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First, I'd like to say thank god I found this site
So I have a 3 year old black cat named Halloweeni... I'd like to apologize in advance for this very lengthy post, but i want to give as much detail in order to help my cat.
Since he was a baby he played rough leaving my roomates and I full of temporary scars on our arms. He would also randomly come up behind us and bite us on the legs or get our arms. However, he was still a sweet cat! He would come and lay with us, sit on our laps, fall asleep on his back our stomaches, but at the same time it was always on his terms and if you petted him for too long or when he didn't want you too your hand and arms were gonna pay! He wasn't really scared of strangers b/c he was always around when we would have parties and he was really good about being near people and he had no problem just walking away and finding a spot where no one would bother him... Then after almost a year I moved back home. He seemed to have adapted rather well but he HATED my brother...Apparently my brother caught him drinking milk from his bowl and hit him ( don't worry I almost killed my brother for laying a hand on my cat). Since then my cat could not see my brother or he'd lunge to attack him. The cat was only a week in my house when I had to leave on a trip for 6 weeks.
This is the rough part!!! While I was away my brother and cat were not able to get along. My brother was an evil person back then and would have my mom lock him in a tiny closet for hours at times while he was home. My mom reluctantly did it b/c she wanted to avoid the confrontation b/w them since my brother had threatened to kill my cat or throw him out onto the streets. I did not know what was going on since I was over seas and my mom kept it from me. I swear I would have taken the next flight home had I known what was happening to my little guy!! I LOVE LOVE LOVE him and i'm crying just remembering what he had to go through
When I got home I immediately went to him first because I had missed him most, more than my parents! And he hissed then went to attack my legs. My mom had to take him out of my room and he was hissing through the door and going crazy if I opened it even a crack.... I'm sure he was pretty angry at me for leaving him
Anyway, I took him to the vet and he was nice as pie... he was my old Halloweeni all over again. he came up to me purred, let me pet him. He was psychically healthy. I had the vet neuter him and keep him over night so I could clean my entire house w/ water and vinegar and spray it with the feline spray (i forget what its called but it calms them). The vet said Halloweeni had separation anxiety and was angry at me for leaving him in hell. He was on anti-aggression pills but they didn't do anything but make him sleep all the time.
When he came back home he was sniffing everything but not at all being aggressive towards me or my parents but as soon as my brother came in he would hiss. I went through many fights with my brother b/c of him spraying my cat with air freshener and basically anything that sprayed so the cat wouldn't attack him. My Halloweeni went through a lot and I guess you can say witness a sort of violence b/w my brother and I (lots of loud screaming which he was never exposed to). I even went to the cops to see if they could help me and I think he got a lil scared when I told him I had done a police report and if anything ever happened to my cat he would be arrested and i'd call the Humane Society on him so they could eat him alive.
My brother was a different person then and had a lot of emotional issued that he has worked out for the most part.
Fast forwards to now.... Halloweeni still hates my brother but doesn't lunge at him if someone else is in the room (for the most part) my brother can actually walk by him very carefully and not get attacked. However, he does on occasion stare my brother down and lets him know he's ready to get him. He lets me pet him BUT ONLY on his head. If i touch any other part of his body he'll give me a warning look. If I do it again he'll motion like he's gonna bite me if I put my hand near him again. I stop there and blow him kissies and let him smell my hand so he knows its ok. We get along really well. He follows my mom and I all over the house and lets me get close enough to his face where I can kiss his lips and nose. He has never tried to bite or scratch my face.
I want to be able to pick him up like I did 3 years ago and walk around with him on my shoulder...I want to be able to hug him, and pet him all over. I want him to lay on my belly and lap again and I want him to be able to be in the same room as my brother w/o trying to attack him (my brother has been nice to him for 1.5 years now and only sprays the air if Halloweeni is aggressive towards him). Halloweeni is free to walk all over the house and hallway expect for the livingroom when my brother is home.
Halloweeni is ok around strangers but they cant just touch him. I always have to be there and have them put there hand to his nose so he can smell them. Then he will let them pet him but every once in awhile he becomes very suspicous and i know not to let people near him esp. not children.
I know Halloweeni has been through A LOT but is there anything I can do to make him feel 100% safe again? Safe enough that he'll let me carry him, pet him everywhere, and sleep on my lap? My brother wants to pet and play with him...what can I do to help halloweeni understand my brother won't hurt him again? Should I put him on meds? He still gets very angry if he hears loud noises or if anyone moves his bed even just to clean the floor he'll growl and stick his claws into it and bite it...? I feel heavy in my heart for not being there for him when he needed me and I just want to make it up to him....any suggestions?
