How To Help An Abused Cat Recover

Helping a formerly abused cat to regain his or her trust in humans and become a happy pet cat is a challenging - yet immensely rewarding - project.

We've put together this guide that will show you how to recognize the symptoms of abuse and how to help an abused cat recover.

What is an abused cat?

As cat lovers, when we hear about cat abuse, our stomachs turn.

Abuse of pets is more common than some people may think.

It may not always be as tragic as the awful cases that make headlines, but it takes its toll on poor cats everywhere.

Generally speaking, there are two kinds of pet abuse.

The more common one is simply a matter of continued neglect.

Our pets depend on us for their well-being. We need to provide them with

a suitable environment

adequate food

medical care

and lots of love

A cat that's routinely and systematically denied any of these cannot live a happy life.

A hungry cat, one whose injuries and disease are left untreated, or a pet cat that has little to no loving interaction with humans, is not a happy one.

That cat is likely to withdraw into his or her shell under the stress. More often than not, neglect spreads across all aspects of cat care.

These abused cats are often sick or malnourished and suffer from emotional deprivation.

Then there is the other form of abuse: deliberate infliction of pain on a cat. Fortunately, that kind of horrific cruelty is rarer. It's the kind that makes headlines that make cat lovers shudder.

Sadly, some cats suffer from both neglect and cruelty.

How to tell if a cat has been abused

A dying cat on the street. The animal lies alone on the road.

The telltale signs of abuse are often quite visible. Physical symptoms of cat abuse include -

Untreated injuries

Chronic health issues from untreated medical conditions

Parasites such as fleas, ticks, and worms

An overall unkempt coat, often with bald spots and other skin conditions

Emaciation (the cat is very thin)

In cases of actual animal cruelty, the cat may suffer any number of injuries - fresh and old.

In addition to the physical symptoms, abused cats are almost always scared and try to avoid human contact. Some may be aggressive, often due to physical pain and discomfort.

Others may just see a dark corner where they can hide away and suffer in silence.

Not every cat that's showing one or more of these symptoms is necessarily abused.

If you notice a cat that's emaciated, has fleas, or looks sick, that does not mean the owners aren't trying to take care of the situation.

If you suspect a cat is being abused, don't try to act on your own by taking the cat. That's illegal, dangerous, and possibly not helpful to the cat.

Instead, report the issue to the local animal control agency so they can investigate the case.

The good news is that abused cats can be helped. Depending on the cat's temperament, age, and condition, many of these cats may end up being loving pets again.

Others may be helped through medical care and being given a safe environment where they will no longer suffer abuse.

How to help an abused cat recover: The Principles

a poor cat with wound on chest and leg from dog attack.A ginger cat wearing buster collar drinking water in the pet bowl inside the cage at pet hospital.

These guidelines should put you in the right mindset for helping an abused cat recover and regain the quality of life every feline deserves. We'll cover the specifics next.

Unconditional love and dedication

To help an abused cat recover, you must help her or him regain their trust in humans. That means offering love - for the long run and with no conditions.

Even if that cat never becomes an adoring lap cat or even allows you to pet her or him. Even if they turn aggressive in some situations and bite or scratch you or someone you know.

You will never get angry or impatient with them. And of course - as is true for every cat - never shout at them or around them and never ever - under any circumstances - punish or hit them.

Take care of the cat's physical well-being

Cats who were severely abused may need urgent medical care. Malnourished cats will need a good few days or even weeks of quality feeding to recover physically.

The cat must first be free of pain and hunger before you can start working with him or her on trusting humans again.

Be patient

Patience is key when dealing with any behavioral issue in cats, all the more so when working with abused cats. There are no timetables for this process.

The pace is dictated by the cat and the cat alone. Age, temperament, and the type and severity of abuse can all affect how long the cat will take to regain his or her trust in any human.

Don't set your expectations too high

Your goal is to give this kitty the best possible quality of life. This may not necessarily mean he or she will turn into a friendly lap cat. Ever.

Even with no history of abuse, cats have their own boundaries, which we must learn to respect.

Some abused cats suffer from invisible neurological damage, which may affect their personality forever.

Our member @kieka shared with us the story of Cinnamon. "We are pretty sure that Cinnamon had brain damage from being physically abused," she said.

Cinnamon had trouble recognizing and relating to others around him, human or feline.

"We used to call him the roommate cat because he acted more like someone who rented a room from us than a part of the family," Kieka added.

How to help an abused cat recover: Practical Tips

Helping an abused cat heal is a project of love, a long one that can take years and even stretch across the cat's lifetime. Here are some practical tips for making this happen.

Slow introductions

As a formerly abused cat enters your life, you will have to introduce her or him to a new environment.

