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We just adopted a second cat, a 7-9month old girl name Nika. She's been recently spayed (stitches out next week). She's been stunted due to have having kittens on her first litter, and is unlikely to grow bigger.
We also have a cat, Fagin, who is a playful and sweet boy at 8 kgs. Great personality, also neutered.
Introductions between the two are going okay. Fagin isn't thrilled, but he's only watching her and hissing if she gets too close, which is within a few feet of him.
We have a two part problem I need some advice on.
1) While Fagin will sit and watch her, or sometimes hide under a chair, when we open the door to her room, Nika will immediately try to bolt out of her safety room and, now that she knows he won't attack her, she charges at him and stops a few feet away after pushing him a bit. She's very alert with her tail thrashing, but no hissing/clays/ear signs. I'm concerned she's trying to bully him - is this something I need to address?
2) Nika gets quite violent if you're not constantly playing with her. And I mean constant. She expects an hour of play followed by a wee nap time, then aggressive play time. By aggressive I mean she will immediately grab my hand or leg, despite offering her an acceptable toy, and will death kick me and bite hard enough to draw blood. I try to not move my hand and 'play dead', but it doesn't matter - she will cling harder and bite more, so it's easier to slowly draw my hand back and tell her "No" firmly.
Another example: She was crying really badly last night, so I took my pillows into the room to sleep with her for company. We played for a bit, then we started to settle down. I went to bed (there's a single bed there), and she jumps up, purring, and immedately attacks my hair, death kicking and drawing blood on my scalp. She wouldn't stop, so I gave up and went back to my room.
Even when she's getting aggressive on hands, many times she's purring, so I know SHE'S happy - just not my hand, hah.
I know this is a new home and she's probably stressed to no end, especially since she keeps bothering her spay wound and we had to have the vet wrap her. I've got a Feliway in her room, and now here this morning on day 3 it seemed that she was slightly mellower than before.
Most of the time - and this includes when she was at the foster home she was in - she seemed to almost always be on alert, and she often thrashes her tail.
What can we do to help mellow her out a bit, and teach her toys, not hands? Any tips for helping her feel more at ease? I don't expect her to act exactly like our other cat, but I'd like to not live in fear of more open wounds.
Any tips at all, because she's such a sweet and lovely girl other times that I know she's not nasty-tempered. I don't want to have to take her back.
We also have a cat, Fagin, who is a playful and sweet boy at 8 kgs. Great personality, also neutered.
Introductions between the two are going okay. Fagin isn't thrilled, but he's only watching her and hissing if she gets too close, which is within a few feet of him.
We have a two part problem I need some advice on.
1) While Fagin will sit and watch her, or sometimes hide under a chair, when we open the door to her room, Nika will immediately try to bolt out of her safety room and, now that she knows he won't attack her, she charges at him and stops a few feet away after pushing him a bit. She's very alert with her tail thrashing, but no hissing/clays/ear signs. I'm concerned she's trying to bully him - is this something I need to address?
2) Nika gets quite violent if you're not constantly playing with her. And I mean constant. She expects an hour of play followed by a wee nap time, then aggressive play time. By aggressive I mean she will immediately grab my hand or leg, despite offering her an acceptable toy, and will death kick me and bite hard enough to draw blood. I try to not move my hand and 'play dead', but it doesn't matter - she will cling harder and bite more, so it's easier to slowly draw my hand back and tell her "No" firmly.
Another example: She was crying really badly last night, so I took my pillows into the room to sleep with her for company. We played for a bit, then we started to settle down. I went to bed (there's a single bed there), and she jumps up, purring, and immedately attacks my hair, death kicking and drawing blood on my scalp. She wouldn't stop, so I gave up and went back to my room.
Even when she's getting aggressive on hands, many times she's purring, so I know SHE'S happy - just not my hand, hah.
I know this is a new home and she's probably stressed to no end, especially since she keeps bothering her spay wound and we had to have the vet wrap her. I've got a Feliway in her room, and now here this morning on day 3 it seemed that she was slightly mellower than before.
Most of the time - and this includes when she was at the foster home she was in - she seemed to almost always be on alert, and she often thrashes her tail.
What can we do to help mellow her out a bit, and teach her toys, not hands? Any tips for helping her feel more at ease? I don't expect her to act exactly like our other cat, but I'd like to not live in fear of more open wounds.
Any tips at all, because she's such a sweet and lovely girl other times that I know she's not nasty-tempered. I don't want to have to take her back.