When Rob and I separated, the cats stayed with him because I initially was staying in someone else's house (and they had two large dogs already). I got the apartment in January but had a lot of stuff to go through and get done before thinking of having the cats here. I was getting Nero and Neko, Rob was keeping Hoshi. Originally the agreement was that Rob would just keep them until I figured out where I was moving to outside SC. After talking it over for a few weeks with the other half, and missing the kitties like crazy, we agreed I could bring them to the apartment (and pay the insane pet fee!)
I had to take Neko and Hoshi to the vet for a comprehensive exam yesterday, so I decided that I'd just bring Neko back to the apartment with me since it'd been about a month since planning to get him here. Neko has always been iffy with change. He doesn't really like other people (he never was friendly to Rob's parents, and they were the ones who'd feed him for 2 years whenever we went out of town; and forget if we had company or a cookout, he'd be hiding under the washer/dryer even if we were outside!), so I'm actually surprised how well he is doing being in the apartment with a stranger. He jumped on the bed earlier a few times. But he has been meowing and crying for at least 2+ hours now. Heck, he was laying next to me on the couch (trying to keep him away from the bedroom now) and rubbing my hand, yet letting out loud, horribly pitiful meows. I did just open the door to the screened in porch and let him out there and he's quiet now just laying out there, but I already know I'll be sitting up all night trying to keep him out/away from the bedroom (and he hates closed doors so that would just make him wail more), just so he doesn't keep the other half up all night too. I also know I can't leave the porch door open all night for him to come in and out as he pleases because the pollen is ridiculous, and bf has bad allergies.
I'm pretty much in tears in frustration and sadness, feeling that bringing him back to the house with Rob is the best option for him right now, and less stressful, and to just worry about having him when I'm settled in one spot rather than having him here now for a few months, back with Rob for a month or so, and then taking him wherever I end up going. Just feel horrible doing that, like I'm giving up on him and he's been so super sweet otherwise today.
Nero on the other hand is the most easily adaptable cat ever. Loves everybody, everything and everywhere. I was going to be getting him later in the week just because he's staying with Rob's parents but I'd rather pick him up from the house instead of awkwardly going through them (I haven't seen nor talked with them since just after Thanksgiving). Nero's been with his parents since the end of Jan. I miss my baby sleeping on my head at night and giving me kisses when I walk in the door. The bf even commented on how happy I was now that I had a cat with me again.
I guess I just needed to vent my thoughts a bit, and hope that I'm not wrong for thinking that having Neko stay where he's familiar until I move is the best thing all around...
I had to take Neko and Hoshi to the vet for a comprehensive exam yesterday, so I decided that I'd just bring Neko back to the apartment with me since it'd been about a month since planning to get him here. Neko has always been iffy with change. He doesn't really like other people (he never was friendly to Rob's parents, and they were the ones who'd feed him for 2 years whenever we went out of town; and forget if we had company or a cookout, he'd be hiding under the washer/dryer even if we were outside!), so I'm actually surprised how well he is doing being in the apartment with a stranger. He jumped on the bed earlier a few times. But he has been meowing and crying for at least 2+ hours now. Heck, he was laying next to me on the couch (trying to keep him away from the bedroom now) and rubbing my hand, yet letting out loud, horribly pitiful meows. I did just open the door to the screened in porch and let him out there and he's quiet now just laying out there, but I already know I'll be sitting up all night trying to keep him out/away from the bedroom (and he hates closed doors so that would just make him wail more), just so he doesn't keep the other half up all night too. I also know I can't leave the porch door open all night for him to come in and out as he pleases because the pollen is ridiculous, and bf has bad allergies.
I'm pretty much in tears in frustration and sadness, feeling that bringing him back to the house with Rob is the best option for him right now, and less stressful, and to just worry about having him when I'm settled in one spot rather than having him here now for a few months, back with Rob for a month or so, and then taking him wherever I end up going. Just feel horrible doing that, like I'm giving up on him and he's been so super sweet otherwise today.
Nero on the other hand is the most easily adaptable cat ever. Loves everybody, everything and everywhere. I was going to be getting him later in the week just because he's staying with Rob's parents but I'd rather pick him up from the house instead of awkwardly going through them (I haven't seen nor talked with them since just after Thanksgiving). Nero's been with his parents since the end of Jan. I miss my baby sleeping on my head at night and giving me kisses when I walk in the door. The bf even commented on how happy I was now that I had a cat with me again.
I guess I just needed to vent my thoughts a bit, and hope that I'm not wrong for thinking that having Neko stay where he's familiar until I move is the best thing all around...