Kitty will have to become familiar with a home, new people, and possibly new pets. This is always a challenge, even for the most emotionally stable feline, but even more so for a traumatized cat.

Start with a safe room and expose the cat to new elements very gradually. Read this guide on how to help a cat adjust to your home and follow through slowly.

Avoid direct eye contact

Cats tend to be intimidated by direct eye contact. In "cat language," staring can be a sign of imminent aggression.

Try not to look directly at the cat. Instead, use the "eye squint" method of communication.

When the cat is looking at you, slowly and gradually squint your eyes until they are almost shut. In all likelihood, the cat will squint back.

That's a great way to make any cat feel comfortable around you, so repeat this exercise from time to time.

Let the cat come to you

Domestic life with pet. Cat welcome his owner (young man) at home.

Never force any kind of contact on the cat. Don't lift, hold, or even pet unless you are sure the cat is happy with that kind of attention.

It's best to let the cat come to you if and when he or she is ready. Offer your hand when that happens and let Kitty rub against it. Only then move to petting.

Never rush this. Our member @gitabooks works with shelter cats, many of them traumatized. She says: "If a cat shows trust and approaches you, don't push the matter.

You can spoil the moment and set progress back by reaching out towards them."

Tread lightly

Literally, try to be quiet and gentle when you move around the cat. No sudden movements, no sudden noises. Easy does it.

Get low

Try to spend time with the cat when you are low on the ground. Many shy cats feel more comfortable with their humans at (their) eye level. Sit down by the cat or even lie down.

No need to do anything - just be there with him or her in the room and let them get used to your presence.

Our member @losna found this technique to be very helpful with a rescued cat named Bêlit -

We kept her in a bathroom for a while because it was a small enclosed space, and I would periodically go in and just sit with her.

I learned that she was the most comfortable if I just lay down and closed my eyes, so I started bringing in some pillows and a blanket and doing my best to sleep.

Do spend time with the cat

Portrait of cute domestic cat with green eyes lying with owner at home. Unrecognizable young woman petting purebred straight-eared long hair kitty on her lap.

You will need to spend time with the cat, as often as possible. Follow the previous tips: Don't force the cat to do anything and don't try to initiate contact.

Just be there, low on the ground, speaking quietly and letting the cat see that you do not pose any danger.

A good way to pass the time is to read out loud, preferably a children's book. That exposes the cat to the sound of your voice, used in a quiet and non-intimidating way.

Offer Treats

Domestic life with pet. Man holding bowl with feeding for his hungry cat.

While many cats are suckers for treats, a scared cat is likely to ignore them. Safety first - food later.

Always offer the cat free access to food and water in the room and never let a cat go hungry, so she or he is more tempted to come to you for food. It just doesn't work like that.

Food should be unconditional, just like love.

Having said that, once the cat has become used to your presence, you can and should offer treats. With a trusting cat, treats can definitely make you more popular!

Our member @di and bob works with treats, but she leaves them for the cat and moves away. "Sit near the place you leave the treats/food and move closer over time as they allow," she suggests.

Gradual exposure to the source of fear

Some formerly abused cats fear something specific. It may be men, women, children, dogs, or even thunderstorms.

If you can find out what scares your cat, it's possible to work on reducing that fear.

Please keep in mind that this stage can only take place far into the recovery process, only once you have established a trusting relationship with that cat.

Our member @IndyJones shared her experience with rescued cat Kabby.

He was terrified of anything with castors (computer chairs, garbage cans etc) and hated storms to the point of pacing and panting.

I worked with him by sitting on the computer chair and holding him. I did this for increasing amounts of time each day, and over time he got better and better; now he will even jump up on the chair by himself and sleep there.

With storms I would cuddle him and play a CD of storm sounds; he also has a weighted jacket called a thunder shirt. This really helped him with the anxiety.

When in doubt, look for help

woman hand petting a cat head in the morning with warm sunlight, love to animals

Working with a formerly abused cat is a very rewarding experience. It can also be frustrating and confusing at times. When that happens, experienced rescuers can be a wonderful source for advice and support.

If you don't have any experience working with abused cats, try to find a local rescue group and get a mentor who can help you. That person may be able to visit you, help assess the cat's condition, and offer more advice.

Don't forget our forums too. We have many experience d rescuers right here in TheCatSite.com's community. Post about your situation in the Caring for Strays and Ferals forum and ask for advice.

Are you currently helping an abused cat? You are literally saving a life (some may say nine lives!) when you help a cat recover from abuse.

Please share your experience and any other tips you may have in the comments below.

