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This is my first post in this clearly very lovely community so thanks for having me! I came across it while googling "new cat not warming up to me" lol
I brought my new kitty Homer home with me 1 week ago. He was found feral under an apartment in Hollywood with a mother and sibling. He's about 5-6 months old they guess. The shelter did a great job of setting my expectations on Homer EXTREMELY LOW like he won't eat, drink, use the bathroom, make a peep for days possibly. Thankfully I was proud to coax him into eating and pooping the very first night! He's a hungry boy and I want to feed him lots so he grows big and strong! What is this feeling
Our safe room is the bathroom where he spends all his time so far. I experimented with leaving the door open in the evenings initially but he seemed to just get under my bed or in a dark corner of my closet by morning so I'm strict about bathroom only for now.
Our ritual has pretty much been this: I stand outside the bathroom calling his name a couple times before entering to announce my presence. I open the door, and he's either already cowering in the blanket lined box bed I made for him or he quickly darts into it. I go sit next to him, offer a hand, maybe he sniffs it or even not I start petting him and talking to him. After a while he really leans into it, starts purring. Petting his behind will get him up and out of the box to stretch and finally eat the food I've set out for him. After eating I try out some play time. He follows a catnip stuffed butterfly I hold in my hands around, sometimes batting at or leaping for it. He likes the laser game. He will rub himself against me in what I believe to be an affectionate way. He'll bring his face up to mine. He knead on a bath mat while I pet him. He is either too docile to do anything about it or enjoying it, but he'll let me hold him in my lap for a bit.
So obviously he's very cute and sweet BUT I am having a hard time understanding his flighty nature and sensitivity. He does not approach me at all. If he's eating and I make the slightest move or even sigh heavy, it's back into the box for him stat. He won't take treats from my hand only laid nearby. He hates open spaces. When I'm standing I'm pretty sure he thinks I'm another person entirely, just staring at me like a scary giant. Seemingly never recognizes me, like each time I have to work him back up into a comfortable place. The improvements we made in the first few days have regressed into more almost hostility, last night he wouldn't play and just decided to lay as far from me as possible in every corner of the bathroom.
My concern here is that I don't know what to do to make him comfortable. This is my first cat and the shelter called him a "project cat." I am reluctant to let him into the rest of the apartment since I'm sure I'll never see him again. I am seriously getting a sore back and butt from all the bending over, crouching, and sitting on the floor I am doing every evening to continue strengthening our bond to no real result. I wonder if I should finally let him out and just pretend he's not there for a while ? Should I keep up this regimen of bonding time ? Is all this behavior indicative that I have a cat that will always be hiding under the bed and I should either accept it or take him back soon before he gets too comfortable ? Thanks for any tips and I am reading all the articles on thecatsite now
I brought my new kitty Homer home with me 1 week ago. He was found feral under an apartment in Hollywood with a mother and sibling. He's about 5-6 months old they guess. The shelter did a great job of setting my expectations on Homer EXTREMELY LOW like he won't eat, drink, use the bathroom, make a peep for days possibly. Thankfully I was proud to coax him into eating and pooping the very first night! He's a hungry boy and I want to feed him lots so he grows big and strong! What is this feeling
Our safe room is the bathroom where he spends all his time so far. I experimented with leaving the door open in the evenings initially but he seemed to just get under my bed or in a dark corner of my closet by morning so I'm strict about bathroom only for now.
Our ritual has pretty much been this: I stand outside the bathroom calling his name a couple times before entering to announce my presence. I open the door, and he's either already cowering in the blanket lined box bed I made for him or he quickly darts into it. I go sit next to him, offer a hand, maybe he sniffs it or even not I start petting him and talking to him. After a while he really leans into it, starts purring. Petting his behind will get him up and out of the box to stretch and finally eat the food I've set out for him. After eating I try out some play time. He follows a catnip stuffed butterfly I hold in my hands around, sometimes batting at or leaping for it. He likes the laser game. He will rub himself against me in what I believe to be an affectionate way. He'll bring his face up to mine. He knead on a bath mat while I pet him. He is either too docile to do anything about it or enjoying it, but he'll let me hold him in my lap for a bit.
So obviously he's very cute and sweet BUT I am having a hard time understanding his flighty nature and sensitivity. He does not approach me at all. If he's eating and I make the slightest move or even sigh heavy, it's back into the box for him stat. He won't take treats from my hand only laid nearby. He hates open spaces. When I'm standing I'm pretty sure he thinks I'm another person entirely, just staring at me like a scary giant. Seemingly never recognizes me, like each time I have to work him back up into a comfortable place. The improvements we made in the first few days have regressed into more almost hostility, last night he wouldn't play and just decided to lay as far from me as possible in every corner of the bathroom.
My concern here is that I don't know what to do to make him comfortable. This is my first cat and the shelter called him a "project cat." I am reluctant to let him into the rest of the apartment since I'm sure I'll never see him again. I am seriously getting a sore back and butt from all the bending over, crouching, and sitting on the floor I am doing every evening to continue strengthening our bond to no real result. I wonder if I should finally let him out and just pretend he's not there for a while ? Should I keep up this regimen of bonding time ? Is all this behavior indicative that I have a cat that will always be hiding under the bed and I should either accept it or take him back soon before he gets too comfortable ? Thanks for any tips and I am reading all the articles on thecatsite now