Advice please . This involves my 13 year old cat Linden, male, neutered. A quick timeline: I’ve had Linden since he was 8 weeks old. He came into a household with two other cats. All 3 got along immediately. One cat passed away two years later after Linden arrived, the second one passed away in May 2021. Linden was very bonded with her. In 2011, I adopted a dog, which Linden was very nervous about. I was able to keep the dog downstairs and dog was kennelled at night. Linden was upstairs and had full freedom of house at night. The dog passed away January 2021. Linden hasn’t been overly territorial in his life. He was very respectful of the senior cat and dog’s area.
In July, I adopted Lucy, age 1, spayed. Followed the introduction process, kept separate, site swapped, feeding other side of door, eating in view of each other. I had to reset a few times to get to this stage. The two in one room is the challenge. Linden will hide under the bed or closet. If Lucy gets near, he hisses, growls or moans. Lucy just wants to be Linden’s friend. She’s very curious in him, and will lay on her side near him, not in a threatening way at all. She brings him toy balls. I try to wear her out before she can be in a room with Linden. Linden will not participate in play if she is around. I live alone so I don’t have support of another person on a regular basis to help with play. When I’ve blocked off under the bed and closed closet - Linden gets very agitated. So I opened the space under bed again. These were his safe spots he had when the dog was around. He’s hesitant to go down stairs as he’s nervous Lucy will be there. I’ve tried Feliway diffuser and calming collar. I also tried medication - Linden was a doped up angry cat, so I stopped with the meds.
The two cats are separate when I go to work. One day last week when I got home I let Lucy out of her room, and Linden raced up to her, had a nose to nose moment with no hissing, and then went upstairs to get fed (his normal spot). A few times he’s been able to rest in close proximity to her, albeit with some hissing and growls first. Thought we’re making progress.
However, these past few days he’s gone into full intolerance mode again. Linden also cornered her for the first time and lashed out at her. He’s under the bed, growling, hissing and moaning if she’s in the same room now.
At bedtime, Lucy sleeps in her own room, and Linden acts like his regular pre-Lucy self.
Do I need to reset again? What can I do to get Linden out from under the bed and be comfortable with Lucy in the house?
In July, I adopted Lucy, age 1, spayed. Followed the introduction process, kept separate, site swapped, feeding other side of door, eating in view of each other. I had to reset a few times to get to this stage. The two in one room is the challenge. Linden will hide under the bed or closet. If Lucy gets near, he hisses, growls or moans. Lucy just wants to be Linden’s friend. She’s very curious in him, and will lay on her side near him, not in a threatening way at all. She brings him toy balls. I try to wear her out before she can be in a room with Linden. Linden will not participate in play if she is around. I live alone so I don’t have support of another person on a regular basis to help with play. When I’ve blocked off under the bed and closed closet - Linden gets very agitated. So I opened the space under bed again. These were his safe spots he had when the dog was around. He’s hesitant to go down stairs as he’s nervous Lucy will be there. I’ve tried Feliway diffuser and calming collar. I also tried medication - Linden was a doped up angry cat, so I stopped with the meds.
The two cats are separate when I go to work. One day last week when I got home I let Lucy out of her room, and Linden raced up to her, had a nose to nose moment with no hissing, and then went upstairs to get fed (his normal spot). A few times he’s been able to rest in close proximity to her, albeit with some hissing and growls first. Thought we’re making progress.
However, these past few days he’s gone into full intolerance mode again. Linden also cornered her for the first time and lashed out at her. He’s under the bed, growling, hissing and moaning if she’s in the same room now.
At bedtime, Lucy sleeps in her own room, and Linden acts like his regular pre-Lucy self.
Do I need to reset again? What can I do to get Linden out from under the bed and be comfortable with Lucy in the house?
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