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35 comments on “How To Help An Abused Cat Recover”

James March 26, 2023

Any advice for my car’s situation: I have 2 cats, both rescues. One suffered abuse before coming to me for a forever home. It’s been 2 years of following the steps outlined here, but she still hides under the sofa for most of the day, rarely ventures out. She still runs from everyone despite over two years of support. I don’t know if she’s just destined to be a cat who hides for her entire life, or if I’ve been doing something wrong. I don’t know what to do and I’m feeling like I’ve failed this cat if after 2 years they are still only out from under the sofa once or twice a week plus eating and pooing. I’m demoralised and need help

Chloe WIlliams April 20, 2023

Do not worry. Your cat just needs a bit more time. When they trust you they will start to come out more and more like our cat peaches. You are not doing anything wrong trust me.

Mary Turner November 29, 2021

I was reading the heartbreaking stories about everyones cats. I rescued 2 cats 6 weeks ago. First I took Oreo, a black and white cat. Her collar had been on so long that when they took her from the apartment the collar was strangling her and growing into her skin. Both girls were severely starved hungry and filthy. The condition they were in that day made us all cry. I was more of a dog person. Lol Sadly in Texas the humane society is over run with cats. So they were set out of the apartment and left on their own, on the back porch! I took Oreo first and cried when I took her home. She was severely severely starved and dehydrated. Next day I couldn't stand it and went and got Cali, my calico. You could look across their back and see all of their vertebrae! Nobody thought they would make it and I told my neighbors I couldn't give up on them. I finger fed both and used syringes to administer water for 2 days every 3 hours. The 3rd day they got strong enough to start on eating on their own. They didn't know how to play until they discovered my Christmas balls! Each of them have their own favorite color I left down for them, they won't play with kitty toys. I put boxes around my apartment and put treats in them. They didn't know what treats were. Both suffer from severe separation anxiety. A work on progress. I took them in, and one day Fed ex came and left 2 heavy packages on my porch. Since I took them in my neighborhood pitched in and bought 30 lbs of cat food and 60 lbs of good cat liter. Then came their scratching posts. They are so affectionate! Just so starved for love. Their trigger to recovery is music R&B. Now when my granddaughter walks in Cali goes airborne and jumps in her arms! Cali we really didn't think she would make it. She was the worse. We found out later she was pregnant. Regretfully because of her condition they didn't make it. They eat with me, go to the bathroom with me and will set and watch the shower curtain till I step out. If I close a door between them and I they freak out. It took 2 weeks to put together the story together and it was horrific.. They are so lovable. If I go to a different room I have to let them know. Cali's hair was burnt off of her ears , they were abused on a daily based. I went to rescue them but it turned out that they saved me. You see my husband passed 3 weeks before from a 7 yr illness, he wasn't supposed to make it 6 weeks. My cats and I has pulled each other out of the darkness. Cali loves to just talk to you. She is also my sleep partner and lap cat. Oreo is more of love me when I want and go away. As long as you in the same room. They have psychological scares but time will help heal. They have nightmares from their experience. I try to make them feel secure safe and very loved. They fear the outside. But that's ok. Everything is ok. They are trusting us now. Love to rub their heads against you head and loves kisses. I have realized they have most of the same characteristic as we do. I always speak in a gentle voice around them. I have a neighbor that comes for 3 hrs a day and help work with them. Now in a short time they look healthy, and are very comfortable in their forever home. I think the cats and I were blessed with each other. We never push them to do anything, if one thing makes them uncomfortable we don't do I it. But you definitely have to leave their radio on 24 hrs a day. I know they have a long time to heal, but that is ok. I have plenty of that. And did I mention they love kisses on their foreheads. I just watched them to figure out what they each need. I followed my gut feelings. The last few nights they have came for me when they had bad dreams. Oreo cries, no sound she will cry tears . I cannot understand how someone could so psychopathically abuse any animals like that day after day. It really breaks my heart.

JillianCarolyn June 15, 2023

What beautiful cats. Congratulations on giving them a new life and giving them a chance to love and be loved. ❤️

Lfoot October 17, 2021

Can we please ask for some advise on helping our rescue cat feel safe and feel she can make this her forever home. Background: She was found trapped in waste and heavily pregnant in March 2021, she was rescued by an a local animal shelter who medically helped her with her pregnancy (she had 9 kittens unfortunately, 3 didn’t survive) she also had an injury to her jaw and had 2 teeth removed at the front top and bottom (due to the nature of her injuries they believe she was probably kicked or hit by someone or something rather than run over). She has weened her kittens and been given the medical all clear. She has also been in 2 foster homes for the last few months and was now ready to be rehomed. We have had her for 3 weeks now, she is understandably very scared. She has a very healthy appetite and munchie’s her way through both wet and dry food and loves her dreamies. We have made her a den at the back or our sofa and she stays there or under the it and only comes out when it’s dark and we are out or in bed. We have a plug in natural distressing diffuser to help with hopefully reducing her stress levels. We also lay on the floor and talk to her without making direct eye contact or trying to pet her. We leave her dreamies and she snuffles these after we move away. I work from home 3 days a week and we are around the weekends so she is in the same room as us during the day. We have a webcam that show’s she is loving life when she does come out as she spends the night out from the sofa and eats, uses her litter tray and rolls around on the carpet and cleans herself, she goes back under before we get up. We desperately want her to come out from her den and stop hiding and eventually let us pet her but don’t want to cross her boundaries but want her to be able to feel relaxed and comfortable in her environment so she can enjoy her forever home. She is a sweet, adorable cat that is impeccably behaved, but we want the bond with her and require any advice that you can give?

