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@sherit @Kyashasu thank you for the input. Sherit I can not see the photos.
I do have a cat tree. He actually has one downstairs and a litter pan downstairs as well. Personally I don't want him getting used to another human that wants him to cozy up to them all the time and takes to the manner of saying "my boy, my kaleb" AND HE WARMS UP TO IT LIKE HE BELONGS TO HER. She does have a hard time stopping him from running out the door. Plus this is not a permanent situation and I don't like that he thinks he belongs to her! I've tried to explain this that I do not want my cat going to anyone else for approval and such and that it is very confusing but it only causes arguments and that is not good for him . I do want him to free roam and I see a difference in his personality when he is allowed to, but I worry about the negative impact of him going to someone else who won't supervise properly and possibly might be too rough with him at the door when he runs out and also will get frustrated with him and/or ME . This is just too much. I figure if I am moving out in 8 months he will finally have free roam and my future husband understands he is more MY cat and he will come to ME to correct behavior and won't throw it in our faces that he can cozy up to his personal owner. To me that is like teasing him to say "Oh my little Kaleb , here I will pet you " or "Where is my Kaleb today " It's nice, but allow me room to please be the one that he greets. That is not happening it is like a challenge to get to my own cat! Of course, until he runs out the door the third time then I have to be the one to tell him he's done wrong. But right back to someone else to get scratches
yeah, ok.
The vertical space sounds good but I can't add shelves to my room because I'm leaving. I think this room is only 12 sq ft by 12 sq ft.
As far as allowing Kaleb out during certain times *only*, like when all is quiet or when my housemate is *gone* (though it's really HER house) I have considered it and tried it even but he does not like the door, tests the door, and I don't like having to force him back into my room all the time. To me its one way or the next. I don't think it's good to have to correct a behavior and I do believe distraction or changing things around (such as having it one way or another as to avoid telling "no" or bringing him back in constantly) is better.
Thank you
kskatt
! sorry it took so long to post back I did get a new job
I appreciate all the replies though! Really I do... I do want *a lot* of input back on this. For if I must, I will tolerate him being subject to thinking he's someone elses at times and also worrying that when I'm gone he will bolt. He's chipped and I got new glow in the dark tags for a collar with his name on them.
Also I've always heard that QUALITY OVER QUANTITY in the animal kingdom is a must. It's only 8 months but 8 months is almost a year and he's still *growing*. In my opinion I should let him free roam but I had a cat before that I basically surrendered over to my grandmother out of pure appreciation and kindness, which I will not do this time. I don't want him to feel punished in my room but when I'm not around I know the over attention happens and he thinks it's just *GREAT* which is ok but I really don't think it's 100 % healthy for him to think she's all about him when really she just needs something to pet and something to "come" when she says so and then at other times she'll say "Kaleb your a pain in the a$$" most of the time she's joking but it can get out of hand. Sure animals dont know whats being said but THEY READ YOUR ACTIONS AND BEHAVIORS and I think it was even confusing to our beloved cat that has already passed.
Sorry for the rant. I guess I said to much but this is just how she treats the cat haha
I'm going to reply to the rest later, I have laundry going and its darn near 3 pm and I haven't eaten lunch plus I'll need to feed my darling kitty soon
Thank you all again for thinking about this situation for me I appreciate it a whole bunch!!!!!
I do have a cat tree. He actually has one downstairs and a litter pan downstairs as well. Personally I don't want him getting used to another human that wants him to cozy up to them all the time and takes to the manner of saying "my boy, my kaleb" AND HE WARMS UP TO IT LIKE HE BELONGS TO HER. She does have a hard time stopping him from running out the door. Plus this is not a permanent situation and I don't like that he thinks he belongs to her! I've tried to explain this that I do not want my cat going to anyone else for approval and such and that it is very confusing but it only causes arguments and that is not good for him . I do want him to free roam and I see a difference in his personality when he is allowed to, but I worry about the negative impact of him going to someone else who won't supervise properly and possibly might be too rough with him at the door when he runs out and also will get frustrated with him and/or ME . This is just too much. I figure if I am moving out in 8 months he will finally have free roam and my future husband understands he is more MY cat and he will come to ME to correct behavior and won't throw it in our faces that he can cozy up to his personal owner. To me that is like teasing him to say "Oh my little Kaleb , here I will pet you " or "Where is my Kaleb today " It's nice, but allow me room to please be the one that he greets. That is not happening it is like a challenge to get to my own cat! Of course, until he runs out the door the third time then I have to be the one to tell him he's done wrong. But right back to someone else to get scratches
yeah, ok.The vertical space sounds good but I can't add shelves to my room because I'm leaving. I think this room is only 12 sq ft by 12 sq ft.
As far as allowing Kaleb out during certain times *only*, like when all is quiet or when my housemate is *gone* (though it's really HER house) I have considered it and tried it even but he does not like the door, tests the door, and I don't like having to force him back into my room all the time. To me its one way or the next. I don't think it's good to have to correct a behavior and I do believe distraction or changing things around (such as having it one way or another as to avoid telling "no" or bringing him back in constantly) is better.
Thank you
kskatt
! sorry it took so long to post back I did get a new job I appreciate all the replies though! Really I do... I do want *a lot* of input back on this. For if I must, I will tolerate him being subject to thinking he's someone elses at times and also worrying that when I'm gone he will bolt. He's chipped and I got new glow in the dark tags for a collar with his name on them. Also I've always heard that QUALITY OVER QUANTITY in the animal kingdom is a must. It's only 8 months but 8 months is almost a year and he's still *growing*. In my opinion I should let him free roam but I had a cat before that I basically surrendered over to my grandmother out of pure appreciation and kindness, which I will not do this time. I don't want him to feel punished in my room but when I'm not around I know the over attention happens and he thinks it's just *GREAT* which is ok but I really don't think it's 100 % healthy for him to think she's all about him when really she just needs something to pet and something to "come" when she says so and then at other times she'll say "Kaleb your a pain in the a$$" most of the time she's joking but it can get out of hand. Sure animals dont know whats being said but THEY READ YOUR ACTIONS AND BEHAVIORS and I think it was even confusing to our beloved cat that has already passed.
Sorry for the rant. I guess I said to much but this is just how she treats the cat haha
I'm going to reply to the rest later, I have laundry going and its darn near 3 pm and I haven't eaten lunch plus I'll need to feed my darling kitty soon
Thank you all again for thinking about this situation for me I appreciate it a whole bunch!!!!!
