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tara g

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Thank you all.

To elaborate a little, I was involved in a bad drag racing accident on Sunday night. The other driver did not make it. It's been extremely hard to deal with.

Luckily I have offline support from the hubby, and friends on the local car forum that I spend time with, many who were there and witnessed it. They reassure me I did what I could and to not hold guilt as it could have been any of us anywhere. It's still very hard though and at some points I just want to fall apart.
 
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Oh sweetie, I can't imagine! :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: I'm SO sorry. :heart3: But as I'm SURE you know, it's a sport in which you participate knowing the risks. I'm also sure knowing that doesn't help much. :(

I'm glad you've got a good support network for something like this. My thoughts are with you and the family of the other driver. :vibes: :vibes: :vibes: :vibes: :vibes: :vibes: :vibes: :vibes: :hugs: :heart3:
 

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OH no :eek:hno: I am SO sorry for what you are going through. Such a risk in a sport like that :( and I do know about taking risks in a sport. I used to do Eventing on horses years ago. Lost a friend to it as well. Glad you have a good support system in place for something like this. Such a tradegy. Loads of vibes and hugs to you :vibes::vibes::vibes::vibes::vibes::vibes::vibes::vibes::vibes: :hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs:
 

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omg, I cannot even begin to imagine what you are going thru, even though it's not your fault.
 
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Thank you :heart3:

Its been rough seeing what other people, who have no idea who I am or know how experienced I am , say about me because I am a female in a male-dominated sport. Luckily those same friends that were there have been standing up for me against those comments and setting stories straight. If it weren't for them all offering their ears, hugs, kind words, and reminding me that I could not have acted any differently in the situation, I would be in a much worse spot mentally. I also do realize that I don't need to worry about what people who know nothing about me have to say, but it has also upset myself and some of my friends that people would be so rude and inconsiderate when two families are aching over this tragedy.

I come from a background of racing (though I am the only drag racer in the family), and even though we all know the extreme risk going in, you never really think it will happen to you. It has really opened everyone's eyes to the reality of it. Especially considering the vehicles involved were not fast race cars, but daily driven street cars. We all go out to the track to keep it legal and off the street where risk is greater, but it is still a dangerous sport no matter how many precautions one takes.
 
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Take care of yourself.  One can always second-guess your actions.  I did this for years after my parents were in a serious auto accident.

It of course didn't change the outcome.
 

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Big hugs Tara.

While I dont know how you are feeling I do understand everything you are saying. DF and his cousin drag race also. They compete in the non street cars on a legal drag strip and its scary every time we would go because you never knew what could happen. Even the most experianced driver can have issues.

If you ever need to talk Im only a pm away!

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What a terrible thing to happen - dealing witht he aftermath of awful events is always very hard, even worse when you are directly involved. But you know, and those you care about know, what really happened and that you were not to blame. No one else matters. But we all question our own actions even when we are not in any way responsible, and it must be very hard. Many many vibes to help you get through this.
 

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I've never really had a problem with my cats being up all night. I turn my cats' schedule to my own by keeping the awake all day long and playing with them lots. If I see them sleeping during the day, I wake them up and play with them really hard. If they try to sneak off for a nap.....wakey wakey! Playtime!  One full day of that gets them onto my own sleep wake schedule.
 
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