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Hi fellow cat parents <3 I posted recently about a move I had coming up—I moved into a 2 story townhome with my boyfriend and our two cats, Kitty (10F, spayed) and Ladybug (5F, spayed).
My question initially was about whether to isolate them separately or in the same room while adjusting. They lived together for about a year in our last apartment. We introduced them in about a week; they were never cuddle buddies, but tolerated each other, would sleep on the same bed, etc.
We ended up isolating them separately when we moved, which I think was for the best because Ladybug in particular was very scared. They’ve both since warmed up and have loved exploring the place, playing, eating, sleeping, cuddling with us.
However, Kitty has seemingly forgotten who Ladybug is and is NOT happy. On our first evening, we let them both explore at the same time thinking they would remember each other. They absolutely did not. I think they had a fur flying fight: Kitty chased Ladybug into the bedroom, cornered her, and both were growling, hissing, very upset. One of them even peed on me, ahhh hah.
We separated them immediately and set up base camps: Ladybug is in the bedroom and Kitty is in the office (she was his first). We are trying the proper introduction method of swapping scent objects, swapping rooms, etc. They do well with that. It’s when they see each other that things go downhill.
We have cracked the door on other base camp and fed them treats, which distract them, but otherwise Kitty mostly growls or hisses; Ladybug sometimes growls as well. I bought a baby gate hoping to increase protection and visibility while being able to let one wander the rest of the house at a time. Neither usually lingers at the gate unless being fed a treat or if my boyfriend and I are both in the room on the other side of the gate. Sometimes they just stare quietly; other times it’s back to growling.
We thought we were making progress, but tonight I let Ladybug roam while Kitty was in the office with my boyfriend. He didn’t realize Ladybug was out and opened the door to look for something and Kitty got out, saw Ladybug on the stairs, and similarly chased her into the bedroom while yowling. He was able to separate them and no one seemed hurt but Kitty hissed more and Ladybug took a few minutes before going back to her goofy self.
So now we know we are definitely NOT at a stage of introducing them without a barrier… but I just am so worried that for some reason we aren’t ever going to get back to tolerating one another :-( Tomorrow will be a week in our new place, which I know isn’t a long time for new cat introductions… but is it OK for a reintroduction to be going like this? We also bought the girls some CBD treats and they have a prescription for gabapentin, the latter of which I haven’t tried giving Kitty yet.
I would love any advice or reassurance! I love them both so much and Kitty in particular has been through some incredibly tough times with my boyfriend… I don’t think anyone here would suggest rehoming but just want to clarify that's not an option. Thank you all <3
Also, some additional context: Kitty is definitely the alpha. She was less obvious about it in our first apartment, but Ladybug would try to play with her and she would shut it down by walking away or swatting. She’s older and bigger, and spent more of her life as an only cat. She’s clearly trying to establish dominance in the new place, imo, but Ladybug doesn’t seem to be vying for it per se.
Sharing photos of the girls <3
My question initially was about whether to isolate them separately or in the same room while adjusting. They lived together for about a year in our last apartment. We introduced them in about a week; they were never cuddle buddies, but tolerated each other, would sleep on the same bed, etc.
We ended up isolating them separately when we moved, which I think was for the best because Ladybug in particular was very scared. They’ve both since warmed up and have loved exploring the place, playing, eating, sleeping, cuddling with us.
However, Kitty has seemingly forgotten who Ladybug is and is NOT happy. On our first evening, we let them both explore at the same time thinking they would remember each other. They absolutely did not. I think they had a fur flying fight: Kitty chased Ladybug into the bedroom, cornered her, and both were growling, hissing, very upset. One of them even peed on me, ahhh hah.
We separated them immediately and set up base camps: Ladybug is in the bedroom and Kitty is in the office (she was his first). We are trying the proper introduction method of swapping scent objects, swapping rooms, etc. They do well with that. It’s when they see each other that things go downhill.
We have cracked the door on other base camp and fed them treats, which distract them, but otherwise Kitty mostly growls or hisses; Ladybug sometimes growls as well. I bought a baby gate hoping to increase protection and visibility while being able to let one wander the rest of the house at a time. Neither usually lingers at the gate unless being fed a treat or if my boyfriend and I are both in the room on the other side of the gate. Sometimes they just stare quietly; other times it’s back to growling.
We thought we were making progress, but tonight I let Ladybug roam while Kitty was in the office with my boyfriend. He didn’t realize Ladybug was out and opened the door to look for something and Kitty got out, saw Ladybug on the stairs, and similarly chased her into the bedroom while yowling. He was able to separate them and no one seemed hurt but Kitty hissed more and Ladybug took a few minutes before going back to her goofy self.
So now we know we are definitely NOT at a stage of introducing them without a barrier… but I just am so worried that for some reason we aren’t ever going to get back to tolerating one another :-( Tomorrow will be a week in our new place, which I know isn’t a long time for new cat introductions… but is it OK for a reintroduction to be going like this? We also bought the girls some CBD treats and they have a prescription for gabapentin, the latter of which I haven’t tried giving Kitty yet.
I would love any advice or reassurance! I love them both so much and Kitty in particular has been through some incredibly tough times with my boyfriend… I don’t think anyone here would suggest rehoming but just want to clarify that's not an option. Thank you all <3
Also, some additional context: Kitty is definitely the alpha. She was less obvious about it in our first apartment, but Ladybug would try to play with her and she would shut it down by walking away or swatting. She’s older and bigger, and spent more of her life as an only cat. She’s clearly trying to establish dominance in the new place, imo, but Ladybug doesn’t seem to be vying for it per se.
Sharing photos of the girls <3
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