Me and my fiance have been together 9 years and about 1 year after we started dating i found out my first medical problem.
I am 30 years old and have
-Scoliosis
-Degenerative disc disease
-4 fused lumbar discs
-Tethered cord syndrome(very closely related to spina bifida)
-Bladder spasms
I have had back surgery and worked very minimally because of medical problems(no financial help on my part) and well on my way to worse to come at an early age.
I am on 8 different antibiotics to control bladder function and pain.
My fiance does not talk much about my problems as much as i want him too.....He has been very great and supportive and so has his family(his mom pays my portion of bills when i or him can't).
Has anyone else been through life altering medical problems with their SO?I want to know what he is feeling but he just does not tell me.
How do i go about asking cause i figure i am asking wrong or maybe he does not wanna burden me knowing what i go through(I am very relaxed about everything and know the possible future outcomes and accept i may be in a wheelchair at 35 or incontinent by 35)
On top of everything i get very little family support emotionally,My brothers and i are very close but that's it.
Or if you have been through this whether you were the one with problems or the one on the other end was it discussed easily? and what were your stresses?
As i said i have accepted my medical issues i am just not sure he has because he wont open up.
I am 30 years old and have
-Scoliosis
-Degenerative disc disease
-4 fused lumbar discs
-Tethered cord syndrome(very closely related to spina bifida)
-Bladder spasms
I have had back surgery and worked very minimally because of medical problems(no financial help on my part) and well on my way to worse to come at an early age.
I am on 8 different antibiotics to control bladder function and pain.
My fiance does not talk much about my problems as much as i want him too.....He has been very great and supportive and so has his family(his mom pays my portion of bills when i or him can't).
Has anyone else been through life altering medical problems with their SO?I want to know what he is feeling but he just does not tell me.
How do i go about asking cause i figure i am asking wrong or maybe he does not wanna burden me knowing what i go through(I am very relaxed about everything and know the possible future outcomes and accept i may be in a wheelchair at 35 or incontinent by 35)
On top of everything i get very little family support emotionally,My brothers and i are very close but that's it.
Or if you have been through this whether you were the one with problems or the one on the other end was it discussed easily? and what were your stresses?
As i said i have accepted my medical issues i am just not sure he has because he wont open up.