Charlotte’s mom November 15, 2021

I adopted a cat one month ago, she was apparently living on a boat with her kittens (who were taken away) in a different country. She craves touch, is not afraid of my chihuahua, which she rubs herself over, but prefers to live under my couch. She will occasionally come out but will run back under the couch if there are sudden movements. She eats well, a slow eater but will come out and meow for food, she uses her litter box appropriately when necessary. I have a cat tree in front of a patio door that, to this day, she will not come out and use. It’s heartbreaking but I hope someday she trusts us enough to come out.

Rivi November 28, 2021

It sounds like you are doing everything right, all she needs now is time. I have one cat who was adopted feral and another who was most likely abused by her former humans and one thing I know for certain is they need a stable environment and time. Neither of my cats are "lap cats", the feral one will come out around strangers (especially if she hears the crinkle of a treat bag) the probably abused one rarely if ever will come out in these circumstances at all (especially if the stranger is a man). However it has taken years to get to this point. When I first adopted the feral cat any visual or verbal contact led to her hissing and crawling under the couch. Five years later she will sit on the top of the couch while we watch tv. With her the key was essentially ignoring her presence as much as possible while also providing ample food and water. Eventually she started coming to us and now loudly requests food when she wants it. She also comes to us for pats and is an excellent mouser. Meanwhile the probably abused cat after three years is still very wary of people, including us. My point is you can't force a bond or love and affection, all you can do is give her a warm, comforting environment, space, and time. With all these things you can give her, plus a little luck, she will come to you. And when that happens it will be the biggest reward you can ever achieve. Know that just by having her in your home you have saved a life and that is its own reward. Continue to give her all the food, water, and attention she wants and when she wants space give her that too. It may take months, it may take years, but in the long run it will work out.

Nina August 29, 2021

It was starting to get cold and I’d put out a couple of heated kitty shelters in my front porch along with food and water. On a whim, I put this old teepee that was used by our cat who had just passed away a few months prior. Shortly after, this tiny creature crawled into it. She took a few treats but was so weak. She had a horrible wound on her head behind her ear and was barely 3 pounds, skin and bones. I just brought in the entire tepee into a spare room and gave her food, water, blankets. She was so scared! So I just spoke softly and let her be. Took her to the vet the next day and he says she probably wouldn’t have survived the night out in the cold. He did surgery on her abscess, dewormed her, and administered fluids. She ended up needing a second surgery when the abscess returned. She retreated under an old comforter on the floor in the spare room. After a couple of months of me laying on the floor for hours at a time, taking to her softly, reaching in to pet her, giving her lots of treats, one day she crawled out and climbed on top of me. It got better from there pretty quickly. Now she’s my constant companion, the most cuddly of my 5 rescues. She’s almost 10 pounds, very healthy, and sweet. Still scared of strangers and definitely doesn’t like to share me with the other cats. I’m her “person,” for sure. Can’t imagine life without her now.

Dani December 15, 2020

Miss Calliope is approximately 8 months old. Shes been here just under 4. She came from an abuser. Before the end of August, her left eye was removed. Her eye pressure was insanely high and it ruptured. She was not even 3 pounds but it needed out. She made it through surgery. Finally was able to get a good video of her violent 'kicking fits'. Diagnosed with focal seizures. Keppra and Gabapentin. She got weaned off and that is when noticable peeing started with them. She saw a neurologist this past Thursday. Her MRI was clean and so was her spinal tap. She has brain damage :( Her Keppra was doubled and now we are back to relearning how to jump. Was told if she seizes more than once in 8 weeks to call asap for an emergency appt. She seizes at least once a day. Increase of Keppra will be be done along with phenobarbital for an emergency appt. I do not feel the pheno is safe as it does affect organs and shes already been drugged so much. Didnt get the spinal results until today and am still in shock. I already knew she was but it being confirmed just sucked. She is the sweetest little girl in the world. With covid, I just had to hand her over to them. Picked her up the next morning and she was stoned from the keppra. 2 hours driving home and she just rubbed her head on the zippered part of her carrier purring. I know, not supposed to but I unzipped enough to get my fingers in and petted her the whole way home. When I got home, I realized I could have unzipped more cuz she couldn't even stand. She tries so hard with my other cats but only 2 get her and one has vision problems so he only gets her half the time. Santa Paws has added more Calliope head proof bashing gear to his list and more pee pads .... I prefer special needs cats but have never had one this special. Worst thing? Abused by a family member NOT in my household. With the drugs she pees a little while seizing. Without the drugs, she is a waterfall. Curious since her MRI and spinal were clean and she is diagnosed with brain damage, could she be having nightmares? Seizures should have shown an abnormality in the MRI or no?