SORRY FOR THE LONG POST and please don't hate me for not being able to protect him when I was away
So I have a 3 year old black cat named Halloweeni... I'd like to apologize in advance for this very lengthy post, but i want to give as much detail in order to help my cat.
Since he was a baby he played rough leaving my roomates and I full of temporary scars on our arms. He would also randomly come up behind us and bite us on the legs or get our arms. However, he was still a sweet cat! He would come and lay with us, sit on our laps, fall asleep on his back our stomaches, but at the same time it was always on his terms and if you petted him for too long or when he didn't want you too your hand and arms were gonna pay! He wasn't really scared of strangers b/c he was always around when we would have parties and he was really good about being near people and he had no problem just walking away and finding a spot where no one would bother him... Then after almost a year I moved back home. He seemed to have adapted rather well but he HATED my brother...Apparently my brother caught him drinking milk from his bowl and hit him ( don't worry I almost killed my brother for laying a hand on my cat). Since then my cat could not see my brother or he'd lunge to attack him. The cat was only a week in my house when I had to leave on a trip for 6 weeks.
This is the rough part!!! While I was away my brother and cat were not able to get along. My brother was an evil person back then and would have my mom lock him in a tiny closet for hours at times while he was home. My mom reluctantly did it b/c she wanted to avoid the confrontation b/w them since my brother had threatened to kill my cat or throw him out onto the streets. I did not know what was going on since I was over seas and my mom kept it from me. I swear I would have taken the next flight home had I known what was happening to my little guy!! I LOVE LOVE LOVE him and i'm crying just remembering what he had to go through
When I got home I immediately went to him first because I had missed him most, more than my parents! And he hissed then went to attack my legs. My mom had to take him out of my room and he was hissing through the door and going crazy if I opened it even a crack.... I'm sure he was pretty angry at me for leaving him
When he came back home he was sniffing everything but not at all being aggressive towards me or my parents but as soon as my brother came in he would hiss. I went through many fights with my brother b/c of him spraying my cat with air freshener and basically anything that sprayed so the cat wouldn't attack him. My Halloweeni went through a lot and I guess you can say witness a sort of violence b/w my brother and I (lots of loud screaming which he was never exposed to). I even went to the cops to see if they could help me and I think he got a lil scared when I told him I had done a police report and if anything ever happened to my cat he would be arrested and i'd call the Humane Society on him so they could eat him alive.
My brother was a different person then and had a lot of emotional issued that he has worked out for the most part.
Fast forwards to now.... Halloweeni still hates my brother but doesn't lunge at him if someone else is in the room (for the most part) my brother can actually walk by him very carefully and not get attacked. However, he does on occasion stare my brother down and lets him know he's ready to get him. He lets me pet him BUT ONLY on his head. If i touch any other part of his body he'll give me a warning look. If I do it again he'll motion like he's gonna bite me if I put my hand near him again. I stop there and blow him kissies and let him smell my hand so he knows its ok. We get along really well. He follows my mom and I all over the house and lets me get close enough to his face where I can kiss his lips and nose. He has never tried to bite or scratch my face.
I want to be able to pick him up like I did 3 years ago and walk around with him on my shoulder...I want to be able to hug him, and pet him all over. I want him to lay on my belly and lap again and I want him to be able to be in the same room as my brother w/o trying to attack him (my brother has been nice to him for 1.5 years now and only sprays the air if Halloweeni is aggressive towards him). Halloweeni is free to walk all over the house and hallway expect for the livingroom when my brother is home.
Halloweeni is ok around strangers but they cant just touch him. I always have to be there and have them put there hand to his nose so he can smell them. Then he will let them pet him but every once in awhile he becomes very suspicous and i know not to let people near him esp. not children.
I know Halloweeni has been through A LOT but is there anything I can do to make him feel 100% safe again? Safe enough that he'll let me carry him, pet him everywhere, and sleep on my lap? My brother wants to pet and play with him...what can I do to help halloweeni understand my brother won't hurt him again? Should I put him on meds? He still gets very angry if he hears loud noises or if anyone moves his bed even just to clean the floor he'll growl and stick his claws into it and bite it...? I feel heavy in my heart for not being there for him when he needed me and I just want to make it up to him....any suggestions?
SORRY FOR THE LONG POST and please don't hate me for not being able to protect him when I was away