We've been through a lot and I spent the last hour crying, finally deciding to type this.
I hope somebody wants to take the time to read it. Our situation is as follows:
Mouna is our 11.5 year old cat. She means the world to me and I feel so guilty for the current situation. We lost our other cat Mila early 2020. They were not related and got along fine in the beginning. The last few years were filled with agression by Mila. We think something happened when we were not home. Nothing worked; we even hired a cat therapist.
We spent a full year thinking if we should add some cats to our household. We decided to give it a go because Mouna enjoyed Mila's company when times were good and she ignores cats that she sees outside our window.
We got 2 kittens of 7 months and followed the advice to see how they would react in the same room. So stupid of us because our plan was the slow introduction. We switched to that after a few hours and moved the kittens to basecamp.
One of the kittens was very shy so we moved slowly. After a few days we thought something was wrong. We spent the first two weeks going to vets and the hospital. It turns out he was seriously ill and he had to go back to the foster address to receive proper care. He cannot come back to us.
We only did scent swapping the first 2 weeks because of all this. That went fine (Mouna hissed twice and then slept on the pillow).
Week 3: we moved to feeding with the door closed. That went fine, so we used a baby gate. Also fine, even up close. Mouna does a lot for food
We moved to the play phase, but they can only be in the same room if Mouna is asleep. She does not play long periods, so we only had some succes with this. Food (puzzles) works better. When they are close, she starts hissing and sometimes growling. We intervene/distract in that case.
She follows the kitten, but it seems to be with the goal of intimidating or scaring. We stop the introduction when this happens. I have to admit we feel very defeated each time this happens, which probably does not help. My husband and I hardly have evenings together because they both need company.
The foster address say we need to let the current introduction play out and separating them is like starting over. I have to think of Mouna as well though so we do separate them sometimes.
This is week 4 and we are contemplating to stop trying. We have a few options:
- add a kitten and try again. The foster address is urging us to do this because the kitten needs company and I understand this due to the age conference. Better to bite the bullet now? We have an option for a meeting. No date yet due to quarantine. We have no idea how to best do this, since the kittens also don't know each other. If we keep her, she needs a friend.
- stop trying and go back to a 1-cat household.
- option we are missing?
If you made it to the end: thank you!
I would like some advice on what to do. We've been through a lot and I spent the last hour crying, finally deciding to type this.
I hope somebody wants to take the time to read it. Our situation is as follows:
Mouna is our 11.5 year old cat. She means the world to me and I feel so guilty for the current situation. We lost our other cat Mila early 2020. They were not related and got along fine in the beginning. The last few years were filled with agression by Mila. We think something happened when we were not home. Nothing worked; we even hired a cat therapist.
We spent a full year thinking if we should add some cats to our household. We decided to give it a go because Mouna enjoyed Mila's company when times were good and she ignores cats that she sees outside our window.
We got 2 kittens of 7 months and followed the advice to see how they would react in the same room. So stupid of us because our plan was the slow introduction. We switched to that after a few hours and moved the kittens to basecamp.
One of the kittens was very shy so we moved slowly. After a few days we thought something was wrong. We spent the first two weeks going to vets and the hospital. It turns out he was seriously ill and he had to go back to the foster address to receive proper care. He cannot come back to us.
We only did scent swapping the first 2 weeks because of all this. That went fine (Mouna hissed twice and then slept on the pillow).
Week 3: we moved to feeding with the door closed. That went fine, so we used a baby gate. Also fine, even up close. Mouna does a lot for food
We moved to the play phase, but they can only be in the same room if Mouna is asleep. She does not play long periods, so we only had some succes with this. Food (puzzles) works better. When they are close, she starts hissing and sometimes growling. We intervene/distract in that case.
She follows the kitten, but it seems to be with the goal of intimidating or scaring. We stop the introduction when this happens. I have to admit we feel very defeated each time this happens, which probably does not help. My husband and I hardly have evenings together because they both need company.
The foster address say we need to let the current introduction play out and separating them is like starting over. I have to think of Mouna as well though so we do separate them sometimes.
This is week 4 and we are contemplating to stop trying. We have a few options:
- add a kitten and try again. The foster address is urging us to do this because the kitten needs company and I understand this due to the age conference. Better to bite the bullet now? We have an option for a meeting. No date yet due to quarantine. We have no idea how to best do this, since the kittens also don't know each other. If we keep her, she needs a friend.
- stop trying and go back to a 1-cat household.
- option we are missing?
If you made it to the end: thank you!