SpaceMonkeyMafia November 6, 2021

**DISCLAIMER** This comment includes some content that some may consider disturbing, such as domestic violence and the lifelong issues resulting from it. Also I have done enormous amounts of research, and have years of personal experience and medical advice on Brain Trauma & seizures however I AM NOT A VETERINARIAN, and am NOT qualified to give, nor is anything I say intended to be a substitute for a QUALIFIED VETERINARY OPINION. Hey Dani, First off let me explain why I felt so compelled to respond to you. My life & experiences put me in a very unique position to understand what you are dealing with. First off I was married (very young) to a wonderful man who turned horribly abusive about 2 years into the marriage. This led to me suffering a severe traumatic experience (I was thrown from a moving vehicle traveling 45mph onto asphalt). This resulted in me being in a coma for 23 days, required 16 surgeries and numerous major injuries, broken bones, and most importantly a severe skull fracture with bleeding & pressure on my brain resulting in a serious TBI (Traumatic Brain Injury). Several years later this TBI caused me to develop severe epilepsy, and I have had most all types of seizures. So I can give you a very personal unique view of what your fur baby goes through with his seizures and my opinion on what may be good ways to handle your concerns and uncertainties. I ALSO very recently went to adopt a new cat ( I had to euthanize my prior baby due to an untreatable and terminal condition about a year prior). At the shelter I noticed a very sweet loving cat called “shakey” whose tag said he had been there for 6.5 months (very UNCOMMON for my cities shelter). When I asked my shelter volunteer for info about “shakey”, I was told that I “didn’t want him, they had so many other NORMAL cats that had nothing wrong with them.”. Because “shakey” had a brain injury and suffered from neurological issues and seizures (thus, the TACKY & OFFENSIVE name…Shakey!) >:( So I not only have the same issues as your kitty but I own and care for one like him as well. First off It IS Absolutely Possible for a spinal tap & an MRI to fail to show any anomalies -due to seizures-. A Seizure is basically a sudden, uncontrolled burst and/or disturbance of the brains electrical activity. Therefore if a seizure is not currently occurring (and you could not take an MRI during seizure activity due to the movement), then you could only pick up the regular everyday brain waves. The only scan to my knowledge which can actually show a seizure is an EEG, and in many cases it MAY also require that the scan be taken while a seizure was occurring. MRI & Spinal Taps are taken in seizure patients to check for injuries, tumors, physical defects, or disease that could cause/worsen the seizures and occasionally abnormalities that do show on these tests can tell about the likely types/causes/and location(s) of the brain affected by the seizures. With focal seizures your cat may or may not be aware during the seizure, and they may or may not have motor involvement (loss of muscle control/jerking/spasms). I’ve had both with my focal type seizures. My tonic-clonic (commonly called gran-mal) seizures are always accompanied by total memory loss and muscle convulsions. Though the loss of bladder control is a BIG clue that your kitty has muscle involvement, and loss of bladder control is completely normal, neither Romeo (my cat) nor myself routinely experience it, but many do! If your cat retains his memory during his focal seizures he probably feels very scared (for no clear reason), altered consciousness, panicky feeling, vertigo/dizziness, floaty or heavy sensation, visual hallucinations/impairment and many other symptoms. And coming out from the seizure if he loses his memory during (called the post-ictal phase) He will be EXTREMELY DISORIENTED & confused. That state can result in agitation, drowsiness, increases in heart rate and blood pressure, headache, poor coordination, nausea, anxiety and in many cases extreme drowsiness/A Need to Sleep. What you want more than anything post-seizure is a few minutes without being bothered a lot (as you feel overwhelmed very easily and need a moment to understand what happened). Try to give your kitty some space and be quiet or speak in a soft voice. Handle him delicately as he seems ready, and as long as he wants interaction just try to comfort him gently. As far as Meds go it’s a unique situation that varies from one case to the next. You’ll need to weigh a lot of things like, does he have more/worse seizures (besides the peeing) without meds? Are the benefits of the meds worth any side effects they cause? If you don’t like the pheno, is the Dr. able to recommend an alternate medication regimen you like better? If your cat has Auras-warning signs pre-seizure (that you are able to notice, since they obviously can’t speak) is the Dr. willing to give you something like Ativan which is a rescue med that quickly stops/prevents seizures for the current time. And Ativan is (used correctly) is fairly safe with little to no permanent damage. But this only works if your cat has a visible Aura (for example, Romeo walks sideways and his eyes begin darting side to side extremely fast). Seizures in and of themselves are USUALLY not damaging or Fatal, but if your epilepsy is severe like mine you can suffer life threatening seizures or status epilepticus. I have died twice during seizures. So another good consideration when it comes to meds is how serious are your cats seizures? How often do they occur medicated vs. Un-medicated (or on meds you prefer to the stronger ones)? How much do the meds and their effects vs. the seizures effect your cats quality of life? Are you there most of the time to care for your kitty during his seizures (Get him clear of dangerous obstacles/Position him to aid in his breathing/don’t hold him down, but get him on something soft or cushioned/time his seizures and seek help if they go on too long)? So as difficult as this condition is to deal with, don’t give up on him. You will get to a point where care for him is second nature. My family and friends struggled with many aspects of my neurological issues in the beginning but now, they’re practically pros at it, and they don’t even think much about it until they need to act. Hope I helped, if you have any other questions feel free to write back/respond.

