If you could catch some video, I’d love to see the body language between the two.
That doesn't sound like mating behavior at all. That is just him being dominant. It's not that she doesn't like it, she is submissive to him but still confident enough to tell him to knock it off by hissing.So, it now seems like Larry (who was neutered at the shelter five years ago, when he was a year old) might be trying to "mate" with Gracie (who had been spayed by her previous owner).
She's still afraid of him when they're together -- we keep him on a harness and he's not aggressive or anything, but he's started to very calmly walk over to wherever she is an just kind of STAND over her, peering down, almost in a domination-esque way... and she does NOT like it. He doesn't bite or swat or growl, he just kind of stands there until she hisses... then he walks away or, if he's not getting the hint, we direct him away.
Could he somehow still be feeling "amorous"? Is there a male/female dynamic that remains, even when both cats were long ago spayed/neutered?
And, most importantly, is there any way to deter this behavior or remind Larry that his new sister is NOT for dating? ;-)
They are communicating. That is great. I don't think you really have much of a problem here at all.
That's been my problem. Even after putting a litter box in the family room. She still goes downstairs to use it. And gets chased out of it. :/ happened tonight. Just hope she was able to use it before being attackedHe does seem to respect her boundaries if she sets them... but he hasn't figured out that chasing = terror for Gracie.
And she hasn't figured out that chasing ≠ certain death.
No it's not for fun. That's the thing. It is stressing them out. Not to mention me. I took Levi and Lillian in summer of 2016. They were strays in my yard. I always try to find a home or rescue to take them. But couldn't. My oldest 6 are mom and her kittens we took in. Almost 8 years ago. Zane was dropped off about 4 years ago. I've had many others. But been able to find somewhere to take them. One of Levi and Lillians sisters showed up and we gave her to a lady . sadly the 4th litter mate was found dead in the street.M momof3b1g , is your cat being pounced on/attacked or just chased for fun and then left alone? (I hope it's the latter. Good luck!)
Thankfully, Larry only wants to play and never physically touches Gracie during/after a chase... but it scares the bejesus out of her just the same.
Here's a photo of the two of them from about a month ago, back when Gracie was still brave enough to go into the living room downstairs. She no longer does... at least, not willingly. Sometimes, we'll carry her down but she heads back to her safe room after about five minutes, even if Larry is sequestered in a closed room elsewhere.
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He would act as if there was an invisible barrier. I think he felt he had lost that territory, he stopped going in the room even if we were in there with the door open. It was almost funny if he wasn’t obviously a little stressed.When you say Gohan wouldn't go in the safe room, do you mean he refused to go in (even if the door was open?) or he wasn't *allowed* in?
We got really lucky with Olive - she is not aggressive but she knows what she wants and where she wants to be and she would always push forward. If we were trying to play or feed she would make sure she was around. Over time she built up confidence and she is now sleeping on the bed and going into the office (which still is mostly Gohan’s domain). She roams freely and barrels down the stairs. But then she never had a huge confidence problem, so it felt pretty easy from our end.And is Olive now more confident? Does she roam freely or is she still iffy?
Just curious... any updates regarding the chasing? My scenario sounds really familiar with the new cat retreating more and more under the bed of her safe space while the resident cat loves to give chase. Is Larry still chasing?Thanks for the 411, KarenKat !
Unfortunately for us, Larry LOVES going into Gracie's space, which would always happen when we had her gate open so she could come out and roam. He goes in, hangs out and uses her litter box (which she's actually OK with -- it's never deterred her from using it thereafter), while she either scurries into another room or hides under the bed in the safe room.
We're going to restrict his access for a while, gate open or not, to hopefully boost Gracie's sense of security more.
She's just started sneezing and snoofing (forcefully blowing air out her nostrils as if trying to clear something) more and more over the past couple of days, so we're wondering if it could be stress... or just dust/dry air because it's winter.