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My partner and I recently adopted an approximately 5 year old cat from the local shelter in August. Unfortunately...we don't know much about her such as the type of cat she is, where she came from, etc. The shelter even initially made a mistake and told me that she was fixed, and she wasn't so we had to go through a period of her in heat. She seems more aggressive now that we've got her fixed than before.
Basically...my cat only likes me. My partner works out of town for 3 weeks at a time and returns for 1 week, so understandably it's confusing for her and makes it hard to bond. However it's become a bit of an issue...she hisses, growls and scratches him at times and other times is calm and dandy. She never scratches me intentionally and only sometimes will hiss at me if I'm trying to grab her off the kitchen counter but otherwise she's very loving and gentle with me. A few weeks ago I had to go out of town and my landlords took care of the cat for a few days and I guess they had a really bad experience with her as well...they described her as "grumpy" and "not very friendly".
My partner and I would really like to be able to have the cat bond with the 2 of us and not just me. It is our cat after all, but as it stands at the moment she's more my cat. We also would like to adopt another cat in the future, but we're worried if she doesn't deal with other humans other than me...how will she deal with another cat?
Any suggestions as to what to do? I know people suggest Feliway but I'm not sure if that would be useful as for the most part....she's pretty chill and gentle and it's only really when there are other people around she gets a little aggressive and territorial.
Basically...my cat only likes me. My partner works out of town for 3 weeks at a time and returns for 1 week, so understandably it's confusing for her and makes it hard to bond. However it's become a bit of an issue...she hisses, growls and scratches him at times and other times is calm and dandy. She never scratches me intentionally and only sometimes will hiss at me if I'm trying to grab her off the kitchen counter but otherwise she's very loving and gentle with me. A few weeks ago I had to go out of town and my landlords took care of the cat for a few days and I guess they had a really bad experience with her as well...they described her as "grumpy" and "not very friendly".
My partner and I would really like to be able to have the cat bond with the 2 of us and not just me. It is our cat after all, but as it stands at the moment she's more my cat. We also would like to adopt another cat in the future, but we're worried if she doesn't deal with other humans other than me...how will she deal with another cat?
Any suggestions as to what to do? I know people suggest Feliway but I'm not sure if that would be useful as for the most part....she's pretty chill and gentle and it's only really when there are other people around she gets a little aggressive and territorial.