Sarah November 7, 2020

I have a question..bought a kitten from a lady that found her in a shed with filled rainwater holes. She is about 5 months old. Black....very mean....although we have a dog she loves and kids she doesn't care about.. loves my husband and bites the rest of us roughly. What do I do to help become more kind to my family? Sge is a bully .

MarkMDP November 11, 2020

Hello! You are welcome to join the forums (it's free!). The Cat Behavior forum is a good place to start a thread. Here's the link: https://thecatsite.com/forums/cat-behavior.5/ Please note that no online advice beats professional diagnosis.

Douglas’ Dad October 6, 2020

Such a great article. You guts know cats so well. Safety first, food later. So true. And food must be unconditional.

Katrina September 20, 2020

We rescued an abandoned, starving cat two weeks ago, and are learning as we go. First, we created a safe environment in our garage (removed cars to driveway). My husband keeps the garage very clean, so we set up two bed spaces, food, water and litter. We did not approach Poppy (Mary Poppins!), but spoke softly and at her level and always put my hand out for her to sniff if she wanted. We did bathe her because the fleas were chewing her up! Poor thing! Then added flea treatment, and followed with veterinarian appointment next day for complete checkup, shots, deworming and discussion of her condition. The doctor offered some more tips, most helfpul. Within two days, she not only allowed us to scratch her neck and pet her, she came to us for love and attention! She was starved physically and emotionally when we brought her home, but she clearly wants human interaction and love. We do not know if she is spayed, but are scheduled to see the doctor again and be sure she is spayed. Most importantly, we talk softly, nicely to Poppy all the time. I noticed she looked fearful of all sounds, washing machine, dryer, water running in the kitchen sink. So I talk to her as I did to my children when they were babies. Walk around the house, tending to the daily chores and cleanup and maintenance, and describe everything I am doing. Only difference is I used to carry my babies around in my arms as I talked, but with Poppy, I let her follow me is she so chooses. Poppy has been in the house now for four days, and she is loving her new home. She was reluctant to come in from the garage at first, but eventually I picked her up gently and hugged her and carried her in and talked to her. Then I let her explore. For whatever reason she went downstairs to our basement and seemed contented. Half is a finished second master suite not in use, so she enjoyed the exploring. The other "unfinished" half is nicely painted for the laundry area, storage shelves and additional pantry for nonperishables. Again, she like exploring. We moved her food, etc. into downstairs. She is happy, but not inclined to come upstairs. Yesterday I encouraged her to follow me up the steps, which she did. She finally explored the main part of the house, but it may be have too much, too soon. She is very vocal, meows quite a bit in a talking way. She enjoys talking with us! But I think encouraging her to come up the stairs to the main floor was too soon, because she pooped in a closet that was open! I did not realize this right away, but I think she may need more time in one space at a time, to become comfortable and familiar with her surroundings. Of course, I wasn't upset with her, but upset with myself for missing her cues with her meowing. We decided to let her come up when she wants and adapt more slowly. Today, we again left the door from downstairs to upstairs open, and we go down to see her and talk with her and pet her and just spend time with her. But when she decides to lay on the rug in front of the washing machine, we respect her quiet time and come back upstairs. When she is ready to "claim" the rest of the house as her home, too, she will do so at her own pace, one room at a time. Poppy is such a sweet little kitty. The veterinarian thought she was three years old. We were stunned because she is petite, and we thought she might be eight months old! It was heartbreaking to know somebody had neglected and abandoned her. But I am grateful that she is recovering every day and trusting us more each day. The grandchildren have come to meet her, and they absolutely fell in love with her. She loved the extra attention, too!

