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I completely agree that there is obviously resentment towards Lena. I totally understand that mothering instinct to protect the kitten, and the kitten should be protected. But that doesn't mean that all other cats in the home are at her mercy and not allowed to have their own needs and feelings met. Especially so when a proper introduction wasn't done between these cats. What Lena is doing is totally and completely normal for many cats and does not mean that they won't be friends once they get to know each other better. And even if they don't as long as the kitten is allowed to learn that Lena likes her space then they should be fine. Lena hasn't shown any aggression towards the kitten, she has simply said, hey I don't know you because those humans didn't let me get used to your scent before tossing us together and hey I want my space.If I am understanding this correctly a period of introduction was never done? This article posted above is a good one and I really think it is worth a try before rehoming a cat (http://www.thecatsite.com/a/introducing-cats-to-cats). Like others have said two weeks is a very short period of time, especially if they were introduced too quickly. I know it is hard to find space but even separating her in the bathroom or a large cage is what many people do during introductions.
Again like others have said the behaviour you are describing is very mild. Kittens can be real pests and my kitten sometimes goes to far in bugging my older cat and he has hissed a couple of times at her- she actually doesn't even notice and keeps carrying on. I do not think Star is having her life ruined by a few hisses.
Honestly there seems to be some strange resentment in your posts about Lena and my heart really goes out to this cat. She has been abandoned twice so no wonder she is a little wary of new situations. I hope you and your partner can show some compassion to this poor thing and try to understand how scared and unsure she must be feeling after being rehomed so many times. She is also for sure picking up on your resentment and preferential treatment of the kitten. If a good person wants her then maybe it would be best to rehome her but sure it will be for the last time!
So the precious kitten isn't supposed to learn any cat manners from the other cats and just supposed to rule the roost? That's what it sounds like.Its not just a case of Lena being grumpy, an hour or so ago we let her into the room with little Star, she went straight over to where Star was asleep and hissed at her, scaring Star awake, my partner is not going to put up with anyone behaving aggressively towards his kitten, and quite rightly so, Lenas twice the size of Star, little Star deserves to feel safe in her home. up till that point Lena had done really well today but now everyone upset with her again. Someones expressed a interest in homing Lena, I really don't want her to go but if she keeps being nasty, its not going to be my choice as my partner and little Star are not going anywhere. I have very little time left to get through to her...