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Coffee's ears go back when Pika gets too close also, which I think means SHE isn't playing?
Hi. Just sharing I’m having the same problem as you are now except mine is over a month now. I totally feel you on this. It is stressful and also sad for the less dominant cat to always be locked up in the safe room. Mine were not newly introduced but have been living together for 6 years until a stray cat entered my house in March. That’s when everything went downhill. Meffy suddenly doesn’t recognize her buddy Meimey, attacks her and they get into an ugly cat brawl. I have separated them since then and thing don’t seem to get any better.
Just when I think Meffy has calmed down and ready to move to the next step, she would attack Meimey and we’re back one step again.
From this limited info, I'd guess Meffy has felt very territorially challenged since the stray came inside. And that instinct is overriding everything else. Are you site and scent swapping? Or is Meffy always in her safe room? How are feeding exercises going?Hi. Just sharing I’m having the same problem as you are now except mine is over a month now. I totally feel you on this. It is stressful and also sad for the less dominant cat to always be locked up in the safe room. Mine were not newly introduced but have been living together for 6 years until a stray cat entered my house in March. That’s when everything went downhill. Meffy suddenly doesn’t recognize her buddy Meimey, attacks her and they get into an ugly cat brawl. I have separated them since then and thing don’t seem to get any better.
Just when I think Meffy has calmed down and ready to move to the next step, she would attack Meimey and we’re back one step again.
Is that Poki in your picture? Coffee is a kind of a tortoiseshell too is why I ask (ticked torbie to be exact). Pika is a gray/white tuxedo! That's good to hear that your kitties are doing better. At week 2, Coffee was still growling and hissing at me (despite being so loving normally) and she had only seen Pika's face once or twice XD. I'm hoping that it's just taking longer because Coffee has NEVER been around another cat since she was 8 weeks old and is confused. She is SOOOO much better now though. She even seems to have become more playful with people and is less shy around guests.This is super weird but I have an older female cat named Poki and just adopted a younger male cat named Chai..... the reversed name sort of similarity is funny but the situation is the same. Poki doesn't really know how to play with another cat, and Chai is an energetic boy who was well socialized with other cats. I let them sniff through the door day 2 and he was super chill but she was very hiss hiss. However he would not look at her and walk slowly past her when she would growl or hiss. Now he knows she is just all bluster and telling him what to do so he doesn't mind trying to play with her more and she is making signs of wanting to play, like looking after him with ears perked, cleaning in front of him, rolling around, eating near each other, etc. She still growls and perches looking at him like a gargoyle but they get along and I have only had Chai for 2 weeks.
Now.... I am not sure how I have done this. Poki was adopted last October and it took about 4 months for her and my previous cat who was not interested in her to learn to coexist by having separate sleep areas and general avoidance. My cat Aerowyn had cancer and had to be put to sleep last month, so I adopted Chai a bit quickly. Poki had difficulties more towards me than other cats when I got her, being fearful and afraid of being hurt therefore lashing out with aggression, so she does sort of the same with Chai but without the biting because he listens to her mostly but he really loves to follow her, wants to play with her, even tried to get in the cat bed with her the other day, though usually he lays down right beside it. (She smacked him like 'what the heck you are so rude get out')
I keep an eye out but maybe it has a bit to do with me? I make sure they have their own areas and play time together and alone, and I just stay super chill, which I know is hard to do. Like if a dog ran up to me barking I can just turn on my 'I am ignoring you and am very chill' personality but that is developed from years of social and crowd anxiety so the animal has little to know energy to feed off of. This has taken at least 2 decades and therapy to develop, lol.
I'm not sure if anything in this post is actually helpful to you, my tablet battery is dying and I wanted to reply quickly so it might be a bit incoherent