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Okay so I need help! The situation is different, as everyones situation will always be. Anyways moving on, I have to start from the beginning because some things matter and youll need to know to give the best possible advice.
Where I use to live (which is only a couple of streets away) we had what started as 1 female cat but now has evolved to an awesome feral cat family that lived under our house....more like an under house garage, anyways every single one of them I slowly gained the trust of and now I can pet and go near anyone of them and they are not afraid at all. They even bring there kittens up to the front door when they are old enough to explore, its a freaking awesome family...
I've personally adopted 4 out of the group which live with me now in my new home. There was only one cat from the family that did not come around, nor hangout and help raise kittens with the other queens...she was different, we barley saw her. One day I was outside and unfortunately she was struck by a car while crossing the street, I cried...we buried her and later that evening I remembered she was recently pregnant. So we went across the street to the church to see if she had any kittens and she did....
1 beautiful white kitten with blue eyes (mommy was all black). She was afraid but I was not going to let her fend for herself out there all alone, my husband tried to catch her and she was so scared that she kept running head first into the doors of the church...so we called it off and decided to set a trap.
once we set the trap I waited for maybe 45 minutes till she finally smelled the food...she walked right out into the trap but the step plate did not trigger, so my husband quickly ran up behind her and tripped it himself before she got away...she was not hurt.
She was so afraid, we put a blanket over her and put her in the living room by herself with the door open and just waited....
after that we named her Minnie and It took maybe a month but she finally warmed up to us. I would play at least 3 times a day for over and hour with her and my other cat Bug bc I wanted them to get along!!
2 months later she is sleeping in the bed with me and my husband and Bug which only was 5 months older than her.
Everything was perfectly fine...about 4 months later we had to move due to my husbands medical condition and this is where everything went south...
After moving into our new home she completely changed, not even the same one bit...
She is terrified of my husband now, I mean literally terrified. She will do anything to get away from him, its insane... same thing with me, but I slowly gained her trust again and she would only come out and hangout when my husband was not home. She still would run and hide if I got up or made any sudden movements but she would come right back out..
We had to walk on egg shells because we knew if we scared her she would do crazy things just to get out of the way and hide...like jump from the top of the stairs straight down...we were so worried that we would get her hurt somehow.
Gets worse...
July 1st of this year, more than a year after we first brought her home she somehow managed to get out....I was devastated because I knew there was no way we were going to get her back....we cant even catch her to give her flea meds when she was in the house, there was no way we were going to catch her now that she is outside...
I looked day in and day out for her and 2 weeks later found her across the street in my neighbors back yard....I did everything you can image to try and catch her and finally 2 months later she actually came in side through a whole we had in the bathroom (a pipe busted and was getting fixed)
when she came in I closed the bathroom door and finally was relieved to have her home...
She was more afraid than than ever, mowing really loud and freaking out.... I felt really bad, because she honestly lives in fear and she probably was much less stressed and scared outside so I let her outside....
again, I was devastated and again went on a mission to catch her again... if something would happen to her, I would feel so bad and couldnt live with that...so again she came in through the bathroom and we caught her the same way....
Shes been inside for almost 2 weeks now, and all she does is hide... will not come out to eat, wont come out to play with her best friend like she used to...nothing, she wont even come to me anymore or come out when my husband leaves...
I don't know what to do at this point because I dont want anything to happen her but at the same time I dont want her to live in fear 24 hours day...What should I do?
When she was outside the first time, she would come over and hangout with her best friend Kona(our older male cat) because we would let him out to play for a few hours a night and they were literally best friends....I mean cuddling together all the time, playing, eating, walk around the house crying looking for each other...I mean they had a great relationship and at night when he was out she would come over and hangout with him outside, eat then go back across the street..
I love Minnie, she is so sweet and before she got out she was a great cat and I love her company but I dont want to just give her away bc anyone who gets her is not going to have any luck with her and I dont want her going home to home and end up in the pound at the end....I also dont want her outside because if something were to happenI would not be able to live with myself
I also don't want her to live is fear 24 hours a day by keeping her inside....