tarasgirl06 September 6, 2020

I just wanted to add one (discouraging, unfortunately) point to this excellent article. While of course the authorities should be informed in the case of anyone being abused, reality is that not every community has recourse to that. Sometimes, I must disagree, the cat MUST be seized, just as kids are seized in abusive situations, for the survival of that cat (or kid/s). Each situation is unique. There are a lot of communities in the US and all over the world that do not have good laws/laws that are enforced/caring law enforcement personnel/rescues and sanctuaries/or even ACCs, Humane Societies or "shelters." Always and ever, the top priority MUST be the life and wellbeing of the cat. It's like rescuing someone locked in a car with the windows up. Some communities now have laws giving people the right to break those windows to save the lives of those inside. ALL communities should have these laws, prioritizing living beings above material things. Sadly, though, not all communities DO prioritize life above materialism.

SweetiePie1 September 21, 2020

Very sad and thoughtful response.

Darlene18 September 6, 2020

Just give it time. I adopted a cat I was her 3rd owner I don't know what she has been through her name was Nicki she was about 6 yr old when she came too my house and I had 4 other cats but she really didn't come out of it she would hide in the closet and that is where I fed her and petted her and gave her the love from there she was a good baby she passed at 15 yrs old. Nobody knew I had 5 cats they nevered saw her. Cats don't forget what happen in their lives. I felt bad for her I accepted her that way. She had a mom who loved her unconditionally. That is how we left it.

Liz Patterson December 31, 2019

I just rescued a mom kitty was tortured guy cut her toes off he got misdemeanor she hid shelter under blankets for 6 months then a baby kitty came in they bonded. I got them both dec 21 in my bedroom w food and water litter box blankets toys catnip . They come out at night but still no interaction w me but stare at me . I put soft music on open blinds so can see birds ? Any suggestions! Hadn’t had cats in 10 years! Cuz mastiff was afraid of them ! He passed! House is quite just me ! I work from home ! They were talk of shelter when I got them they had one day left! Beautiful cats! don’t blame them for fear . But I want them to interact w me ! I’m lonely too my beloved husband died and my mastiff both cancer my heart broke . I want fur friends

Anne January 4, 2020

Hi Liz, Thank you for rescuing the poor cat. You can find more help in our forums, where members will be able to help with advice and support. You need to register first (it's free!) but once you do, post your question in the cat rescue forum here.

Furballsmom September 12, 2019

Pawzi said:
I need help. Please I own two cats, they were the only things i made it out of my abusive marriage with. As a woman who cant have kids, they are my babies. My boy friend and i have been having issues because of their behaviour issues that resulted from my ex husbands abuse. One is so terrified of people that she is aggressive to the extent of attacking people for being near her or they are sitting where she wants to be. My boy friends kids are terrified of her and if i cant get her to stop attacking them i will have to put her down as no one will take a aggressive cat. The other is a bengal and is skiddish and has a tendency to pee on one spot on the couch, our dogs bed, my spot on the bed and my boy friends clothes. If i cant get her to stop i will have to rehome her or send her to a bengal rescue. This behaviour from both didnt start till my ex husband started to abuse them. Please any suggestions or ideas will help.

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tarasgirl06 September 11, 2019

Sorry to be blunt, but cats are living beings, sentient, intelligent mammals like we are. NO WAY should a cat lose his/her life over an issue like this. Personally, my cats are family and anyone who wants to be with me has to love cats -- not just my cats, but cats in general. Anyone who doesn't would not be welcome in my life.

Lou Rita Butler November 22, 2020

My Ziggy is my baby. I've had cats my whole life. When it looks like a relationship is going to be serious, my partner is told that my kitty and I are a package deal. When you adopted them you promised them a forever home. Men come and go but your fur babies will always be there. It.sounds to me that you're more concerned about how your boyfriend feels than what those poor cats are going through. Maybe you should consider putting your boyfriend up for adoption.

Sarah July 30, 2021

So you took your cats but bow you've found a new man you want rid of your cats, the same cats that have helped you throughout leaving an abusive husband amd the thanks you give them now is - screw you, found someone else he doesn't like you both, so it's 1 put down and put 1 to a shelter. You really should not have cats, maybe you should have given them both 2 a shelter when you first left you abusive husband not kept them and waited until your new man says get rid. Sorry but I'd get rid of him and his brats and find someone that's abit more sensitive to what you and your cats have been through...

