I adopted/rehomed a second cat 9 days ago. Resident cat is Elfie a female, almost 3 years old. And the new cat is Fester a 5 year old guy. Elfie seems angry with me but seems to get along fine with the other cat.
The introductions went surprisingly well... I'm still in the middle of the intro's obviously but they are together most of the day. Because that seems to be what they both want! They are still separated during the night and when I'm not home, just to be sure. There is no more hissing (mostly, today I saw her hiss at him a total of 2 times maybe, and it was cause she forgot he was there) and no swiping (at eachother).
Maybe it's important to mention that, during the introductions when they were fed on either sides of a screendoor, I touched and scared her a couple times. Which caused her to show some redirected aggression towards me where she hissed and swiped at my hand. She had never done that to me or any other human before - and seemed confused right after she'd done it. This happened twice. Both times it was without nails but I imagine it must not have been fun and might've made some negative assosiations with my hands. I was trying to comfort her, which is a very human reaction but also a stupid move.
Today Elfie mostly just gave him his space when he slept but when he was active she followed him around and sat from a good distance looking at what he was doing - while he explored the place. In the evening when usually I play with her she started trying to engage him in play by chasing him (no pouncing, she doesn't touch him). He is still nervous from moving homes and obviously did not feel like playing in a room he didn't even feel comfortable walking in yet! But I've seen them touch noses, he has rubbed his body onto her and they approach eachother with tails high. Obviously they are fine... right? They're doing awesome I'm beyond grateful for that.
The thing is... Elf is a persian. She was cut short this summer so her hair is still growing back but it does need a quick 5 minute comb every other day. She won't let me at the moment. I do the same I've done for years, I come sit next to her scratchy thing when I find her sleeping and start combing her face with her treats handy, but she won't even take the treat (very strange she is super food motivated). Today when she noticed I was combing her she sat up and swiped at my hand and ran away. I don't like holding her down so I just let her go as always. She needs to be combed though. Another thing to mention is that she is fine with petting and my hands near her face, and my face near her face, and whatnot. AND yet another thing happened today where she was staring at him, and I touched her to distract her, and she swiped at me again. Clearly pissed as all hell. She's never moody and on edge like that.
I don't like her being unpredictable. Both times I did not expect it. These are normal ways I usually touch her in. I don't know? Will this just go away when she gets used to his presence, you think? Or will this become my new relationship with her? I feel kinda sad about it and I feel like it's my own fault.
Thanks for reading if you did and here is a picture to put faces behind a name or something!(Yes, Fester is lovingly named after his twin from the Addams family, Uncle Fester. Because they're both so beautiful?)
The introductions went surprisingly well... I'm still in the middle of the intro's obviously but they are together most of the day. Because that seems to be what they both want! They are still separated during the night and when I'm not home, just to be sure. There is no more hissing (mostly, today I saw her hiss at him a total of 2 times maybe, and it was cause she forgot he was there) and no swiping (at eachother).
Maybe it's important to mention that, during the introductions when they were fed on either sides of a screendoor, I touched and scared her a couple times. Which caused her to show some redirected aggression towards me where she hissed and swiped at my hand. She had never done that to me or any other human before - and seemed confused right after she'd done it. This happened twice. Both times it was without nails but I imagine it must not have been fun and might've made some negative assosiations with my hands. I was trying to comfort her, which is a very human reaction but also a stupid move.
Today Elfie mostly just gave him his space when he slept but when he was active she followed him around and sat from a good distance looking at what he was doing - while he explored the place. In the evening when usually I play with her she started trying to engage him in play by chasing him (no pouncing, she doesn't touch him). He is still nervous from moving homes and obviously did not feel like playing in a room he didn't even feel comfortable walking in yet! But I've seen them touch noses, he has rubbed his body onto her and they approach eachother with tails high. Obviously they are fine... right? They're doing awesome I'm beyond grateful for that.
The thing is... Elf is a persian. She was cut short this summer so her hair is still growing back but it does need a quick 5 minute comb every other day. She won't let me at the moment. I do the same I've done for years, I come sit next to her scratchy thing when I find her sleeping and start combing her face with her treats handy, but she won't even take the treat (very strange she is super food motivated). Today when she noticed I was combing her she sat up and swiped at my hand and ran away. I don't like holding her down so I just let her go as always. She needs to be combed though. Another thing to mention is that she is fine with petting and my hands near her face, and my face near her face, and whatnot. AND yet another thing happened today where she was staring at him, and I touched her to distract her, and she swiped at me again. Clearly pissed as all hell. She's never moody and on edge like that.
I don't like her being unpredictable. Both times I did not expect it. These are normal ways I usually touch her in. I don't know? Will this just go away when she gets used to his presence, you think? Or will this become my new relationship with her? I feel kinda sad about it and I feel like it's my own fault.
Thanks for reading if you did and here is a picture to put faces behind a name or something!(Yes, Fester is lovingly named after his twin from the Addams family, Uncle Fester. Because they're both so beautiful?)
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