WHAT THE HELL DO I DO? thank you in advance
any opinions, suggestions and advice will be so helpful
Where I use to live (which is only a couple of streets away) we had what started as 1 female cat but now has evolved to an awesome feral cat family that lived under our house....more like an under house garage, anyways every single one of them I slowly gained the trust of and now I can pet and go near anyone of them and they are not afraid at all. They even bring there kittens up to the front door when they are old enough to explore, its a freaking awesome family...
I've personally adopted 4 out of the group which live with me now in my new home. There was only one cat from the family that did not come around, nor hangout and help raise kittens with the other queens...she was different, we barley saw her. One day I was outside and unfortunately she was struck by a car while crossing the street, I cried...we buried her and later that evening I remembered she was recently pregnant. So we went across the street to the church to see if she had any kittens and she did....
1 beautiful white kitten with blue eyes (mommy was all black). She was afraid but I was not going to let her fend for herself out there all alone, my husband tried to catch her and she was so scared that she kept running head first into the doors of the church...so we called it off and decided to set a trap.
once we set the trap I waited for maybe 45 minutes till she finally smelled the food...she walked right out into the trap but the step plate did not trigger, so my husband quickly ran up behind her and tripped it himself before she got away...she was not hurt.
She was so afraid, we put a blanket over her and put her in the living room by herself with the door open and just waited....
after that we named her Minnie and It took maybe a month but she finally warmed up to us. I would play at least 3 times a day for over and hour with her and my other cat Bug bc I wanted them to get along!!
2 months later she is sleeping in the bed with me and my husband and Bug which only was 5 months older than her.
Everything was perfectly fine...about 4 months later we had to move due to my husbands medical condition and this is where everything went south...
After moving into our new home she completely changed, not even the same one bit...
She is terrified of my husband now, I mean literally terrified. She will do anything to get away from him, its insane... same thing with me, but I slowly gained her trust again and she would only come out and hangout when my husband was not home. She still would run and hide if I got up or made any sudden movements but she would come right back out..
We had to walk on egg shells because we knew if we scared her she would do crazy things just to get out of the way and hide...like jump from the top of the stairs straight down...we were so worried that we would get her hurt somehow.
Gets worse...
July 1st of this year, more than a year after we first brought her home she somehow managed to get out....I was devastated because I knew there was no way we were going to get her back....we cant even catch her to give her flea meds when she was in the house, there was no way we were going to catch her now that she is outside...
I looked day in and day out for her and 2 weeks later found her across the street in my neighbors back yard....I did everything you can image to try and catch her and finally 2 months later she actually came in side through a whole we had in the bathroom (a pipe busted and was getting fixed)
when she came in I closed the bathroom door and finally was relieved to have her home...
She was more afraid than than ever, mowing really loud and freaking out.... I felt really bad, because she honestly lives in fear and she probably was much less stressed and scared outside so I let her outside....
again, I was devastated and again went on a mission to catch her again... if something would happen to her, I would feel so bad and couldnt live with that...so again she came in through the bathroom and we caught her the same way....
Shes been inside for almost 2 weeks now, and all she does is hide... will not come out to eat, wont come out to play with her best friend like she used to...nothing, she wont even come to me anymore or come out when my husband leaves...
I don't know what to do at this point because I dont want anything to happen her but at the same time I dont want her to live in fear 24 hours day...What should I do?
When she was outside the first time, she would come over and hangout with her best friend Kona(our older male cat) because we would let him out to play for a few hours a night and they were literally best friends....I mean cuddling together all the time, playing, eating, walk around the house crying looking for each other...I mean they had a great relationship and at night when he was out she would come over and hangout with him outside, eat then go back across the street..
I love Minnie, she is so sweet and before she got out she was a great cat and I love her company but I dont want to just give her away bc anyone who gets her is not going to have any luck with her and I dont want her going home to home and end up in the pound at the end....I also dont want her outside because if something were to happenI would not be able to live with myself
I also don't want her to live is fear 24 hours a day by keeping her inside....
WHAT THE HELL DO I DO? thank you in advance
any opinions, suggestions and advice will be so helpful