Mel March 18, 2024

I don’t know why so many people pick men over children and pets that are more loyal, and are supposed to be protected by them.

Pawzi September 11, 2019

I need help. Please I own two cats, they were the only things i made it out of my abusive marriage with. As a woman who cant have kids, they are my babies. My boy friend and i have been having issues because of their behaviour issues that resulted from my ex husbands abuse. One is so terrified of people that she is aggressive to the extent of attacking people for being near her or they are sitting where she wants to be. My boy friends kids are terrified of her and if i cant get her to stop attacking them i will have to put her down as no one will take a aggressive cat. The other is a bengal and is skiddish and has a tendency to pee on one spot on the couch, our dogs bed, my spot on the bed and my boy friends clothes. If i cant get her to stop i will have to rehome her or send her to a bengal rescue. This behaviour from both didnt start till my ex husband started to abuse them. Please any suggestions or ideas will help.

tarasgirl06 February 16, 2019

di and bob said:
All these poor, abused little ones need is for someone to truly care for and love them. My heart bleeds each and every time I see a neglected, hungry cat looking for someone to care. Each and every one of them needs a home and love, and the only way that is possible is for there to be no more unwanted and uncared for litters to be born. Just like human babies, each one coming into this world should be looked forward to with joy and the ability to properly care for them, monetarily, physically, and emotionally. PLEASE, spay and neuter to prevent any more tragedies and heartache. It costs much to do this, but saves infinitely more in the long run!

I couldn't say it any better, @di and bob. Agree 100% and devote my life to advocating for cats with that message.

di and bob February 16, 2019

All these poor, abused little ones need is for someone to truly care for and love them. My heart bleeds each and every time I see a neglected, hungry cat looking for someone to care. Each and every one of them needs a home and love, and the only way that is possible is for there to be no more unwanted and uncared for litters to be born. Just like human babies, each one coming into this world should be looked forward to with joy and the ability to properly care for them, monetarily, physically, and emotionally. PLEASE, spay and neuter to prevent any more tragedies and heartache. It costs much to do this, but saves infinitely more in the long run!

Stevil342018 May 26, 2018

I just adapted an abused cat horribly neglected i have had him almost a week and he is starting to trust me he comes out from under his safe place when he hears my voice his name is chunk he loves to give hugs hes a sweet cat he is 12 . I have another cat her name is Sassy she was 9 years old so far they stay out of each other's way but it's going really good I want to give chunk and Sassy the best days of their life

mocha bee November 20, 2017

Thanks for the advice, our cat was in 2 shelters and then in a Petco when we adopted her. She was 4 years old then. She would hide under the bed or other places. When we first brought her home we put her in a bathroom with food, water litter ect. We went to check on her and she was nowhere to be found. we had a small vanity with drawers and we found her in a drawer, she had climbed up the drain pipe from the floor and into the back of the drawer. That was almost 3 years ago. Now she will come and sit next to me and sleep on our bed and bring us her toy mice but we can not pick her up . She still walks away fast, she use to run, when my husband comes in the room but that is progress. Maybe by next year she will be comfortable with him in the room.

maggie101 September 21, 2017

tarasgirl06 said:
I can't thank you enough for this article, which is invaluable in its suggestions of how to help abused cats. Just as with traumatized, abused people, unconditional loyalty and love, as well as good care, are key. TRUST is something earned, and once it is broken, it takes a lot to get it back.

This morning my old cat Josiel licked her for 5 minutes! Maybe she will have the courage to leave my bedroom if this keeps up. Josie used to hiss at her but has gotten much nicer in her old age. I have had CoCo for a year. CoCo will still not stand up to my other 2 cats

Lylith Raven September 21, 2017

Good article. I was curious to read it because my cat is afraid of everyone except for myself and my boyfriend. He will literally hide for hours until a guest we have over leaves the house. He's super close to me though..thankfully.

maggie101 September 15, 2017

maggie101 said:
What about mental abuse?

Yes, you described it perfectly. I believe my cat CoCo was mentally abused for numerous reasons. She hides but wants people to give her lots of tlc then she will give it back

mazie September 15, 2017

You know, "mental abuse or emotional trauma" affliction is a good question. It's easy to fix the physical, we can see what the problem is, but emotional abuse is a bird of a different feather. My guess would be lots and lots of love and gentleness, with the idea of restoring trust in humans. That would be my take on that topic.

tarasgirl06 September 14, 2017

I can't thank you enough for this article, which is invaluable in its suggestions of how to help abused cats. Just as with traumatized, abused people, unconditional loyalty and love, as well as good care, are key. TRUST is something earned, and once it is broken, it takes a lot to get it back.

maggie101 September 4, 2017

What about mental abuse?

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